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Old 12-22-2008, 05:06 PM
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fraternity question...

I was recently inducted into a fraternity. Me and a couple of friends realize though that we would probably would have fit in better at a different one. We did this fraternity because my friends older brother was in it and we were, not pressured, but sort of felt obligated to do it. But now we regret that decision. The problem is that we would like to be in a fraternity, just not the one that we are in right now.

I see us most likely dropping the frat at some point. But I was wondering what the rules are to joining another fraternity after being inducted into one. Is it even possible? Is there some way to work around this, to where I could somehow be eligible to drop the frat I'm in and join a different one? Or am I stuck in this one? Any advice would be great, Thanks!
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Old 12-22-2008, 05:14 PM
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By inducted I assume you mean initiated?

I don't believe you can just join a different group. Even if you do terminate your membership with whatever fraternity you are in (I think there is a procedure for this, someone please correct me if I'm wrong), do you think any other group would want a member who had dropped another group? I know at many campuses even getting a bid after dropping pledging is difficult.

However, my best advice is to stay in your org and work with your friends to make the org into the group that you want it to be. Why do you want to drop your membership? What would you want out of a different fraternity?

ETA: Read this thread http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=86918
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Old 12-22-2008, 05:28 PM
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yes I meant initiated I apologize. I feel I would fit in better at a different fraternity. My pledge class is not a group of kids (for the most part) that I see myself wanting to be around a lot of the time.

I know this is a longshot, I was just curious to know if there was any way to get out of this and be in a different one. But I assume being initiated makes that impossible?
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I know this is a longshot, I was just curious to know if there was any way to get out of this and be in a different one. But I assume being initiated makes that impossible?
I don't think anyone here can say for sure.
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Old 12-22-2008, 05:56 PM
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Old 12-22-2008, 06:08 PM
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What fraternity were you initiated into?
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Old 12-22-2008, 06:34 PM
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I was initiated into Sigma Alpha Mu or "Sammy"
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Old 12-22-2008, 09:46 PM
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Then your answer is probably no -- the official requirement for many is that you get some sort of formal dismissal from your prior organization (if it is a national college fraternity), and even then most of them won't accept you even then.

The key here is whether you've been initiated or not. You say "inducted," so that may be different, but if you've gone through being a pledge (or whatever equivalent there is), then you're just out of luck unless you lie (and don't get caught).
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Old 12-22-2008, 10:24 PM
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Kevin, he has been initiated.
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Old 12-22-2008, 10:47 PM
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Kevin, he has been initiated.


So I understand this completely, when you refer to "initiated" meaning that he has been sworn in and pinned as an active brother of SAM and not initiated as a pledge/associate member....correct?

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Old 12-22-2008, 10:48 PM
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Would this 'fraternity' be the Hall of Fame? Inducted? Seriously?

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I was recently inducted into a fraternity. Me and a couple of friends realize though that we would probably would have fit in better at a different one. We did this fraternity because my friends older brother was in it and we were, not pressured, but sort of felt obligated to do it. But now we regret that decision. The problem is that we would like to be in a fraternity, just not the one that we are in right now.

I see us most likely dropping the frat at some point. But I was wondering what the rules are to joining another fraternity after being inducted into one. Is it even possible? Is there some way to work around this, to where I could somehow be eligible to drop the frat I'm in and join a different one? Or am I stuck in this one? Any advice would be great, Thanks!
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Old 12-22-2008, 11:35 PM
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Thanks for your help, SigmaChiGuy

and to clear everything up I was initiated
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Old 12-23-2008, 03:07 AM
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So you're a sammy at UT, Fall 2008, and your friend's older brother is an active.

sammy doesn't have to big of a pledge class so I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be hard for one of them to figure out who you are. I'm sure they'll be glad to know you were publicly voicing your discontent with them on the internet to strangers, rather than man up and tell them what you don't like, or better yet, try to change them.
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Old 12-23-2008, 04:11 AM
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So you're a sammy at UT, Fall 2008, and your friend's older brother is an active.

sammy doesn't have to big of a pledge class so I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be hard for one of them to figure out who you are. I'm sure they'll be glad to know you were publicly voicing your discontent with them on the internet to strangers, rather than man up and tell them what you don't like, or better yet, try to change them.
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Old 12-23-2008, 11:01 AM
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A couple of friends and I... or I, and a couple of friends...

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