Is anyone else's rush experience like ....

*BetaBaby* · #1 09-26-2006, 07:07 PM

I go to a commuter school, and there are no sorority houses. My school is in the North East. There was one day where all the greek sororites and frats were outside in our quad but thats been it, now they all have individual rush meetings and mixers etc. But they are all at the same time, like today there were 3 sororities rush meetings at the same time, so how am I suppose to get to know all the sororities if there events are all at the same time.

so I did find I fit in well with the sorority I choose to go to today but...

They are very informal which is ok with me, but after reading the boards here its not what I expected at all. We have national sororities, but the one I choose to go to is a Regional (only 6 schools). There were about maybe 8 girls there, out of the 26 that are active, and they were about 10 minutes late to the meeting spot on campus. They talked about guys and the frats and how its a good way to meet guys. They talked about drinking, they even asked if we drank ( by show of hands), and who is of age. I heard the words wasted, and a story of falling in a pool, etc. I heard two of the sisters swear one must have about 10 times in conversation.One girl thats a member dropped out of school but is still a member (How does that work?) Now from reading the boards I just thought that they would leave all that out, and was preparing myself to be all proper, which I was anyway. I really like the girls I was just a little surprised, but maybe its b/c its NYC so idk.
Has anyone else experienced this type of rush?

Buttonz · #2 09-26-2006, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by *BetaBaby*

I go to a commuter school, and there are no sorority houses. My school is in the North East. There was one day where all the greek sororites and frats were outside in our quad but thats been it, now they all have individual rush meetings and mixers etc. But they are all at the same time, like today there were 3 sororities rush meetings at the same time, so how am I suppose to get to know all the sororities if there events are all at the same time.

so I did find I fit in well with the sorority I choose to go to today but...

They are very informal which is ok with me, but after reading the boards here its not what I expected at all. We have national sororities, but the one I choose to go to is a Regional (only 6 schools). There were about maybe 8 girls there, out of the 26 that are active, and they were about 10 minutes late to the meeting spot on campus. They talked about guys and the frats and how its a good way to meet guys. They talked about drinking, they even asked if we drank ( by show of hands), and who is of age. I heard the words wasted, and a story of falling in a pool, etc. I heard two of the sisters swear one must have about 10 times in conversation.One girl thats a member dropped out of school but is still a member (How does that work?) Now from reading the boards I just thought that they would leave all that out, and was preparing myself to be all proper, which I was anyway. I really like the girls I was just a little surprised, but maybe its b/c its NYC so idk.
Has anyone else experienced this type of rush?

I think I know what school you are at....I think I'm going to PM you to double check before I give any advice

Ocalagirl · #3 09-26-2006, 07:32 PM

Can you go any other sororities party? I don't know, but for reading this would make me think twice about joining...For me I would try to look into the other groups before I made a seious choice about joining this group.
Good Luck!!!!!

Buttonz · #4 09-26-2006, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by liltrixx

Can you go any other sororities party? I don't know, but for reading this would make me think twice about joining...For me I would try to look into the other groups before I made a seious choice about joining this group.
Good Luck!!!!!

I know where she is at (though I'm not saying) and sadly to many of the groups at this campus is like this. I would love to get the chance to be Greek Advisor there, because the current one doesn't really do much, at least not what he should be doing IMO.

alum · #5 09-26-2006, 08:10 PM

Stick to a true national. There are benefits, guidelines etc with an NPC/NPHC group vs. a group that doesn't have a lot of alumnae support.

LPIDelta · #6 09-26-2006, 08:20 PM

BB--
If it were me--I would run, fast. Ok--maybe that is hasty, but in the long run, I do not think a group that presents itself this way is going to attract women that will sustain the chapter. I would at least check out the other groups on campus to see if there is a better fit.

Good luck!!

Buttonz · #7 09-26-2006, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather17

BB--
If it were me--I would run, fast. Ok--maybe that is hasty, but in the long run, I do not think a group that presents itself this way is not going to attract women that will sustain the chapter. I would at least check out the other groups on campus to see if there is a better fit.

Good luck!!

Out of the non NPC/NPHC groups on campus, this is the better one from what I know from being an active greek @ the campus she is talking about.

A lot of the sisters are very dedicated and close with each other. They have been around for almost 15 years, and the alumane are great working with the active chapter.

Ocalagirl · #8 09-26-2006, 08:27 PM

I think I would stick NPC if thats how the locals are acting or that this was the best one. just my opinion take it as you wish!

UGAalum94 · #9 09-26-2006, 08:32 PM

If the group struck you as crude and ill-mannered, there's no reason to stick around. If this is the group at their best (and really, it should be, if they are trying to attract new member), and you weren't impressed, it's probably not going to get better.

Stef the Pef · #10 11-04-2006, 12:48 AM

Sounds like the opposite of what I was looking for in a sorority.

My advice? Go for sisterhood, not for a drinking club. The former lasts a lot longer than the latter.

ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl · #11 11-08-2006, 03:49 PM

At least they're being honest about what they are, I guess. But the fact that really says NO to me is that only 8 of the 26 actives show up. If they don't care about Rush, then they don't care about the sorority. I would stick with a national anyway at a commuter school. No offense to locals and regionals, but since it sounds like there won't be a ton of "together time" anyway, a national will be more helpful as it has a broader net and better resources.

Denise_DPhiE · #12 11-08-2006, 04:13 PM

Run, don't walk. I concur. If they talk like that, they probably include drinking in the new member program (I would venture a guess that they PLEDGE and hard). Sisterhood is so much more than what you saw and heard.

33girl · #13 11-08-2006, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Denise_DPhiE

(I would venture a guess that they PLEDGE and hard).

No, what you want to say is that you would guess they HAZE, and hard. Pledging is not hazing.

But I agree with AGDSquirrelGirl*, what would bug me most would not be the talking about drinking or guys or cussing or anything like that...it would be that only a third of the sorority gave enough of a rat's ass to show up for rush. Unless they had extenuating circumstances, like classes, there's no reason for everyone especially in a chapter that small not to show up for big events like this.

*who I am very impressed with the fact that as a brand spanking new GC member, already mastered the Greek letters in her screen name.

ThetaPrincess24 · #14 11-08-2006, 05:35 PM

At my school, atlest during spring informal recruitment, most of the sororities had events that were going on at the same time. However they were usually 2 hours long and PNM's were encouraged to visit as many chapters as they could throughout the week. This meant in one night you could visit several chapters spending a little bit of time at whatever ones you wanted to go and visit. If it is allowed, I would highly encourage visiting more than one chapter or as many as you can.

You can also talk to members of these sororities in yoru classes too and tell them you are interested in their rush parties (so they know you are interested) if you are only allowed to attend one at a time.

Buttonz · #15 11-08-2006, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

No, what you want to say is that you would guess they HAZE, and hard. Pledging is not hazing.

But I agree with AGDSquirrelGirl*, what would bug me most would not be the talking about drinking or guys or cussing or anything like that...it would be that only a third of the sorority gave enough of a rat's ass to show up for rush. Unless they had extenuating circumstances, like classes, there's no reason for everyone especially in a chapter that small not to show up for big events like this.

Not only was this during a time that very few classes are given (non are supposed to be given but...it happens) this group does haze, hard. I know this from first hand expirence with this group.

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

At my school, atlest during spring informal recruitment, most of the sororities had events that were going on at the same time. However they were usually 2 hours long and PNM's were encouraged to visit as many chapters as they could throughout the week. This meant in one night you could visit several chapters spending a little bit of time at whatever ones you wanted to go and visit. If it is allowed, I would highly encourage visiting more than one chapter or as many as you can.

The idea in bold would be great, but it is a big no-no, and if you leave in the middle of any of the rush parties (yes it's still called rush at this school, at least for the locals) to go see another group, or you show up late, chances of getting a bid are slim to none.