Question for the guys

amycat412 · #1 03-20-2001, 08:03 PM

Grrrr.

Can I call him?

I've been seeing this guy, and its early in the...whatever this is... but... he called me yesterday and left the sweetest most amazing message I think I've ever gotten. I called him back later that night and left a message.

I haven't heard back. YES, I know I have no real reason to be unglued, but for some reason I am. I really like him. He seems to really like me.

So my question is-- can I call him later on just so I can put an end to this self torture or do I have to wait for him to call me back? Remember, he placed the first call...

OK, I need to go get a grip now... LOL.
Amy

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James · #2 03-20-2001, 08:21 PM

Glad to see that there are still neurotic people in the world

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If you want to call him call him, why would you wait?

If a guy likes you he likes it when you call, even a lot.

amycat412 · #3 03-20-2001, 08:23 PM

thank you James.

and if he doesn't like me--it won't matter either. and if he's on the fence (which i doubt)--well apathy is my enemy. You either dig me or not. but considering when he was out of town I got an email referencing a 12 step amy deprivation program--i'd say i think i'm in the clear... grrrr.

Yeah, neuroses alive and well here!

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Billy Optimist · #4 03-20-2001, 08:43 PM

call him he'll be glad you did

Miami1839 · #5 03-20-2001, 09:12 PM

If you didnt talk to him when you left your message, I would definitely make a point of calling him again. Especially since you like the guy so much. I'm mean if you dont you might think for a long time and wonder why you didnt. I say call him. I agree with James. Its nice to see there are still neurotic people in the world

Kevin

damasa · #6 03-20-2001, 10:08 PM

just refer to my post about things that you did and you wish you didn't or you didn't and wish you did...that will explain everything...call him...talk to him..even if he doesn't take to you...you may be hurt for a short time, but if you get knocked down, get up, dust off, keep moving ahead.

"Jump at every chance you get, because it may be the last chance you do get."--me

amycat412 · #7 03-20-2001, 10:49 PM

thanks guys. I did call and leave a "breezy" and upbeat message. friendly.

hopefully he will call back. grrrr. i hate this. crushes are soooo uncomfortable.

Amy

Billy Optimist · #8 03-20-2001, 11:09 PM

Just kiss him. He seems like he's into you. Just go for it, you only live once.

amycat412 · #9 03-20-2001, 11:16 PM

um, we've already kissed and more...

KSig RC · #10 03-20-2001, 11:52 PM

ok well this seems to have been somewhat resolved already, but - i think a good policy for girls is to basically tell guys the way things will/should be . . . many of my female friends complain about stuff like this, and it's generally a great policy to just take control of the situation - call him, ask him out, start discussions about the relationship , or whatever Guys generally respond well to that - we're lazy and we don't realize you're not, so it's not a big deal if i don't call back right away - i'll get to it later. but if you call, well great! takes it off my shoulders. aight, well there you have it . . . couldn't be simpler, huh? ; )

amycat412 · #11 03-21-2001, 12:06 AM

so I could bite the bullet and say, for instance that I'm not comfortable with seeing other people given the level of intimacy...? and not totally scare him off?

Billy Optimist · #12 03-21-2001, 12:31 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by amycat412:
um, we've already kissed and more...

and you're worried about calling?

amycat412 · #13 03-21-2001, 01:04 AM

um, yeah. the scene is soooo different when not in college...that's the problem, i always expect it to be like it was then--fairly straightforward, you know a player when you meet him, etc. But its not... and damn these guys are slick...

Also my specific question/concern was in calling AGAIN. I returned his call yesterday and really want to talk to him, w/o waiting for him, you know? He's insanely busy workwise, and preparing to head out of town on business, so... grrrr. like i said, i hate this. ha ha

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damasa · #14 03-21-2001, 01:25 AM

hold back nothing, no regrets. Live life to the fullest, and don't look back on the past, people tend to get lost and forget about the future because of the what if....just kick ass and take names later!!! Oops..sorry..that's my rugby team talking for me again

Billy Optimist · #15 03-21-2001, 02:20 AM

a 12 step amy deprivation program doesn't sound like a player