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Deron Williams + Andrew Bogut = winning.
The repeat is on!!!
LET'S GO CAVS!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Sad to hear Gary Waters is suppose to be "Retired" as coach of the Cleveland State University Men's Basketball Program after 11 years. If The Graduate Transfer Rules didn't screw him, He would have been around for at least another 2-3 years. He did run a clean program during his tenure. I and many of the CSU alumni, Students and Fans will miss you.
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It's amazing what a life altering break-up and moving into a tiny apartment because you don't have the time or emotional energy to actually go apartment hunting does to your resolve about holding on to things for sentimental value only.
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How crazy is the world that a library is no longer a place for QUIET studying?
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04-18-2017, 06:39 PM
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I have an etiquette question --
Here's the situation...
My co-worker "Tom" and his wife had their first baby about three weeks ago. I was coming on duty and Tom was going off duty when her water broke. That was perfect timing - I was coming on shift anyway. However, it was a Thursday and Tom was scheduled to work on Saturday. I figured that Tom would either still be at the hospital or, if his wife gave birth, he would want to be home with her and infant for the first few days. So, we were already planning for him to not be there Saturday. No problem! It's a legitimate family event and we wanted him to be with his wife.
Since I was the person on duty, it was my responsibility to call around to hire someone for the Saturday overtime shift. Just as a formality, I did contact Tom and left him a voice message and also sent a text message. I asked him if he could officially confirm that he was not going to be at work on Saturday so that I was clear to hire someone to cover for him. With my voice message, I, of course, added my best wishes for his wife and told him that we were all excited for him. He did not respond to the text or phone call -- of course, he was probably a little bit pre-occupied! So, I went ahead and made the assumption that he would not be coming in and then hired for the shift. (I ended up having to hire myself to do the overtime since no one else could do it.) Tom never phoned or texted me back.
I work two days back-to-back (Thursdays and Fridays). The following day, Friday, in the afternoon, I notified my boss that I was going to pick-up the OT because I hadn't heard from Tom and I figured his wife was probably still in labor. My boss then said, "Oh, Tom had his baby this morning." Uhm...ok. It's not as if my co-worker is obligated to share his personal life with everyone; but, if the baby had been born, I would have thought he'd shoot us a quick text or e-mail to say, "Little babykins was delivered this morning at 8lbs 2oz! Mom and baby are doing great!" If nothing else, he should have texted me back to confirm that he wasn't coming in for his shift. (!!!!) But, ok....he was probably tired and overwhelmed. I can overlook that.
Tom took two weeks off of work for family leave. I covered two of his shifts and another co-worker covered the other two. Tom came back to work this past week. Chatting with me and another co-worker in the parking lot during shift change, Tom apologized for being a couple minutes late. He said he had to go pick-up a gift (a very nice potted plant) from one of the office ladies and added, "You know, from one of the co-workers who does care that I just had a baby."
I understand that he was probably joking; but, that seemed like an impolite thing to say. Was I and the other guy obligated to buy him gifts or otherwise fuss over his new baby? Tom never invited me to his baby shower. In fact, from what I can tell, I was the only person from the department that he did NOT invite to the baby shower! (They had needed me to work the shift so that other coworkers could go to the baby shower.) Tom never sent me a text to let me know he even had the kid, the baby's name, or anything. Three weeks and he never "announced" his baby to us.
Normally, I would bring a nice gift for a co-worker who has just had a baby; but, I elected not to do so. If Tom didn't want to include me in on his personal life, I can absolutely respect that. But, he then turns around and wonders why some of us aren't fussing over him being a new dad? The message is mixed.
Did I break etiquette here? I'm feeling kinda "itchy" because I feel like the gracious thing to do would have been to bring a gift anyway. But, on the other hand, I don't like being treated with discourtesy and his poor manners don't seem to warrant a gift.
Ideas?
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04-19-2017, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted by navane
I have an etiquette question --
Here's the situation...
My co-worker "Tom" and his wife had their first baby about three weeks ago. I was coming on duty and Tom was going off duty when her water broke. That was perfect timing - I was coming on shift anyway. However, it was a Thursday and Tom was scheduled to work on Saturday. I figured that Tom would either still be at the hospital or, if his wife gave birth, he would want to be home with her and infant for the first few days. So, we were already planning for him to not be there Saturday. No problem! It's a legitimate family event and we wanted him to be with his wife.
Since I was the person on duty, it was my responsibility to call around to hire someone for the Saturday overtime shift. Just as a formality, I did contact Tom and left him a voice message and also sent a text message. I asked him if he could officially confirm that he was not going to be at work on Saturday so that I was clear to hire someone to cover for him. With my voice message, I, of course, added my best wishes for his wife and told him that we were all excited for him. He did not respond to the text or phone call -- of course, he was probably a little bit pre-occupied! So, I went ahead and made the assumption that he would not be coming in and then hired for the shift. (I ended up having to hire myself to do the overtime since no one else could do it.) Tom never phoned or texted me back.
I work two days back-to-back (Thursdays and Fridays). The following day, Friday, in the afternoon, I notified my boss that I was going to pick-up the OT because I hadn't heard from Tom and I figured his wife was probably still in labor. My boss then said, "Oh, Tom had his baby this morning." Uhm...ok. It's not as if my co-worker is obligated to share his personal life with everyone; but, if the baby had been born, I would have thought he'd shoot us a quick text or e-mail to say, "Little babykins was delivered this morning at 8lbs 2oz! Mom and baby are doing great!" If nothing else, he should have texted me back to confirm that he wasn't coming in for his shift. (!!!!) But, ok....he was probably tired and overwhelmed. I can overlook that.
Tom took two weeks off of work for family leave. I covered two of his shifts and another co-worker covered the other two. Tom came back to work this past week. Chatting with me and another co-worker in the parking lot during shift change, Tom apologized for being a couple minutes late. He said he had to go pick-up a gift (a very nice potted plant) from one of the office ladies and added, "You know, from one of the co-workers who does care that I just had a baby."
I understand that he was probably joking; but, that seemed like an impolite thing to say. Was I and the other guy obligated to buy him gifts or otherwise fuss over his new baby? Tom never invited me to his baby shower. In fact, from what I can tell, I was the only person from the department that he did NOT invite to the baby shower! (They had needed me to work the shift so that other coworkers could go to the baby shower.) Tom never sent me a text to let me know he even had the kid, the baby's name, or anything. Three weeks and he never "announced" his baby to us.
Normally, I would bring a nice gift for a co-worker who has just had a baby; but, I elected not to do so. If Tom didn't want to include me in on his personal life, I can absolutely respect that. But, he then turns around and wonders why some of us aren't fussing over him being a new dad? The message is mixed.
Did I break etiquette here? I'm feeling kinda "itchy" because I feel like the gracious thing to do would have been to bring a gift anyway. But, on the other hand, I don't like being treated with discourtesy and his poor manners don't seem to warrant a gift.
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I may not be the right person to answer this, as I pretty much have no maternal instincts, I hate buying gifts, and I generally only kind of care about other people having babies when they're family or close friends, but... if I were you, I wouldn't feel bad. I've only bought a gift for a co-worker once, and that was because another co-worker planned a baby shower and invited the whole office, and I knew everyone else was going to buy a gift and I didn't want to be *that* person.
IMO, this whole situation is really weird, and you shouldn't feel obligated to go above and beyond outside of saying congrats and covering his shifts.
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As a new dad, he's probably really tired, cranky, and going through a complete focus change. His wife is focused on the baby now, not him. He has to be focused on the baby now, not himself. So, the petulant, self-absorbed comment comes from that. "Pay attention to me!" It was rude, but I wouldn't spend any time worrying about it, and I wouldn't feel bad about not getting him a gift. I'm not seeing anything that should cause you to feel bad (he didn't invite you to the shower, he didn't communicate with you or thank you for covering his shifts, and he was rude).
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To bicker over something like this sounds kind of childish, to me. And it really isn't a weird situation either. I'd have just worked the dude's shift, said congrats on the newborn, ignored his passive aggressive comments, and moved on. Not that big of a deal.
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Overall, The Browns did good in this year's draft.
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I'm about 2 1/2 weeks out from my due date with baby #2. I'm sooooo sore, that I'm only comfortable laying on my side constantly. Hoping he comes a little early (but not too early!)!
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Tonight's the night. Game One: Cavs / Celtics. LET'S GO CAVS!!!!!!!!!
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I'm about 2 1/2 weeks out from my due date with baby #2. I'm sooooo sore, that I'm only comfortable laying on my side constantly. Hoping he comes a little early (but not too early!)!
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Has baby come yet? It's about 2 1/2 weeks later!
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Has baby come yet? It's about 2 1/2 weeks later!
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Yes! Today was my due date, but my little boy came early and was born last Thursday, May 11th!
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Yes! Today was my due date, but my little boy came early and was born last Thursday, May 11th!
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Pictures or it didn't happen.
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Congrats!
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