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01-11-2003, 06:53 PM
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Fraternity Sweethearts
Hi I just wanted to know do alot of fraternities have sweethearts? If so, I do go about choosing the girl to be your sweetheart? I've always wanted to be a sweetheart but I don't think the frat's on my campus still do this.
Also, if anyone's been a fraternity sweetheart?
In my sorority, it will be a first time in many years that we have made a guy our sweetheart. I was just wondering if frat's still do this.
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01-12-2003, 12:27 AM
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My wife is my fraternity sweetheart. It's not too difficult for us to establish sweethearts, but in my case, I didn't have to make much of a case as I had already proposed to her before requesting that she become my fraternity sweetheart.
It's been a while since any other of our members officially made their S.O. a sweetheart, though.
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01-12-2003, 01:20 AM
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Our chapter has had 'official' sweethearts in the past (judging from composites) but have not in a couple years...
Of course, any wife of a brother or girlfriend of a brother is 'unofficially' a KappaSig Sweetheart.
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01-12-2003, 05:05 AM
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I was a KA Rose
I can't say that there is anything that you can really do to get letters at a house. Some guys are pretty vicious, and if they sense that you are "trying" to get letters at their house, they won't give you letters just to make a point.
It's probably different on every campus. I personally had never dated any of the guys in the house. I hung out with them a lot, because I thought they were fun. When they made me a KA Rose, I was pretty surprised. Lots of girls had been hanging around the house, cooking food for them, cleaning their kitchen. Stuff that I would never bother doing. In the end, I knew it was because they respected who I was. Most of them are like little brothers to me anyways.
My best advice for you would just be to not try to get letters. Hang out with the guys, get to know them, and you might make some really great friends.
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01-12-2003, 10:55 AM
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sweethearts
I am a sweetheart of Sigma Pi and Sigma Phi Epsilon. The Sigma Pi's at my campus choose one sweetheart for each pledge class. The pledge class has to all agree on one girl, and they are usually in a sorority. At the end of their pledging they take her up to Old Main and stand her up on the steps and sing to her their Sigma Pi sweet heart song.
The Sig Eps choose their sweetheart one each year and sing to her at their formal.
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01-12-2003, 11:57 AM
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we have a beta sweetheart every year. the rules for choosing her are:
-she cant be a freshman
-she cant be a current girlfriend of any brother (as the past has proven that other girlfriends get quite jealous)
-she is chosen by the seniors
the sweetheart is usually a girl most seniors are friends with. in addition to the singing and other stuff, she will also be in our composite picture for that year
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01-12-2003, 03:27 PM
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Fraternities on our campus haven't had any sweethearts in the last four years. We've got Delta Chi, Theta Chi, Theta Delta Chi (underground), TKE (underground), Kappa Sigma, and AKL.
Too bad..... it's a tradition that definately seems to be getting lost.
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01-12-2003, 04:07 PM
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Just wanted to say there is a HUGE difference between choosing one sweetheart on a yearly basis and choosing several girls who retain their titles as long as they are in school.
The former is fine, the latter is very similar to having little sisters and outlawed by most national fraternities.
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01-12-2003, 04:08 PM
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Our sorority
Our sorority has been PIKE Dreamgirl and TKE Sweetheart except for two years. Last year, the TKEs chose a girlfriend of one member(she's really nice). And the PIKEs chose the girlfriend of a member. Other than that, if you walk in their office, half of the stuff they have is from a PHI SIG.
If you're trying to be a sweetheart, the most important thing to remember is to do things for them because you like them. . .not because you want to be a sweetheart. Last year, a girl in our sorority was nominated because she showed up to all of their fundraisers and was like the big sister to the pledge class. This year, I don't know it's kind of tough.
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01-12-2003, 04:19 PM
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I was a Pi Kappa Phi Rose. I did not date any of the brothers, but had many great friends in the fraternity. I used to make them goody bags during exams and recruitment, and would take them those huge cookies from the Cookie Factory. I guess I made the bags so full, all the brothers got some of the goodies! They would also have fundraisers in my hometown, and I would take them donuts and coffee by since they had to stand outside in the cold all day. Maybe thats why I was chosen, I don't know. It's funny - I was not planning to attend the formal where they announce and sing to the Rose, and they were all like "you've got to come"...They paid for my tickets and my date, a Pi Kap from another chapter. It was so sweet!
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01-12-2003, 06:08 PM
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At the school I transferred from (University of Minnesota) I know that a lot of the fraternities and sororities have sweetheart competitions, where new members from each sorority or fraternity compete with the others to see who the sorority or fraternity likes best. One of my guy friends was running for Kappa Alpha Theta sweetheart and by the end of the week he kept telling me, "I don't know if I want to win anymore!" because he liked the girls so much, and it was in the rules that the guy who was crowned sweetheart king wasn't supposed to date any of the girls in the house. My friend was never so happy to come in second place.
I know that most of the fraternities at Minnesota had sweethearts, but I'm not sure about the ones here at Wisconsin.
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01-12-2003, 07:22 PM
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A few girls in my sorority were discussing this today while we were painting at our house. We thought it would be a good idea to see if Alpha Phi has a sweetheart program like the TKEs and Pikes (both on our campus, so those are the ones that we're familiar with). There have been a couple guys that have done a lot of great stuff for us, and usually the only way we can think to reward them is making them our Homecoming King (organizations compete against each other, and each have a king and queen for court).
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01-12-2003, 07:33 PM
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Originally posted by 33girl
Just wanted to say there is a HUGE difference between choosing one sweetheart on a yearly basis and choosing several girls who retain their titles as long as they are in school.
The former is fine, the latter is very similar to having little sisters and outlawed by most national fraternities.
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I'm not really sure that I understand the difference. Can you explain? Why is it a problem that the girls would retain their title vs. picking a new girl yearly?
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01-12-2003, 11:14 PM
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Most NIC groups outlawed little sister groups on the basis that it was taking away from fraternity programming. They had a separate pledge program, initiation ceremony, and there were little sister-related offices for the brothers. Your reference to "getting letters" was what sounded like little sisters to me. It might be different at your school though. We are not allowed to have more than one official sweetheart per fraternity or sorority at one time, and a different one is chosen each year.
FWIW, I have no problem with little sisters, but it's one of those things that depending on the national you have to be VERY careful with nowadays.
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01-13-2003, 12:00 AM
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by 33girl
[B]Most NIC groups outlawed little sister groups on the basis that it was taking away from fraternity programming. They had a separate pledge program, initiation ceremony, and there were little sister-related offices for the brothers. Your reference to "getting letters" was what sounded like little sisters to me. It might be different at your school though. We are not allowed to have more than one official sweetheart per fraternity or sorority at one time, and a different one is chosen each year.
I'm not really aware of that kind of little sister program. I'm sure that they exist, but that's now how it worked at my school. I think that the only thing resembling a real pledge program is that I got a both a big brother and a little brother. Both of whom I am very fond of. I never really got involved in any other their brotherhood stuff, because I just feel that would be kind of innappropriate. Also, that is exactly why I am in a sorority.
However, I can see your point. There are girls that get way too into the politics of a fraternity and it shouldn't be that way.
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