Walking on eggshells

[Dionysus]

What do you to people who you constantly have to walk on eggshells around?

I have an aunt who we are close to, matter of fact she partially raised us as kids. She lives close to us, she doesn't have a car, so we have to drive her around all the time...no problem with that. Problem is that she is very hard to get along with because everything and I mean EVERYTHING offends her. Me and my youngest brother seems to be her favorite victims...I assume because we put up with it the least.

She's the type even if someone gives her a look more than 5 seconds it will end up in confrontation. She has accused us of stealing her things...in which it always turns up because she actually LOST it. She has also accused us of spreading lies about her. Whenever I can't take her somewhere and I ask her to ask someone else for a ride, she accuses me of "sticking" her w/ someone else. This is just the tip of the ice berg. And...if she would to ever read this we would be dead, lol.

This is where it gets worse, whenever we refuse to put up w/ the drama she tells us things like, "You all don't love me...I did so much for you all" or "If it wasn't for me, you all would be NOTHING". Yep, blatant manipulation.

So...to avoid confrontation w/ her, we are very vigilant about what comes out of our mouths when we are around her. But, nope that doesn't help, she will still get offended about something.

Sometimes, we rub it in. Whenever she accuses us of stealing her things, we tell her not only we stole it but we SOLD it too, lol. Or, whenever she tells us that we don't love or appreciate her, we AGREE with her. That doesn't work either.

Last, we tell her whatever SHE wants to hear...non stop flattery. The most effective, however it STILL doesn't work time to time. We can say something totally nice and she would twist our words around to make it negative.

Lately we got to the point where we avoid her period. And because of this...it's really straining our realtionship w/ our dad because she's his (adopted) sister. He tells us that we are extremely nonconsiderate, selfish, and disrespectful because we don't want to be bothered with her. Whatever.

How can we end this madness?