Deactivation - please help! :( - Page 5

Titchou · #61 06-18-2012, 12:12 PM

I wasn't aware AST did that! I know quite a few and don't recall their chapter here ever "electing" them. But they've been gone a while so maybe it's something new? I know the AOPi's at my campus have always elected therir advisers. Our main chapter adviser has to be appointed by the regional team and then she appoints the other advisers.

DrPhil · #62 06-18-2012, 12:36 PM

I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

wildcat601 · #63 06-18-2012, 01:55 PM

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I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

Please stop making assumptions - I have not changed my mind. However, I appreciate the users that have taken the time to provide me with their perspectives, which will help me make a more informed decision. Because my chapter doesn't have involved alumnae, and our advisors are not the most approachable women, I value the insight GC has given me. I wouldn't have gotten these viewpoints otherwise.

It seems like most of the points have been addressed, so again I thank all of you that helped me think through this issue! I appreciate that you took the time to help a stranger; your responses have been really useful and they mean a lot.

DrPhil · #64 06-18-2012, 02:07 PM

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Please stop making assumptions - I have not changed my mind.

How unfortunate for you that you saw that as a slight.

Oh well, you are the one with the problem. GCers are way too generous.

agzg · #65 06-18-2012, 02:12 PM

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I guess the OP changed her mind. What would she have done without Greekchat?

I dunno - while I kindof side-eyed at the level of dirty laundry that was aired here, she could have done a lot worse than she did on that, and since "nationals" and "advisers" were part of the problem, it may be helpful to get some anonymous advice from a group of people who have been or are still in some type of advisory role for their organization.

It'd be ideal if all inquiries were like this, minus the drama mama and hand-wringing (sorry, OP, but it does come off as dramatic when it really shouldn't be). Then we could get out of heli-mom and "why should they be allowed to vote on me" territory and spend more time talking about our favorite ice cream or Centaur's creepy obsession with how often other men pleasure themselves.

wildcat601 · #66 06-18-2012, 02:18 PM

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It'd be ideal if all inquiries were like this, minus the drama mama and hand-wringing (sorry, OP, but it does come off as dramatic when it really shouldn't be).

No problem. I didn't realize I came off this way and should have taken a break in between proofreading to check my tone. Some of the criticism was a little harsh but it is something I should learn from.

agzg · #67 06-18-2012, 04:28 PM

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No problem. I didn't realize I came off this way and should have taken a break in between proofreading to check my tone. Some of the criticism was a little harsh but it is something I should learn from.

It's cool - on a drama scale you're about a 6 of 10, a little higher in your first post, and lower now. I was a collegiate once, too, everything was waaaaaay dramatic. You've taken criticism pretty well, though, instead of escalating. Usually the dramatic first posts escalate to about a 425 out of 10 on the drama scale.

SoCalGirl · #68 06-18-2012, 10:43 PM

Random thought on the slogans. When I was an advisor another one of our chapters had created a cute shirt with a milkshake design and "bring all the boys to the yard" slogan. The advisor that was in charge of approving designs thought "how adorable". The rest of us laughed at how someone involved with college students could be so out of touch to not catch the reference. Chapter got the shirt and lots of positive compliments.

notfeelingit · #69 03-24-2015, 02:33 PM

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Guess What? That's easier said than done. While, yes, it's possible to remain friends with some girls once you "quit," (regardless of any lame excuses) some members may take it as a slap in the face and you may end up with a situation where you DO lose those connections. I cannot think of a single former member of my chapter that I'm still in touch with today. Maybe that's just me, maybe I'm a witch like that, but my viewpoint on it is that if she flaked out and left us high and dry then obviously she didn't value my friendship that much, so I wasn't really going to put that much effort into trying to maintain it. I essentially viewed it as her "breaking up" with us. Again, maybe I'm an oddity around here, but I know I wasn't the only one in my chapter who felt that way.

If those are the kind of people that are in a sorority, who will drop you once you drop the house, they obviously weren't real friends anyway, and honestly that is promoting the "you pay for your friends." And you were really the one who didn't value her friendship if she dropped for reasons that were important to her and you couldn't respect that.

thetalady · #70 03-24-2015, 03:58 PM

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If those are the kind of people that are in a sorority, who will drop you once you drop the house, they obviously weren't real friends anyway, and honestly that is promoting the "you pay for your friends." And you were really the one who didn't value her friendship if she dropped for reasons that were important to her and you couldn't respect that.

This happened 3 years ago. I bet she has moved on.