Advice for possible re-recruitment at FSU

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

Thank you for the chuckles. I wish I knew why I was cut. It was very hard for me. Could the new way they did recruitment last year be an issue also? When my mom called the Greek Office to complain thay said that they were doing it a new way because they had so many transfers and that 50% of the chapters bids had to go to juniors and seniors. At least thats what my mom told me, she could have been trying to make me feel better.

I would wager this was a big part of the problem, with your size being another problem, as well as the 15 recs. to your legacy chapter, with perhaps a sprinkling of attitude from you that you had already found your home in your legacy chapter, but as others have said, there is no way for those of us not present at membership selection to know, and even it we did, we would not share that information.

Is there a way to get your mom to chill without starting WWIII? Could you ask a trusted adult to help keep her occupied during recruitment? Maybe she and some of her friends could go to St. George, Seaside or Rosemary Beach for the week of recruitment? She needs to stay out of the recruitment situation so that maybe you will have a chance with another chapter.

If you participate in recruitment this year, DO NOT have 15 recs. sent to your legacy chapter-a couple should suffice. You should have a couple of recs. per sorority for the other chapters. Act interested in learning about the other sororities. DO NOT act like you know everything about your mom's sorority (although I am sure that you know pretty much everything except ritual).

Hopefully your GPA is good and you got involved on campus. That and your weight loss, dressing to flatter your body type, looking put together, being friendly, interested and interesting will help you find a place in one of the fantastic chapters at FSU.

[33girl]

Honestly?

At this point, I think you would be better off to cross your mom's sorority off your list*, wipe them and everything you know about them from your mind, and if other sororities ask why you are rushing as a sophomore/re-rushing, say "I foolishly put my mother's desires ahead of my own and didn't really take a good look at all the groups. I'm going through again because I want to remedy that." I have the feeling that if your mom is doing things like calling the GL office, people already know who you are (and probably feel sorry for you at this point) and which group your mom is an alumna of.

*This does not mean be rude or dismissive to them at the first round of parties. Be polite, but don't gush or beg. Even if you would get a bid there this time around, it's more than likely that your time as a sister would be filled with drama and your mother's interference.

[Jen]

I think you became "that girl" to your mom's sorority. It's sad, but all you can do is learn from it, and go into recruitment with a good attitude, an open mind, and an understanding that it's possible it may not work in your favour the second time around, especially if your mother insists on interfering.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

Thank you for the chuckles. I wish I knew why I was cut. It was very hard for me. Could the new way they did recruitment last year be an issue also? When my mom called the Greek Office to complain

>> Oh, my.

thay said that they were doing it a new way because they had so many transfers and that 50% of the chapters bids had to go to juniors and seniors. At least thats what my mom told me, she could have been trying to make me feel better.

>>No, honey, just no. Time to move on.

[fascination]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

I do know that the current advisor and my mom did not get along because my mom always wanted the chapter to stay less superficial and well the current advisor wanted other qualities. Could that be the reason? Just because I'm short and a size 18?! Because if it is I'd feel terrible that I even went through rush.

No one is so naive as to think that this size wouldn't matter at FSU recruitment. I'm calling fake.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by Kaieda

She called because she was very shocked I was cut after only the second round. I had a bunch of recommendations for other chapters on campus but for my moms specifically I had over 15 including one from a past president of the sorority. That's why it was so shocking. But on the other hand while rushing I did keep an open mind and I did like other houses but this one was...Home.

Maybe it's not the case on your campus, but I think most places that would be considered OVERKILL. There's a possibility that coming in with so many recs came off desperate.