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DubaiSis · #**11656** 11-20-2014, 01:53 PM

What's with the hostility? I wasn't accusing you of anything. My offering an alternative viewpoint doesn't negate anything you said. We are in different places in our lives. That would be expected since I think we are also quite far apart in age and experience. You have probably dated more than me but I've been down the aisle. We MIGHT actually be able to learn something from each other. Or you can hate me simply because I'm happy being single. That is your prerogative.

cheerfulgreek · #**11657** 11-20-2014, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

And I'm looking for a wife. Therefore you have no business telling me what the purpose of dating is when your purpose is not the same or even similar to my purpose. Chit chat your dating experiences with people who agree with you and who you agree with, because I don't.

lol
Hilarious! You get so upset, lol. Usernames are free to chit chat with whichever usernames they choose to, Phrozen. But at the same time, you are free to respond and/or read whichever username's posts you choose to read and respond to. That's the beauty of a message board comprised of usernames.

It's nothing to get angry about. K?

DrPhil · #**11658** 11-20-2014, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Or you can hate me simply because I'm happy being single.

Oh don't you dare!!!! My momma warned me about those "loose women" who talk out of turn and don't know their role!!!!!!

Phrozen Sands · #**11659** 11-20-2014, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Oh hush and stop acting holier than thou. LOL. Just a month or so ago you were playing video games with your fuck buddy's son. You just said this week that you date multiple women and some women are unable to handle that. They want to automatically be THE ONE and the only one.

Lmfao! That was a mistake, but the Madden wasn't. I date several women so I have easier access of picking and choosing.

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

What's with the hostility? I wasn't accusing you of anything. My offering an alternative viewpoint doesn't negate anything you said. We are in different places in our lives. That would be expected since I think we are also quite far apart in age and experience. You have probably dated more than me but I've been down the aisle. We MIGHT actually be able to learn something from each other. Or you can hate me simply because I'm happy being single. That is your prerogative.

Learn from you? Please, you walked down the aisle with a Jim Beam drinkin alcoholic. Thanks but no thanks.

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lol
Hilarious! You get so upset, lol. Usernames are free to chit chat with whichever usernames they choose to, Phrozen. But at the same time, you are free to respond and/or read whichever username's posts you choose to read and respond to. That's the beauty of a message board comprised of usernames.

It's nothing to get angry about. K?

Good idea, CG. I'll keep this in mind.

DrPhil · #**11660** 11-20-2014, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lmfao! That was a mistake, but the Madden wasn't. I date several women so I have easier access of picking and choosing.

Madden is great and so is open dating.

My point is don't get all holy and brand new. You came across as though you've taken a vow of celibacy and are living on a deserted mountain until God grants you a wife. LOL.

In reality, you're sexing and open dating. You don't know if you'll ever get married. Yet you will keep sexing and open dating. LOL. And that's fine if that's what you choose.

DubaiSis · #**11661** 11-20-2014, 02:54 PM

He NEVER drank Jim Beam. He was more of a beer and cheap vodka guy. And pot. And, well, pain killers. But hey, he was fun there for awhile! Everyone loved him. For awhile. And he got me to Dubai so even with as bad as he got and how much I was living what so many adult children of alcoholics do, I still don't regret it. Do it again? Hell no. But did I learn from it and appreciate some, if not all of it? Yes, absolutely. I had something I needed to learn in this life, and I think I did. My next lesson to learn in this life is to chill and have fun and appreciate all different kinds of people and experiences. And not be SO DAMN DRIVEN all the time. And I can just feel you thinking that because I'm saying that that's what I'm about right now, that you are taking that as some sort of personal affront to all manhood. There is room between 100% focus on marriage and family and just in it for the cardio, so to speak. If there were a scale of 0 being cardio and 100% only about marriage, I would place myself on the dating spectrum at about a 30. Maybe a 40. So you're at an 80 or 90. That's cool. I was there once. And at the time EVERYONE thought I'd found the perfect match for me. We were great together. So don't be so quick to tell me I have no voice because it turned into a bad marriage. It was quite successful from a certain viewpoint for many years. It's just that when it went bad, it went REALLY bad.

Phrozen Sands · #**11662** 11-20-2014, 05:58 PM

@ Dubai, I'm not saying you don't have a "voice" or a contribution to this thread. Never said that. What I'm saying and did say is that you just don't have a "voice" or contribution I'm intetested hearing or learning anything from, and in this case, reading.

Munchkin03 · #**11663** 11-20-2014, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by StealthMode

Hmmmm I agree to an extent. I think we always have time to "see" someone if we want. But we don't always have time and energy to cultivate a relationship the way we'd like. If we can't do that and the other person has serious expectations, then scheduling stolen moments can do more harm than good. So sometimes, "I don't have time to see you" means "I don't want to see you" but it may also mean "I don't have time to see you the way I want and giving you less would be unfair."

I don't disagree. I just know that, barring extenuating circumstances, "I'm too busy" often means, "I don't want to make pursuing a relationship with you a priority."

KAPPAcino · #**11664** 11-20-2014, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

He NEVER drank Jim Beam. He was more of a beer and cheap vodka guy. And pot. And, well, pain killers. But hey, he was fun there for awhile! Everyone loved him. For awhile. And he got me to Dubai so even with as bad as he got and how much I was living what so many adult children of alcoholics do, I still don't regret it. Do it again? Hell no. But did I learn from it and appreciate some, if not all of it? Yes, absolutely. I had something I needed to learn in this life, and I think I did. My next lesson to learn in this life is to chill and have fun and appreciate all different kinds of people and experiences. And not be SO DAMN DRIVEN all the time. And I can just feel you thinking that because I'm saying that that's what I'm about right now, that you are taking that as some sort of personal affront to all manhood. There is room between 100% focus on marriage and family and just in it for the cardio, so to speak. If there were a scale of 0 being cardio and 100% only about marriage, I would place myself on the dating spectrum at about a 30. Maybe a 40. So you're at an 80 or 90. That's cool. I was there once. And at the time EVERYONE thought I'd found the perfect match for me. We were great together. So don't be so quick to tell me I have no voice because it turned into a bad marriage. It was quite successful from a certain viewpoint for many years. It's just that when it went bad, it went REALLY bad.

So he was a drunk who smoked weed, was addicted to pain killers, and is an identity thief who opened up $19,000 worth of credit in your name? That's like holy shit. He was obviously a douche when you met him, you just may have been too blind to see it. Kind of like the hit it and quit it guy who you were all giddy about.

Munchkin03 · #**11665** 11-21-2014, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Outlaw 1963

Thanksgiving and Christmas are two holidays I can't stand because I have to put up with Brandi's dumbass parents. They don't like me and I don't like them. Her dad is a bitch ass punk.

Why the mutual dislike?

Do you have to do both holidays with them?

DeltaBetaBaby · #**11666** 11-21-2014, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Why the mutual dislike?

Do you have to do both holidays with them?

Last year, when Thanksgiving fell on Channukah, every Jew in America who hates their family rejoiced.

cheerfulgreek · #**11667** 11-21-2014, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Outlaw 1963

Thanksgiving and Christmas are two holidays I can't stand because I have to put up with Brandi's dumbass parents. They don't like me and I don't like them. Her dad is a bitch ass punk.

Munchkin03 · #**11668** 11-21-2014, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Outlaw 1963

Don't you read the inlaw thread?

Yeah, I do.

I don't see anything you wrote! I wanna know what makes this man a bitch ass punk. Is it one of those "you're not good enough for my daughter" things?

We are starting to spend Christmas on vacation instead of with family. We are hosting Thanksgiving this year to keep it on our Turf. We shall see how it goes.

Phrozen Sands · #**11669** 11-21-2014, 08:58 PM

There's no way in hell I would be married to a woman whose family didn't like me. Couldn't do it.

cheerfulgreek · #**11670** 11-21-2014, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

There's no way in hell I would be married to a woman whose family didn't like me. Couldn't do it.

Yep! Agreed. To each their own, but I wouldn't even get started with a man if his family didn't like me or if I didn't like his family. Uh, uh... Nope.