Rush - What to NOT do or say

MTSUGURL · #1 03-12-2003, 01:50 AM

Instead of asking for tips for recruitment and hearing, "keep an open mind" and "be yourself":
We all want to make a good impression, and we all have "off" days. I just read the thread about the married woman wanting to rush, and I agree that in no way should that be keep quiet. What kind of things would you advise PNMs to keep quiet or avoid doing?
If you could say, "No matter what, don't __________________!", what would you fill in the blank with?

AOIIalum · #2 03-12-2003, 07:49 AM

No matter what, don't pretend to be something or someone else just to fit in to a sorority or particular chapter.

Of course, always put your best foot forward and be at the top of your game during recruitment! But, don't try to re-invent yourself into something you're not. If you can't see yourself after an all night study session, no makeup, in desperate need of a shower, basically at your worst with the girls in a sorority, then it just may not be the one for you.

Make sense? Hope so!
Christin

MTUDeepher · #3 03-15-2007, 02:54 PM

Like from above, don't talk about boys, beer/being smashed, drugs (I've seen a PNM do this, it was a huge turn off), money, politics, sex, or religion. I like to think that conversations at rush should almost like the conversation you would have at a business lunch/dinner. Concentrate on the good things in your life. i.e: If you visit the humane society to give some kitties some good old fashion loving, or your work as a big sister in big brother/big sister, these kinds of things will let membership know more of your moral standings than your party habits.

oceanphi01 · #4 03-12-2003, 08:32 AM

No matter what, donm't bring up controversial topics, such as abortion. One PNM brought this up during formal recruitment and told us about the big sign she and her family had on the top of her house about how abortion was wrong. She brought this up to the wrong person and acted like she was right and no one else was. That was a big turn off for her getting a bid from us.

Kevin · #5 03-12-2003, 09:06 AM

A gentleman never discusses politics or religion... That's always a pretty good rule to follow.

kouros1973 · #6 07-23-2008, 02:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kevin

A gentleman never discusses politics or religion... That's always a pretty good rule to follow.

dear kevin a gentleman is always redy to discuss EVERYTHING for fear is not a gentleman's way but correct critic of matters is.

carnation · #7 06-29-2015, 06:06 PM

TTT!

MoxieGrrl · #8 03-12-2003, 09:45 AM

If you are a legacy to a certain house, don' t mention anything about how you are "guaranteed a bid."

Phimufrenzy · #9 10-19-2008, 12:12 AM

When is a girl assured of a bid? Is it automatic after pref night?

33girl · #10 03-12-2003, 10:03 AM

No matter what, don't ever utter the phrase "I am going to pledge XYZ" or "When I am a sister of XYZ." Before, during or after rush.

How would you like it if a random man walked up to you and said "I am going to marry you" or "When you are my wife, we will yadda yadda yadda"?? You'd think he was an arrogant jerk, that's what.

And lesson learned from Sorority Life - if you have an odd situation that could affect your eligibility - like being a transfer or a problem with your transcripts - make sure it gets cleared up through the Greek life office before you even start rush.

shadowstar · #11 03-12-2003, 01:38 PM

don't spike your drink at rush parties.
i'm serious, it does happen, and the results sure aren't good.
also, make sure you get your questions about a house answered before you decide to pledge there, so you aren't regretting your decision later and stuck having to wait to pledge a different house.

twinstars · #12 03-12-2003, 03:54 PM

During rush parties...

DON'T....
--talk about controversial things like political views, abortion, race, etc. You really don't know (and may not be able to tell) if you're rubbing the other person the wrong way. It's okay if you don't agree with the other person, fine, but it's just not appropriate talk with someone you just met at a sorority rush party.

--talk about guys (unless you know someone in common in a non-sketchy way), hookups, drinking, drugs, or excessively talk about your party life. You wouldn't want to make it sounds like there's nothing more to you than liking to have a good time.

--talk much (or at all!) about other sororities. You look bad if you trash another house, and if you say you like another house, the girls at the house you're at may think you don't want them.

IF YOU HAVE DEFERRED RUSH (AFTER CHRISTMAS BREAK)....
Don't forget that the upperclass Greek women are watching you during fall term, whether you have open contact (are allowed to talk/hang out) or not. They are observing you in class, at parties, in extracurricular clubs, etc. Some rushees are completely unaware that what you do during the term before rush week really does count, either for you or against you. By the time actual rush begins, many Greek girls will already have formed an opinion of you by observing you in other situations. You need to be on your best behavior most of the time in public. Don't talk loudly about sororities in public places... you never know if a sorority girl is standing near you, or if one's boyfriend is. This is especially true at small colleges where the gossip mill is out of control.

nucutiepie · #13 03-12-2003, 04:52 PM

My chapter uses the "4 Bs" of conversation topics to avoid:

1) BOYS - you never know what someone's history with a boy is. You could be talking up the guy who broke someone's heart or trashing their boyfriend... and a few years ago there was a rushee who was gushing about her boyfriend to an active... who just happened to be the guys girlfriend who he was cheating on with the rushee... the poor active just burst into tears.

2) BOOZE - Rush is not the time to tell "and oh my God, I was SOOOOOOOO DRUNK" stories! We tell our actives if a rushee brings it up to go with it but not bring it up ourself.

3) BANKBOOK - Rush is not about how much money you and/or your family have, at least not in my chapter; generally its just tactful to avoid this as a topic of conversation.

4) BELIEFS - Religion, politics, anything similarly controversial fits under this umbrella... while it is nice to show a girl you care, rush is generally not the time for a spirited ideological debate. If an active asks you what you do for extracurricular activities and the correct answer is, "Hillel" or "Campus Crusade for Christ" or an anti-war group, tell the truth, but don't purposely start debates or make controversial comments (ie, this would not be the time to discuss pro-life vs. pro-choice)

nucutiepie · #14 03-12-2003, 04:54 PM

Also, to back up twinstars, DO NOT talk about other sororities at rush party - we had a girl who wanted to be an XYZ come through this year and all she would talk to girls in MY sorority (pi Beta Phi) about was her overwhelming desire to be in XYZ, how she looooved this girl she met at XYZ, etc... we took it as an insult, because frankly it was pretty insulting to us.

PinkRose1098 · #15 03-12-2003, 05:21 PM

We've always been told that the five B's are off limits during Recruitment:

Boys
Bible
Booze
Bush
Booty