Help!
My daughter just went through recruitment at a small school. She was cut from all of the houses except her last choice after being recruited by several houses through rush dates, etc... She is very active on campus, has lots of friends, good grades and good recs. This was a total surprise to her and everyone who knows her. Before she went to Pref night, she told her recruitment adviser how upset she was and that she didn't think she wanted to be in the sorority that had asked her back. She was willing to give it a chance to see if there were any girls that she knew in the pledge class, but wanted to keep the COB option open and not penalize herself if she decided to go there rush as a Sophomore. Her advisers incorrectly told her (on repeated occasions, in texts and in person) that she would be able to be part of COB if she went to Bid Night but then pulled out of the sorority if she just didn't think that it would work. Fast forward to 3 days after Bid night and my daughter still hasn't made any connections with any girls (she has really tried in all possible occasions, it is just not a fit) and she has just now realized that COB isn't an option because she went to Bid Night. She is devastated and upset that she received incorrect information from her 2 advisers and that this has precluded her from participating in COB and will possibly reflect negatively on her if she rushes as a sophomore. Does she has any recourse? She has made an appointment to talk to the faculty adviser. She is devastated by all of this and has no idea what her next steps should be. I have already told her to give the house a chance but she has very good judgment and is 90% convinced this will not work out. She is also concerned about offending the house that offered her the bid and the girls in the pledge class and wants to handle things in a way that is kind and respectful and does not hurt the feelings of anyone involved. She would really like to be in a sorority and is incredibly disappointed in how this has worked out.
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