Random Wedding Thread - Page 114

AGDee · #**1696** 08-17-2012, 09:11 PM

Mine was $20,000 in 1989. But that said the average guest list is 153. I had 350.

My second one was $5000 in 1993 with 105 guests (only 12 of which were mine).

I had a LOT more fun at the second one because it was so laid back and casual in comparison so I didn't worry about all the little details.

KSUViolet06 · #**1697** 08-18-2012, 04:17 PM

There's a level of asceticism with brides that I've noticed that kind of bothers me.

A bride who may be on a lower budget will look at a higher budget bride and be all "OMG how WASTEFUL! I could NEVER spend that much on a wedding."

Like, wtf? Everyone has their own personal idea of what is affordable for them.

It has also been my experience (doing planning assistant stuff with a company) that the LOWER the budget, the more annoying and demanding the client will be. There's almost a set number that when I see it, I just know that this person is going to be ridiculous and I have never been wrong.

It's interesting because it's always perpetuated that big budget = big bitchy entitled bride, and that's so not true.

lovespink88 · #**1698** 08-18-2012, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

A bride who may be on a lower budget will look at a higher budget bride and be all "OMG how WASTEFUL! I could NEVER spend that much on a wedding."

Like, wtf? Everyone has their own personal idea of what is affordable for them

I hate this too! If a bride wants to spend $80,000 on a wedding, that's her own business.

What bugs me about this is that in my personal experience, I have found that brides who voice their opinion about "wasteful" expensive weddings suffer from a bit of budget envy (their other words and actions caused me to come to those conclusions). I've known other brides who have had small budgets who didn't feel the need to tear down brides with big budgets. Similarly, what if a bride with a big budget said "OMG I could never have a wedding with that small of a budget"? She would sound like a huge, stuck bitch. So I'm not sure why brides think it's okay to do the same just because they are in the opposite position. It's just rude.

Munchkin03 · #**1699** 08-20-2012, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It has also been my experience (doing planning assistant stuff with a company) that the LOWER the budget, the more annoying and demanding the client will be. There's almost a set number that when I see it, I just know that this person is going to be ridiculous and I have never been wrong.

It's interesting because it's always perpetuated that big budget = big bitchy entitled bride, and that's so not true.

That's been my experience with work too and not just weddings...my clients who are Masters of the Universe trust us as professionals and won't butt in unless they're really concerned about a specific item (usually finishing the project by a specific deadline). It's the people with smaller budgets who micromanage and try to squeeze additional services out of us. I guess it's the same with weddings--they can't afford to be laid-back? But please, let the professionals do their work!

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Originally Posted by lovespink88

What bugs me about this is that in my personal experience, I have found that brides who voice their opinion about "wasteful" expensive weddings suffer from a bit of budget envy (their other words and actions caused me to come to those conclusions).

I feel that weddings, like luxury cars and college educations, are one aspect of life where people feel completely entitled to publicly hate on someone who's spending more than you are. I suspect that the people who complain the most are the people who would secretly LOVE the $80K wedding.

My wedding random? I'm so glad my friends are low-maintenance; if THEY want to spend a lot of money on their weddings, great! Most of my friends have had reasonable travel requirements and haven't had a zillion bachelorette parties or showers. When I was a groomsmaid, they were so chillaxed. I love my friends.

WCsweet<3 · #**1700** 09-02-2012, 10:13 PM

I'm a bridesmaid in a my high school best friend's wedding next month. I'm pretty sure her family is going to be the end to everyone. Her two sisters cannot agree on anything to the point where one sibling will change her opinion if the other sister has the same opinion. We had to get new dresses today (thanks to a sister growing out of hers and the groomsmen's outfits changing) and it was the longest three hours of my life. I'm pretty sure it was something out of SYTTD: Bridesmaids.
I feel like if you are a bridesmaid one of your duties (basically) is to shut up and do what the bride wants unless it breaks your moral code or if she asks for your opinion. Put on the dress and shut up.
Is this an insane idea?

lovespink88 · #**1701** 09-03-2012, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

I feel like if you are a bridesmaid one of your duties (basically) is to shut up and do what the bride wants unless it breaks your moral code or if she asks for your opinion. Put on the dress and shut up.
Is this an insane idea?

I agree with you. I have not yet been a bridesmaid yet (I'm the first cousin on both sides to get married and one of the first of my friends), but if I am asked, I will keep my mouth shut unless my opinion is specifically asked for.

AOEforme · #**1702** 09-04-2012, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

I'm a bridesmaid in a my high school best friend's wedding next month. I'm pretty sure her family is going to be the end to everyone. Her two sisters cannot agree on anything to the point where one sibling will change her opinion if the other sister has the same opinion. We had to get new dresses today (thanks to a sister growing out of hers and the groomsmen's outfits changing) and it was the longest three hours of my life. I'm pretty sure it was something out of SYTTD: Bridesmaids.
I feel like if you are a bridesmaid one of your duties (basically) is to shut up and do what the bride wants unless it breaks your moral code or if she asks for your opinion. Put on the dress and shut up.
Is this an insane idea?

That poor bride.

Thank goodness she has you.

Munchkin03 · #**1703** 09-16-2012, 08:45 PM

Last night, the topic of wedding travel came up while I was talking with an acquaintance. Her feeling was that the travel TO the wedding is a gift in and of itself which made me

right then and there.

Is this something that other people think? My gift is usually based on my closeness to the couple but to eschew a gift because I'm traveling sounds crazay!

In other wedding news, my cousin still hasn't sent out official save-the-dates, just a save-the-date text which I lost when I got my new phone.

In the meantime, people who are getting married a year out sent PDFs of their Save-the-Date just to let us know that they'd like us to come and giving us extra time to plan. Would I be a jerk if I didn't go to my cousin's wedding because they're not acting right, but flying cross-country to my friends' wedding?

SydneyK · #**1704** 10-04-2012, 07:02 PM

Oh my...
Those of you who read/follow current wedding blogs/sites/etc., have probably already seen this. But I just read it, and I had to share. There are no words...

Reasons Why You Cannot Be a Bridesmaid

joliebelle · #**1705** 10-04-2012, 08:01 PM

I read that this morning; I don't understand these demanding brides at all. Meanwhile, a friend from college announced that she was having all of her bridesmaids sign a contract. What a peach.

eta: still loving this site- http://www.bitchlessbride.com/

AGDee · #**1706** 10-04-2012, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Oh my...
Those of you who read/follow current wedding blogs/sites/etc., have probably already seen this. But I just read it, and I had to share. There are no words...

Reasons Why You Cannot Be a Bridesmaid

If I received that email, I wouldn't have to wait until Wednesday to respond. I would tell her that not only would I not be standing up in her wedding but she doesn't need to bother sending me an invitation.

I'd love to know how many of her "friends" agreed to that.

KSUViolet06 · #**1707** 10-04-2012, 09:50 PM

A very good friend of mine is in her brother's wedding soon.

A recent email from the bride (her future SIL) denoted that maids will be lined up "skinny to fat."

Yes, really.

ASTalumna06 · #**1708** 10-04-2012, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

I feel like if you are a bridesmaid one of your duties (basically) is to shut up and do what the bride wants unless it breaks your moral code or if she asks for your opinion. Put on the dress and shut up.
Is this an insane idea?

Exactly.

I've been a bridesmaid a few times, and I was never given any options about a dress. I was told, "This is it.. get it soon." The end. And I did. I'm always shocked when I watch SYTTD and these bridesmaids are pouting and/or demanding that they get what they want.

I've had my picture taken a bajillion times in 95 degree weather (half of them outside, half of them in a church that wasn't air-conditioned), helped make centerpieces, cupcake towers, bouquets, etc., and I've been the lift-the-bride's-dress-in-the-bathroom bridesmaid. I've done it all. I've never complained. It comes with the territory. It's the bride's day. And as long as she's a good friend and she isn't a crazy bridezilla, then I'll do what she needs me to do.

WCsweet<3 · #**1709** 10-04-2012, 10:45 PM

The bridal shower was relatively quiet possibly because the three women who are problems weren't there. The bachelorette party is Saturday. Luckily neither sister is old enough for the bars so I'm hoping it will actually be pretty drama free. The wedding is in a couple weeks and it keeps looking like a s^*# show. I'm hoping I'm wrong, but I have planned enough events and been to enough weddings to see that all the makings of an explosion are there.
On the other hand, she isn't a bridezilla at all. Actually, she may be the most laid back bride I've ever seen/dealt with.

bluefish81 · #**1710** 10-05-2012, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Oh my...
Those of you who read/follow current wedding blogs/sites/etc., have probably already seen this. But I just read it, and I had to share. There are no words...

Reasons Why You Cannot Be a Bridesmaid

If I'd sent anything like that to my bridesmaids they would have told me where to go and with good reason. What is wrong with people?