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[amIblue?]

Well, I learned something today.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Iota Man

It's the size of that ass that dudes like. Dudes don't think of "shit" coming out of that ass when we look at it. 1. christiangirl, you know why we like it. 2. Don't act like you don't know you got a big ass (if you do have one, like you claim to have) wearing some of the clothes you wear to show that big ass off. 3. Y'all try to play innocent n shit, when in reality 4. y'all know you like us to look at that ass. Black females especially. 5. That's y'alls specialty, that ass. 6. That's why I don't really like white girls because they have flat asses. Y'all don't. You feel me?

That's a lot of assumptions and generalizations all in one paragraph. I just wanna point that out.

I remember when that Pegging thread was first started. I walked in there (with no clue what it was) and felt my retinas start to burn out of my face.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Actually, a man has pleasure sensors there (I believe it has to do with the prostate) that a woman doesn't have. That's one reason why anal doesn't make sense for anyone other than two men. A woman would probably get the same pleasure from pegging and receiving, because in both cases, it's more about mental stimulation than physical stimulation.

Yes. The prostate likes to be stroked and massaged.

[dreamseeker]

I feel a little bit better, now.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

I feel a little bit better, now.

Whatchu do?

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Whatchu do?

gain understanding.

[PrettyBoy]

I googled the 5 LL and decided to take the quiz. Although I don't get into those kinds of books/authors, I thought it would be fun to see if the numbers matched me.

Words of affirmation -8
I can agree on that.

Quality Time -6
That's about right for me. I do like "me" time, sometimes.

Receiving gifts -4
That's about right.

Acts of Service -4
That one was off.

Physical Touch -8
That's about right, but I thought I would score a little higher than 8. I love hugs and kisses. Especially, if that leg is crossed and some skin on that thigh is showing, I gotta go ahead and "cop a feel".

[Iota Man]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Except that you do.

See?

It's not all about you. Brandy wasn't put on this earth just to please you. Back off and give her a little respect. She knows you're interested in those things now, and if she ever decides she's up for trying it, she'll let you know. That ball's in her court now - don't bring it up anymore. And don't hold a grudge against her for something you wouldn't be willing to do, either.

I do, but only for me, though LOL. For real, I feel you though, I'll wait to see if she brings it back up. Big girl made a valid point too. Females do get all emotional when it comes to sex. Two different genders = two different thoughts and feeling about sex.

Originally Posted by amIblue?

The only difference in what you're talking about is how it feels for you. Pretty sure the recipient is going to have a similar experience, regardless of his/her gender.

I think it's more of a physical thing for dudes though. We can hit it and enjoy it, while at the same time not really thinking about anything.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

if that leg is crossed and some skin on that thigh is showing, I gotta go ahead and "cop a feel".

CTFU! I feel you. That's why I don't know why you won't "go ahead" and tap that ass after you've "gone ahead" and "copped the feel" LOL. I don't know how you do it. I'd be like "girl now that you've stimulated my dick, let me stimulate that ass" LOL! For real.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Iota Man

Females do get all emotional when it comes to sex. Two different genders = two different thoughts and feeling about sex.

Reminder:

Female = biological sex
Women = gender

I still do not believe that thoughts and feelings about sex differ based on biological sex as much as people pretend that they do. If there is a difference based on gender, it is mostly because people keep saying that it exists and therefore continuing to teach that it should exist. Women who give less of an emotional damn about sex are frowned upon just like women who aren't nurturing and do not want children. Men who are emotional about sex have their masculinity questioned just like men who are nurturers.

Originally Posted by Iota Man

I think it's more of a physical thing for dudes though. We can hit it and enjoy it, while at the same time not really thinking about anything.

If you are not thinking about anything and have no emotions, where do the feelings and physical pleasure come from? Brain, emotions, and physical are all tied together.

I really wish men were as emotionless, thoughtless, and Penis Powerful** as people pretend that they are. If men were as such they would not have to protest so much to prove that they are. Both women and men think about and have emotions about a myriad of things regardless of whether they outwardly express these thoughts and emotions. Hell hath no fury like a man scorned.

**The average man thinks his penis is larger, more powerful, and more pleasurable than it is. Tell these men that they are not as awesome as they think they are and watch a grown man cry. If that is not a hormonal, gendered, emotional, and brain driven bond to sexuality, I do not know what is.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Well, I was able to to bring a laptop on tour so I thought I'd get this done. Starfish and I broke up. We figured out that as strong as we are when were together, we still have a lot of time apart and even when we do get back together in December we probably wouldn't have a lot of time together. So it goes.

[christiangirl]

Awww I'm sorry to read that. *hugs laptop*

[DrPhil]

When someone says they do not want any children or do not want any more children, do not say things like "awwwww, you should have at least one (or one more)" and "I think you would be a good mother (or father)!"

That is as dumb, inappropriate, and disrespectful as saying to someone who does want children or wants another child "awww, you should not have any" and "I think you would be a horrible mother (or father)!"

We are talking about a human life here and not buying a puppy or painting the living room. Children are big responsibilities and even when they are not cute and are stressful, they are still your kids. It is not as though the stork will let you borrow a baby in the event that you want one and then pick the baby up should you decide against it.

[psusue]

I don't particularly want kids (this could change, I'm still very young) but I don't mind when people say "you'd be such a good mom though!" I think they mean it as a compliment. And I usually respond with "yes, but I can also use those skills in other ways" and leave it at that.

But I understand, it's frustrating when people don't a. respect your feelings on a matter and b. don't seem to comprehend the massive responsibility that is parenthood.

[DrPhil]

I see that as surface-level compliments. They do not know either way and they are typically saying that based on the assumption that girls and women are nurturers whose ultimate goal is to take care of children.

It reminds me of many years ago when someone I knew saw me and said "hello, how are you doing?!" That person was not paying attention to my response because when I coughed and said "I feel horrible, I have a bad cold" the person smiled and said "good" and kept walking. Or maybe that person was listening and wished ill towards me which brings me back to my original point.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Iota Man

CTFU! I feel you. That's why I don't know why you won't "go ahead" and tap that ass after you've "gone ahead" and "copped the feel" LOL. I don't know how you do it. I'd be like "girl now that you've stimulated my dick, let me stimulate that ass" LOL! For real.

To me, dude, sex is a very small part of any relationship. Plus, I don't believe in dating without a purpose. Your purpose and my purpose are so different that I wouldn't expect you to understand my decisions. Dating for me is seeing if the two of us are compatible, -someone who can become my best friend during courtship. I would get bored if sex was the only thing happening or if it was the foundation of what we have, and I can be bored by myself. I don't need a boring relationship. You're right in a sense when you talk about "stimulation". I actually believe that one of the most overlooked areas in relationships (between a woman and a man) is "stimulation" –but I'm talking about the kind of "stimulation" that emerges from the other person's ability to engage my mind, excite my emotions, and ignite my imagination on a wide range of life topics. Not just the kind of "stimulation" you're talking about.