Originally Posted by greamsmith
I want to join a sorority but I am really nervous because I am shy and I want to be accepted. I know which sorority I am interested in and everything. Does everybody get invited to join or are they very selective? And is it also okay to go to recruitment events yourself because none of my friends want to join and go with me..
1) If you're interested in joining a sorority, don't worry about what your friends want, or don't want to do. If YOU want to join a sorority, look into making it happen.
2) Not everyone gets invited. Membership selection is private, and no one here will be able to tell you specific reasons why particular girls might not receive bids (invitations for membership). However, more general ones include, but are not limited to: low grades, poor conversation skills, didn't stand out during recruitment, was rude to the sisters, doesn't click with the chapter, has a bad reputation, etc. Some of these things might be more important than others depending on the school you go to and how competitive recruitment is.
3) Assuming that this is NPC recruitment, you don't want to get your heart set on one sorority.. keep an open mind! As Tichou said, during formal recruitment, you will meet with all of the sororities. It is their choice just as much as it is yours. As we all love to say.. it's a mutual selection process.
I would highly suggest you go to your Greek Life office ASAP and ask for all of the information they can possibly give you. Say you're clueless.. I'm sure they'll be more than helpful. Formal recruitment is different on every campus, so it's best to find out how it works on yours.
Also.. search this board. Look through the Sorority Recruitment forum.. there's a wealth of knowledge there. I would also suggest reading some of the recruitment stories within that forum - they will give you an idea of how many different types of formal recruitment there are, depending on the school, the number of chapters, and the number of potential members going through the recruitment process.