Is 32 too old rush as a transfer?

[Vallista]

I'm currently about to transfer to a 4 year school out of state. I know might be too old for most greek systems. I couldn't go college in my 20s mainly because I was working 40 hours or more, but I've been going to school full time for the last 3 years. I looked up campus life at 3/4 main schools I got into San Diego State, UCLA, U of Arizona, and Arizona State, what I discovered is that those schools have a heavy greek community. I wouldn't have consider it if that wasn't the case. But since I'm moving to a whole new area and looking to make new friends shouldn't I apply? My brother who is in a fraternity @UCLA currently said it they had a couple of older guys join, it is rare but it does happen. He could put in a good word for me. I know I sound crazy asking but I do want to get more involved in college life with my final two years. I just looking for some insight on how to approach this. Any advice would be great.

[kddani]

What the hell would you have in common with a bunch of 18-22 year olds?

It sounds like you are trying to relive your youth to make up for what you missed out on by taking a non-traditional route.

[princessamy]

He could maybe try a service organization or go to a school that has more older non traditional students.

[Senusret I]

Assuming this is something you think you really want, then you should go for it just like any other prospective rushee would. As you already know, there are people who have done it before. There are people who are on GC who are of a nontraditional undergraduate age who are active members of their GLO.

This is really up to you. Just be prepared to be rejected if the organizations don't find anything in common with you. If you don't make it into a social fraternity, there will be other options for you depending on your school.

And kudos to you for pursuing your education.

[FleurGirl]

^ I agree. Go for it, but don't be surprised if you're passed over in favor of someone who is closer to typical age. I know we had a 40-something woman go through informal once, and personally I just found it creepy; she was old enough to be the mother of the other PNMs.

There are always other options for getting involved on campus; don't pidgeonhole yourself into thinking a social fraternity is the only way you can do that. Consider service and professional organizations -- they might be a better fit.

[Vallista]

ok cool, I know it will be an uphill battle and that is ok. At least I know going in. My main concern it a school like San Diego State from what I'm hearing is Commuter school. And making friends can be hard for out state students. Then again I'm a social person that has always adapted in new environments.

[Vallista]

Originally Posted by kddani

What the hell would you have in common with a bunch of 18-22 year olds?

It sounds like you are trying to relive your youth to make up for what you missed out on by taking a non-traditional route.

lol I wish that was the case. I figured since most fraternities do more than just drinking like community service, that is something I can get myself involved in. As for the age gap, I go to a community college where there is high school and young adult who all think I'm in my 20s til I tell them my age. Even my professors don't think I'm 32. It is weird but has never stopped me from being social. I do get your point.

[Vallista]

Originally Posted by princessamy

He could maybe try a service organization or go to a school that has more older non traditional students.

the schools I'm considering are base off my major, since only there are only number of schools that do offer it, there are all major schools. Which sucks but 3 out of 4 then I got into. I'm just waiting to hear back from UCLA. My brother that goes to UCLA has been telling me that social life at UCLA is very clickish. It's not like Washington State or U of Washington where they have more of an open social atmosphere.

[bear_down]

It's not going to happen at Arizona. Our Greek system is very traditional. There are a lot of clubs and activities you can try to get involved.

[33girl]

Definitely get involved in whatever school you end up at's organization for non-traditional students. You'll meet a lot of people through that who will all be in the same boat you are.

[sigtau305]

Originally Posted by Vallista

I'm currently about to transfer to a 4 year school out of state. I know might be too old for most greek systems. I couldn't go college in my 20s mainly because I was working 40 hours or more, but I've been going to school full time for the last 3 years. I looked up campus life at 3/4 main schools I got into San Diego State, UCLA, U of Arizona, and Arizona State, what I discovered is that those schools have a heavy greek community. I wouldn't have consider it if that wasn't the case. But since I'm moving to a whole new area and looking to make new friends shouldn't I apply? My brother who is in a fraternity @UCLA currently said it they had a couple of older guys join, it is rare but it does happen. He could put in a good word for me. I know I sound crazy asking but I do want to get more involved in college life with my final two years. I just looking for some insight on how to approach this. Any advice would be great.

Def go for it. just be prepared for the word "No" if and when it comes.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

With the disclaimer that I don't know much about the schools listed:

If you do go through fraternity rush, you may want to target groups that are newer or more in a building phase. They could be more open to a non-traditional student and the experiences that you bring to the table.

[als463]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

With the disclaimer that I don't know much about the schools listed:

If you do go through fraternity rush, you may want to target groups that are newer or more in a building phase. They could be more open to a non-traditional student and the experiences that you bring to the table.

Speaking of which, didn't Phi Delta Theta just open back up at UCLA? I wish you best of luck with fraternity rush!

[Vallista]

Thanks for the advice guys.

[excelblue]

It's all about the fit. The question is: can you, as a 32yo, fit in with people who are more than 10yr younger than you?