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Old 05-02-2012, 09:22 PM
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Resigning

Today, a co-worker, who partially works on my team, resigned. After the news broke, my team was called to a quick pow wow with another team that we work very closely with (and the woman who resigned is part of both of these teams). The supervisors on this team wanted to let everyone know what was going on and just give everyone a heads up that they're working out how to cover for her while they find a replacement.

But then they wanted to also let us know that there's a right way and a wrong way to leave our company. Apparently, when the co-worker went to resign, she went to the head of the office to do so (which is not unheard of, especially because the head of the office works directly with my team and this other team, and therefore works with this co-worker). From what I hear, things didn't go very well. We were told by the supervisors from the other team that head of the office takes resigning very personally and gets upset when we don't go to her first with any issues we are having. They assured us that if we are thinking about leaving because you are unhappy or want to try new things, to please talk to head of office first because this they will be helpful in trying to make things better for you at the company OR get you in touch with the right people to find a new job.



After the little pow-wow, I talked to my direct supervisors on my team because this sounded like crazy talk to me. Fortunately, I wasn't alone in this feeling. When I'm ready to leave (because I will leave this company eventually...I enjoy it but there's only so much room to grow), I don't want to have to tell the head of my office that I'm interviewing. To me that screams, might as well put a giant target on my back. I just can't comprehend this. The rationale that the other teams sups tried to give is that this IS a small industry, you will cross paths again, and you don't want to have her on your bad side.

So, what are your thoughts GC? Do you play along and humor the boss and let them know when you're interviewing elsewhere? Or do you go about your business, interview in private and resign without any warning?
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Old 05-02-2012, 09:46 PM
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You should give your two weeks notice, always***. Whether or not you give more notice once you have a job lined up really depends on:

1) How you expect your employer to react and/or how she has reacted to other employees leaving.

2) Your personal situation, i.e. if you tried to give a month's notice and you were immediately escorted out, would you be totally screwed, financially?

When I left my most recent job to go back to school, I gave about six weeks notice, but I knew that my boss would be happy for me and I knew that if they showed me the door, my insurance would carry through the end of the month when my school insurance picked up.

As far as going to them before you are even sure you will leave: well, why are you leaving? Lots of times, people resign from jobs for reasons that can not be remedied. If you feel there is no room for growth, you can probably assess if that's even something that can be addressed. Sure, I believe in talking to my manager and asking for things like better projects, more money, more flexible hours, etc., but usually when people leave, there is a reason that goes beyond what the current company can provide.

BTW, I think that Alison Green's blog over at http://www.askamanager.org/ is a great one, and she regularly addresses questions like these.

ETA: ***Not if you are being harassed or something like that, but *almost* always.

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Old 05-02-2012, 09:51 PM
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So, what are your thoughts GC? Do you play along and humor the boss and let them know when you're interviewing elsewhere? Or do you go about your business, interview in private and resign without any warning?
Bosses who want you to do this are crazypants. I am in that situation now and I am miserable. I was the runner up for a senior leadership position at a small nonprofit, now I am stuck in this limbo. I am miserable and depressed and if I had to do it over again, I would absolutely NOT tell anyone I was interviewing. And I only told them because early on they made a point to say "Oh, it's okay if you want to leave because we're a family and we understand."

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Old 05-02-2012, 10:10 PM
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I've only resigned once. I had actually just had my yearly evaluation, and it went great. However, I was being pigeon-holed into being an expert in an area that I did not like. I began to look for better opportunities. I found one. Better pay, better benefits, more interesting work. As much as I liked and respected my current team and bosses, NO WAY would I have told them I was interviewing, or even looking for something else. That is just asking to get fired. I approached my immediate boss and gave him my two weeks. He was very disappointed (rightly so, because I'm awesome), and he asked for the opportunity to match what I was being offered. He and I both went to another one of the managers, and she was also disappointed. She made some phone calls, and they could not even come close to matching what my new offer was.

If you really want to stay with your current company, but are unhappy with your position/pay/responsibilities, they by all means go to your boss. Tell them you are hoping to broaden your skill set, etc, etc. DO NOT say "I'm going to search for something else if you don't make my job better." You have to put a positive spin on it in which you are looking to develop personally and professionally. But everyone knows that there often comes a time where no amount of money or promises will make you stay. If that's the case, then do your searching and interviewing quietly.

And yes, always give 2 weeks notice.
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Old 05-02-2012, 10:12 PM
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She made some phone calls, and they could not even come close to matching what my new offer was.
Would you have stayed if they had matched it? I think that it's a very bad idea to stay once you've told them you were ready to leave.
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Old 05-02-2012, 10:15 PM
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They're crazy.

If they're going to take it personally that you are resigning, they are going to take it personally that you are unhappy or have a problem. They will make your life miserable and you won't have a way out.

I never tell my employer if I am interviewing. I tell them that I am leaving when I turn in my two weeks notice.
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Old 05-02-2012, 10:23 PM
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Whoops! I meant to say that she did give two weeks noticed. Are "resigning" and giving "two weeks notice" not quite the same thing? We were discussing it at work and using those words interchangeably.

The reason I will eventually look for a new job is 1) I want to work on a different account and 2) I want to gain experience within a specific job function. Currently, my agency's office in my city is pretty small and we only have a few different accounts. If there's no openings on any of those accounts and want to work on something new, you're kind of SOL and would have to look for a new job.

My plan is to talk to my superiors and tell them that I'm interested in growing by moving a new account and gaining experience in that particular job function, which is the truth. If they can't accommodate that, then it's time to move else where. I think it's a fair balance of "coming to them" with my concerns, yet keeping it quiet that I'm interviewing.
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Old 05-02-2012, 10:23 PM
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Would you have stayed if they had matched it? I think that it's a very bad idea to stay once you've told them you were ready to leave.
Not in this case. I had been promised for over a year that I would be brought into a different project management area. I talked to several of the other PMs on a bi-monthly basis about it, and it never went anywhere. They would have had to significantly beat my new offer.
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Old 05-02-2012, 10:50 PM
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Would you have stayed if they had matched it? I think that it's a very bad idea to stay once you've told them you were ready to leave.
I've been at my company six years since I tried to resign with a better offer (that my current company beat).

I'm nervous about resigning to go to the NY Film Academy. There is a precedence in my position of giving a LOOONG notice. I trained with the outgoing person for six weeks - she trained with the person before her for six months. I'll probably give a month notice. I don't feel more is necessary because there is a woman working part time with me now (my boss' sons' girlfriend/babymama) that could easily put her kid in daycare and go fulltime, and she's learned the essential functions of my job.
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Old 05-02-2012, 11:03 PM
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The more I think about this, the more I wonder if I misinterpreted things. They couldn't POSSIBLY mean that I should tell my bosses that I'm interviewing at other companies...they must have meant to keep open communication and talk to them about concerns...right, right??!!!
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Old 05-02-2012, 11:04 PM
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Whoops! I meant to say that she did give two weeks noticed. Are "resigning" and giving "two weeks notice" not quite the same thing? We were discussing it at work and using those words interchangeably.

The reason I will eventually look for a new job is 1) I want to work on a different account and 2) I want to gain experience within a specific job function. Currently, my agency's office in my city is pretty small and we only have a few different accounts. If there's no openings on any of those accounts and want to work on something new, you're kind of SOL and would have to look for a new job.

My plan is to talk to my superiors and tell them that I'm interested in growing by moving a new account and gaining experience in that particular job function, which is the truth. If they can't accommodate that, then it's time to move else where. I think it's a fair balance of "coming to them" with my concerns, yet keeping it quiet that I'm interviewing.
You can more or less use "resigning" and "giving notice" interchangeably. Sometimes, people give more or less than two weeks, though, obviously.

What you are proposing is exactly what you should do. In theory, your managers should be interested in your job satisfaction and want to create a viable career path for you to the best of their abilities. If you are asking for something for which they don't see you as a good fit, they should give concrete examples of things you could do to get to that point.

Sometimes, though, no matter how valued you are, their hands are tied, and you have no choice but to look elsewhere. You will know when that happens, and there is no point in telling your managers that you are looking, because there is nothing they would be able to do about it.
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Old 05-02-2012, 11:05 PM
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My thoughts:
1) Do NOT tell your bosses that you are interviewing elsewhere. They don't have the right to know that information.
In my limited experience, potential employers are generally understanding that the people who are applying for their vacancies are likely already employed, and are discrete about that information, even in small industries. In many cases, they prefer to know that you are still employed somewhere, because it indicates that you are a currently valued quantity by someone.
Case in point: several years ago a job opportunity came my way at an office where my supervisor used to work. I was directly asked during one of the interviews if she knew I was interviewing, and I honestly replied that she didn't. My soon-to-be supervisor said that it was perfectly fine, they just wanted to know so they could handle things accordingly (read: delicately).

2) You owe your employer two weeks' notice, and whatever time frame you originally agreed to work for them. For me, I've usually been told that a commitment of at least a year was expected. Acceptable reasons to leave DO NOT include a "better opportunity at another company" or graduate school, but they do include medical issues, forced relocation due to a spouse's employment, etc.

3) If your salary is the primary reason to leave your company, then be aware that you can only use the "I have a better offer elsewhere" card ONCE to negotiate a salary bump.

4) Sometimes a great job opportunity comes your way even when you're not looking. It's not always a matter of being unhappy with your current position, but sometimes a matter of a really great job that you'd be a fool to pass up.

In this day and age, I think that most opportunities for advancement will come from moving to another employer, especially in small companies or industries. Especially at smaller companies, they won't necessarily have a more senior opening for you when you're ready and/or when you need a salary boost. I feel like most folks understand that.
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Here's one that's particularly relevant:

http://www.askamanager.org/2009/11/s...ce-that-i.html
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Old 05-02-2012, 11:35 PM
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^^ Great blog, thanks for sharing!
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Old 05-03-2012, 12:27 AM
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I had a boss who asked me to tell him if I was ever looking for a job. It was a small office and we worked great together. I did tell him when I'd applied for a job. It was a dream job that I didn't think I'd get, but I told him anyway. I did end up getting the job (turned out to be a NIGHTMARE) but he was cool about the whole thing. I also quit a job via one page faxed resignation letter. I also quit a job while oversharing what the new job was. They don't get to know anything you don't want to share, and that's something I wish I'd known at the time. I didn't consider the two companies competitors, but they did so they had me do a very unceremonious departure so I wouldn't steal client lists, which would have been of absolutely zero benefit to me and my new job.

I do think if the original poster meant the company had a meeting to say (apparently badly) if you're having a problem, come to us so we can try to fix it before you bail, that's a perfectly good thing to say in a meeting. It just sounds like they said it so badly that people walked away with a completely different sense of the purpose. I wouldn't recommend doing what I said I did. It was a risk and I really worried about doing it, but I trusted my gut with this particular boss in this particular scenario. I don't think I'd ever do it again.
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