"Don't pledge a sorority cause they will turn you into a bitch"

greekintraining · #1 04-20-2008, 05:51 PM

Is what some of my boyfriends brothers said to me the other night. They say that I'm a nice girl and they don't want to see me become a snobby bitch like other girls they know. I come back saying that if i ever did pledge that I would always stay true to my morals. But they said that pledging changes you. Yeah, hopefully for the better I said. Is that really how guys feel about girls after they pledged. I mean come on, I knew some of these guys before they got into their house and the fact that they pledged a fraternity doesn't change my view of them as a person, so why am I getting all of this crap that If I do decide to pledge then they may not see me the same way anymore. Also if I did pledge to a sorority that they disliked would me being a part of it or wearing their letters make them dislike me as a person. Or if a sorority that I pledge dislikes the fraternity that my boyfriend is in would they give me problems about being with him and hanging out there?

AGDLynn · #2 04-20-2008, 05:56 PM

Maybe they kept getting dumped by sorority girls who had brains.

"Maybe pledging changes you"....are they exactly the same before and after they pledged their fraternity?

Go to the recruitment events with open mind.

Who will you remember the longest...the awesome group you coulda/shoulda/did joined (or the twerpy boyfriend's (who's no longer in the pic) friends?

AOII Angel · #3 04-20-2008, 05:58 PM

If those guys wouldn't like you because you joined a sorority, then they aren't worth knowing! The last place you need to get advice about sorority life is from a fraternity guy.

KSUViolet06 · #4 04-20-2008, 06:02 PM

Why are you listening to them? Go through recruitment and make decisions for yourself, not based on the sorority they like/don't like.

Also, if this group of guys is going to dislike you just because of the sorority you pledge, and your bf goes along with it, you need a new group of guy friends and a new boyfriend.

Not to be a downer, but theortically, you could break up. So why would you choose a sorority based on what he likes when you might not even be together in a year?

I've seen it happen where a girl makes choices in recruitment based on a guy and his fraternity brothers, they break up, and then she inds herself in a sorority that doesn't fit her but is the one the guys thought was the "best".

As far as a sorority, if they are going to give you crap based on the fraternity your bf is in, you really don't want to join them anyway.

DSTCHAOS · #5 04-20-2008, 06:04 PM

The world awaits the next exciting topic inspired by your "boyfriend's brothers."

DSTRen13 · #6 04-20-2008, 06:05 PM

The world needs more bitches. Go for it.

greekintraining · #7 04-20-2008, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

The world awaits the next exciting topic inspired by your "boyfriend's brothers."

OK, so yeah the last few topics that I posted were about my boyfriends brothers. However even in the long run if we are not together the advice still helps.

greekintraining · #8 04-20-2008, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Why are you listening to them? Go through recruitment and make decisions for yourself, not based on the sorority they like/don't like.

Also, if this group of guys is going to dislike you just because of the sorority you pledge, and your bf goes along with it, you need a new group of guy friends and a new boyfriend.

Not to be a downer, but theortically, you could break up. So why would you choose a sorority based on what he likes when you might not even be together in a year?

I've seen it happen where a girl makes choices in recruitment based on a guy and his fraternity brothers, they break up, and then she inds herself in a sorority that doesn't fit her but is the one the guys thought was the "best".

As far as a sorority, if they are going to give you crap based on the fraternity your bf is in, you really don't want to join them anyway.

Wow, that has got to be the best advice I've read on here, your so right we could break up and if we did i would want to be part of a group of girls that I joined for me not a group that I joined for him. So if it comes down to it and he tells me that I shouldn't join XY or Z sorority because his house doesn't like them then I would definitely have to rethink our relationship.

DSTCHAOS · #9 04-20-2008, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by greekintraining

OK, so yeah the last few topics that I posted were about my boyfriends brothers. However even in the long run if we are not together the advice still helps.

Yes, you will always need to know how to impress a boyfriend's fraternity brothers and whether joining a sorority will make a boyfriend's fraternity brothers dislike you/what will happen if the sorority you join dislikes a boyfriend's fraternity.

Not really.

KSU's advice is perfect. Most importantly, I advocate women developing more as people before they consider themselves to be "greekintraining." Then some of your "boyfriend's brothers'" questions would be less relevant to you.

ree-Xi · #10 04-20-2008, 06:41 PM

No, I think they got it wrong. Being in a sorority doesn't turn you into a bitch. You have to BE a bitch already to become a member.

FYI.....Bitch = strong woman.

Scandia · #11 04-20-2008, 06:50 PM

The snottiest meanest cattiest girl I know is very anti-sorority. In fact, she's probably going around calling me a sorostitute.

DSTCHAOS · #12 04-20-2008, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

FYI.....Bitch = strong woman.

Bitches aren't always strong, opinionated, assertive women.

Sometimes "bitches" are snobby, biligerent, obnoxious, unnecessarily aggressive or arrogant......

It's the latter bitch that makes it difficult for the former bitch. But which bitch women are considered to be often depends on who's judging.

ree-Xi · #13 04-21-2008, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Bitches aren't always strong, opinionated, assertive women.

Sometimes "bitches" are snobby, biligerent, obnoxious, unnecessarily aggressive or arrogant......

It's the latter bitch that makes it difficult for the former bitch. But which bitch women are considered to be often depends on who's judging.

Lol @ "which bitch"!