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Originally Posted by lillady85
Hi there, I have never posted but I was hoping someone could give me a few answers to my questions. I already read a lot of the FAQ's but I'm still unsure about a few things.
1- I'm a transfer junior from a tiny school to a fairly large Northern city school (I don't know if I can get specific so I won't). To be honest, should I go for it even though I am? I didn't know juniors or upperclassmen aren't given as much of a shot (I'm still here for another 2 quite possibly 3 years) or maybe they are?
2- As for recommendations, how do I get those? I know one person who is an alumna and that's about it. Do all sororities ask for these?
3- Is there really a dress code for recruitment week? I have scoured my school Greek website and haven't seen a thing.
Sorry if its too long, no one in my family has ever pledged (rushed? I don't know the proper words) and so I really don't have anyone to ask. So far this site has been really helpful!
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1 -- YES. ABSOLUTELY. You won't know until you try, but ask the Greek Life office for more specifics on the prospects of a successful recruitment for upperclasswomen.
2 -- At some schools, ESPECIALLY in the North, recommendations are unheard of. I've actually heard of some Northern sororities that totally disregard recommendations if they receive them (and I quote my friend: "Some random alumnae from two states away will have no idea whether or not this woman will fit in with my chapter."). Others take them into account but they're certainly not necessary, and you won't be "marked down" if you don't have one. At some schools, only legacies will obtain a rec from their mom/grandma/aunt as "proof" of a legacy, and the other women don't bother.
Try to ask a sorority member at the college to which you're transferring about recs, if you can. A very very general rule of thumb (and only really applicable to Northern schools): the smaller the percentage of underclasswomen going through recruitment, the less useful a recommendation letter. Basically, if only like 100 women are going through rush, you're going to be able to set yourself apart without a formal rec. Unless you find out it's supercompetitive, I wouldn't lose sleep over not being able to obtain recs for a Northern urban school.
3 -- YES, there will most likely be a dress code, and pay strict attention to it. Ask the Greek Life office or your Rho Chi (recruitment counselor) about the appropriate dress code for each day. I can't imagine them not giving you out specifics as it comes closer to recruitment. Unless you find out that you'll get in trouble (or unless Greek Life gives you a specific "uniform" for particular days -- a plain black dress on pref, a "Go Greek" t-shirt and jeans for open houses, etc.) I would even dress up a touch more than suggested. Don't wear a prom dress, but I would probably wear black slacks and heels on a day where khakis were recommended and so on.