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Old 03-14-2005, 04:27 PM
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How do you tell them nicely...

how do you tell your girlfriend/wife/husband/boyfriend nicely that they have gained weight and need to lose it?
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Old 03-14-2005, 04:28 PM
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I think that they probably know and don't need to be told.
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Old 03-14-2005, 04:38 PM
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What PnC said.

I should also add that they only need to lose weight if THEY feel that they need to lose the weight.

Your opinion shouldn't matter.
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Old 03-14-2005, 04:43 PM
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Re: How do you tell them nicely...

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how do you tell your girlfriend/wife/husband/boyfriend nicely that they have gained weight and need to lose it?
You say, "Honey, you're beautiful and I love you just the way you are."
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Old 03-14-2005, 04:43 PM
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You say, "Honey, you're beautiful and I love you just the way you are."
Have you ever heard that song that goes:

"Back to life, back to reality"?

Bobby, I would take them jean shopping. If they don't get the hint when they can't fit in the decent sizes, then I'd say things like "I'm gonna go running, come with me" and drag her out.

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Old 03-14-2005, 04:48 PM
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Have you ever heard that song that goes:

"Back to life, back to reality"?
Yes.
But my reality is nicer.
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Old 03-14-2005, 04:51 PM
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Go to exercise classes or the gym and drag them along. If they don't want to come, mention the Paris Hilton lookalike that never wears a bra and loves doing jumping jacks.

If you are becoming unattracted to them because of the weight gain, please help them to head it off before it spirals out of control.
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Old 03-14-2005, 05:09 PM
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Re: Re: How do you tell them nicely...

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You say, "Honey, you're beautiful and I love you just the way you were."

I fixed this for you, or at least for the vast majority of people/relationships.
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Old 03-14-2005, 05:10 PM
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I fixed this for you, or at least for the vast majority of people/relationships.
do you then call them a weenie?
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Old 03-14-2005, 05:13 PM
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The desire to lose weight / get fit has to come from within. No amount of nagging by others is going to get someone to put down the Whopper and get on the treadmill.

But there are things you can do, especially if you yourself want to lose weight / stay slim / get fit. Drag your S.O. out for a run, or to the gym. If you're out together and want to grab lunch, don't let her/him go to McDonald's; go to Subway instead (not that you can't find unhealthy food there, but they are more low-fat / low-carb friendly than other places). Set a good example and try to bring your S.O. along for the ride.

Also, point out that the fitter you are, the more stamina you will have in bed. That will certainly get a man's attention.
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Old 03-14-2005, 05:53 PM
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If looks are your only concern, you might want to consider not being in a relationship.

Looks fade, and shit happens. This way you can just bounce from woman to woman (or man to man) and not worry about telling them they are gaining weight.
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Old 03-14-2005, 06:00 PM
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If looks are your only concern, you might want to consider not being in a relationship.

Looks fade, and shit happens. This way you can just bounce from woman to woman (or man to man) and not worry about telling them they are gaining weight.
There's a difference between looks fading with age and being 25 and letting yourself go to hell when you are physically able to do something about it. (Obviously, if the person has become disabled or such that's another story.)
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Old 03-14-2005, 06:30 PM
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Ask the person if they are pregnant.
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Old 03-14-2005, 06:37 PM
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I should also add that they only need to lose weight if THEY feel that they need to lose the weight.

Your opinion shouldn't matter.
Normally I would agree with you wholeheartedly, Sandy. But if you're in a situation where your loved one medically needs to lose the weight and isn't doing it, then its a whole different ballgame. You're not only hurting yourself, but the people who care about you. In that case, I would say that a person has every right in the world to speak up and voice his concern.

I know whereof I speak.
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Old 03-14-2005, 06:41 PM
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I always gain 5-10 lbs. in the winter and I admit, it's cuz I am lazy and stop going to the gym cuz of the cold. Also, I find that because I am in a relationship, I tend to do a lot more things that revolve around eating. As Peaches pointed out, I am well aware that I need to get my butt in gear again and get back to the gym. I also realize that my boyfriend and I need to start saving our money and staying away from the restaurants. Not to change the subject, but do any of you ladies feel that birth control ties into weight gain? Just curious .
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