First, there is soooo much identifying information in your post. I suggest making it more anonymous.
Second, use the search function or google advanced to search for threads on this forum pertaining to Old Miss Fraternity recruitment. There are quite a few.
Third, some of your questions can be answered by visiting the IFC webpage, if an IFC fraternity is what you are thinking of joining. Here is the link
here is a good thread: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=122519