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Old 09-12-2015, 02:55 AM
Wynter Wynter is offline
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I would advise not to drop, as many here have done. I too felt disconnected from my pledge class, and to this day even as an alum I rarely speak to them. We just never had a ton in common.

However, it takes time. A lot of time. Friendship is not instant, as you know, but I understand how overwhelming it must feel for you right now. It's perfectly fine to excuse yourself from drinking, to go home and study or read and have a quiet night in when you're not up for it.

What matters the most is giving it a chance and making an effort to get to know your sisters. Remember: IT. TAKES. TIME. It can take quite a lot of time. Don't beat yourself up if you're not OMG BFF the first week. That will all fade and change, trust me. Alliances shift, people change, etc.

I guarantee you there are other girls in your chapter like you. It takes time to find them.
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Old 09-12-2015, 11:42 AM
KDCat KDCat is offline
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Originally Posted by BraveMaroon View Post
I think the Apple/Orange/Banana is really sort of a red herring in all this. I got my absolute first choice, connected with plenty of girls on a lot of different levels and still thought to myself, several times the first month or two, "Oh, dear, what have I done?"

Remember too that the wild girls are likely going to get a reality check at some point in their first semester. So the craziness that occurs now cannot sustain forever.

My advice - talk to your NME - she can help you meet sisters who share common interests.
Those midterm grade reports suck for a whole lot of people in the first semester of freshman year. People have to get serious or go home.
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Old 09-12-2015, 12:58 PM
APhiLife APhiLife is offline
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I would definitely stick it out. It takes time for a group to mesh and you will become closer and closer to the sisters you have the most in common with as time goes on.
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Old 09-12-2015, 01:08 PM
Tom Earp Tom Earp is offline
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The first semester is always the hardest because it is your first time from leaving home.
Being a pledge at the same time is even more stressful!

But in saying this, when and if you are initiated and become an active member a lot will change. Remember, being in a Sorority is not just about the 4-5 years in college.

One can be very active as an alum also.

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