Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 15

grkfuture10 · #**211** 12-04-2006, 01:46 PM

Wow, this is so helpful to me! I'm glad that there are greek ladies who are so helpful to young ladies like me trying to learn all they can to be a prospective addition to a sisterhood!

pssgirl83 · #**212** 12-12-2006, 01:16 AM

One on the biggest don't do's we had is do not ever under any circumstances is to not say anything that has to do with legacy, esp. if the PNM is a younger sibling of an active. We had one of the girls do this. they were twins and one had joined in the fall and the other did spring informal, she did not get a bid just for the fact that she thought we "owed" it to her because her sister was already a member.

AChiOhSnap · #**213** 12-12-2006, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by pssgirl83

One on the biggest don't do's we had is do not ever under any circumstances is to not say anything that has to do with legacy, esp. if the PNM is a younger sibling of an active. We had one of the girls do this. they were twins and one had joined in the fall and the other did spring informal, she did not get a bid just for the fact that she thought we "owed" it to her because her sister was already a member.

This is good advice. Even though we had a fairly competitive recruitment at my school, girls would always go through that didn't know better and assumed they would get a bid to XXX sorority for whatever reason. Acting as if you're owed a bid to a certain house is a great way to get yourself cut from ALL the sororities after the first round.

KSUViolet06 · #**214** 12-12-2006, 01:50 AM

I agree. If you are an "in house" legacy to a chapter (meaning your sister or other relative is currently in that specific chapter), chances are good that the entire sorority already knows that you are a legacy. You don't need to remind them. It sounds presumptuous.

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

tunatartare · #**215** 12-12-2006, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

Jill1228 · #**216** 12-12-2006, 10:38 AM

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

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Originally Posted by tunatartare

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

adpiucf · #**217** 12-12-2006, 10:50 AM

Don't ask if your GPA, age or class rank will hurt you in membership selection. That's an awkward question that puts your rusher on the spot. It is ok to ask about scholarship and membership requirements for GPA, however. It is also ok to ask about the general make-up of the chapter (approx. how much of the sorority is currently made up of sophomores, etc.).

tunatartare · #**218** 12-12-2006, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Jill1228

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

No she got in, albeit by a technicality that prevented the girls from dropping her. They were not happy about it.

novaread · #**219** 01-20-2007, 08:54 PM

Hi,
I don't know if I am on the wrong website or not but I wanted to ask a question about membership. How do you go about become a part of a graduate chapter? I am interested in becoming an AKA, I live in Georgia.

novaread

#**220** 01-20-2007, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by novaread

Hi,
I don't know if I am on the wrong website or not but I wanted to ask a question about membership. How do you go about become a part of a graduate chapter? I am interested in becoming an AKA, I live in Georgia.

novaread

Alpha Kappa Alpha Pearls of Wisdom
How to become an AKA

The search function is a wonderful tool.

Trisana58 · #**221** 01-21-2007, 12:50 PM

What are some service sororities that are really involved with helping children (education)?

Oh, and this question has probably been asked already, but I havent seen it, so: Can you join a sorority at another university?

UGAalum94 · #**222** 01-21-2007, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Trisana58

What are some service sororities that are really involved with helping children (education)?

Oh, and this question has probably been asked already, but I havent seen it, so: Can you join a sorority at another university?

I'm not sure you are posting in the right place because this thread, I think, is for examples of what not to say.

Do you really want answers or are you giving examples of what questions not to ask?

Trisana58 · #**223** 01-21-2007, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I'm not sure you are posting in the right place because this thread, I think, is for examples of what not to say.

Do you really want answers or are you giving examples of what questions not to ask?

My bad... Didnt know where else 2 post this... but yes, its a real question.

#**224** 01-21-2007, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Trisana58

My bad... Didnt know where else 2 post this... but yes, its a real question.

The search function is your friend.

UGAalum94 · #**225** 01-21-2007, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

The search function is your friend.

No doubt I'm going to get flamed for my stupidity on this, but I get a lot of lame results when I use the search feature. I'd say only about 1/10 of the returns seem to be about the topic I searched for.

The links at the bottom of the page are sometimes good, and sometimes too dated to be of help.

Do the rest of you get better results? I've tried the advanced search too, but it tends either make it so narrow as to yield no results or give me hundreds of useless posts.

Ayana: I pmed you.