Random Wedding Thread - Page 57

DrPhil · #**841** 05-28-2009, 05:58 PM

Maybe it was nervous laughter. That is so rude.

At the same time, isn't cash supposedly a lazy or inappropriate gift? I'd rather have cash, but a lot of people see that as insulting.

aephi alum · #**842** 05-28-2009, 06:06 PM

So, what with the popularity of penis cakes, penis pasta, penis straws, etc. for bachelorette parties, and with gay marriage now legal in several states... what if the happy couple are both women? A penis theme seems inappropriate in that case. Hmm... a bachelorette party for both women? Pussy cake?

KSUViolet06 · #**843** 05-28-2009, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by chitownxo

4) We wound up giving them a check and a copy of Emily Post. My husband's Aunt (the Groom's Mom) thought the book was a good idea.

For the win.

WinniBug · #**844** 05-28-2009, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Maybe it was nervous laughter. That is so rude.

At the same time, isn't cash supposedly a lazy or inappropriate gift? I'd rather have cash, but a lot of people see that as insulting.

i'd sometimes prefer cash to a gift card
you can use cash anywhere, not just at a specific store

WinniBug · #**845** 05-28-2009, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by aephi alum

So, what with the popularity of penis cakes, penis pasta, penis straws, etc. for bachelorette parties, and with gay marriage now legal in several states... what if the happy couple are both women? A penis theme seems inappropriate in that case. Hmm... a bachelorette party for both women? Pussy cake?

or boobies

agzg · #**846** 05-28-2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Maybe it was nervous laughter. That is so rude.

At the same time, isn't cash supposedly a lazy or inappropriate gift? I'd rather have cash, but a lot of people see that as insulting.

It wasn't. She also sent a thank you note that said "Thank you for the cash. Ha Ha."

I wouldn't count cash as a lazy gift when the person who gave it to you is working two jobs to make ends meet and still took the weekend off work in order to drive a couple of hours each way to your bridal shower/bachelorette party.

ETA: That cake... I mean I suppose no boobie cake is going to be classy but the tattoo and showing nipples add an extra level of class. At least it's realistic in the sense that the books aren't symmetrical.

aephi alum · #**847** 05-28-2009, 11:10 PM

Mmmm, boobie cake...

If I were a woman marrying another woman, I'd want a cake shaped like a cat. I'm a cat person, and it would be interesting to see how many people understood the double entendre.

KSUViolet06 · #**848** 05-28-2009, 11:50 PM

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Originally Posted by WinniBug

i'd sometimes prefer cash to a gift card
you can use cash anywhere, not just at a specific store

I will say though that the appropriateness of giving cash as a wedding gift varies by region.

Example: Cash is a pretty big "no-no" around here, but I attended a wedding in another state where I was the only one who DIDN'T bring cash in an envelope.

VandalSquirrel · #**849** 05-29-2009, 12:19 AM

Even if someone gave me oh, monogrammed Snuggies, a leg lamp ala Christmas Story, or something else tacky or groan worthy, I would never be rude about it***. Why are people so miserable and ungrateful over a GIFT, especially of cash. I think that is just deplorable, no manners, no class, and just greedy and tacky. Some people don't have a lot to give, and a well intentioned though inappropriate gift from the heart is better than no gift. I feel the need to delve into my anthropology background and do some research on registries and gift giving, because I think it is a more recent phenomena with the dowry disappearing.

OOOOHHHH studying registries as a cultural system, there's my dissertation!

***I'd post about it on GC, unless the gift giver posted here

DrPhil · #**850** 05-29-2009, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by WinniBug

i'd sometimes prefer cash to a gift card
you can use cash anywhere, not just at a specific store

I'd also prefer cash.

However, I think I prefer a gift from my registry for a babyshower or actual wedding gift. We may not have the time to buy our own gifts.

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Originally Posted by agzg

It wasn't. She also sent a thank you note that said "Thank you for the cash. Ha Ha."

I wouldn't count cash as a lazy gift when the person who gave it to you is working two jobs to make ends meet and still took the weekend off work in order to drive a couple of hours each way to your bridal shower/bachelorette party.

I agree. Some people are ungrateful.

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I will say though that the appropriateness of giving cash as a wedding gift varies by region.

Example: Cash is a pretty big "no-no" around here, but I attended a wedding in another state where I was the only one who DIDN'T bring cash in an envelope.

Aren't there also cultures where they do things like cash trees?

AGDee · #**851** 05-29-2009, 05:41 AM

I went to a shower a couple weekends ago and when I got to the store with the registry, she'd gotten everything on it, except some sheets which had been discontinued, so I got her a gift card from that store. In my family, cash/check is the expectation for the wedding.. gifts are for the shower. That's just how it is.

RaggedyAnn · #**852** 05-29-2009, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I will say though that the appropriateness of giving cash as a wedding gift varies by region.

Example: Cash is a pretty big "no-no" around here, but I attended a wedding in another state where I was the only one who DIDN'T bring cash in an envelope.

You now have me thinking that the next time I go to a wedding in a different state, I'll have to check on GC to see if giving a check/cash is appropriate. I was under the impression that that was the norm.

KSigkid · #**853** 05-29-2009, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

At the same time, isn't cash supposedly a lazy or inappropriate gift? I'd rather have cash, but a lot of people see that as insulting.

I don't know about that - we had a bunch of people give us cash at our wedding, and we didn't see it that way. We took it more as people wanting to give us a start to a "nest egg."

Munchkin03 · #**854** 05-29-2009, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by lilsunshine214

To be honest I have a rule when it comes to registries: if I can't find it or it's not in my price range, I buy something else! Ooo! What a concept! I don't just sit there and think, "I really want to get them this even if the couple didn't ask for it." Honestly, what's the logic in that?!

In this case, THE REGISTRY IS DONE FOR, with the exception of some things in the $400 range. I love my friends enough to buy them that Le Creuset thing, but I would be much happier spending a quarter of that on another present, or even a Williams-Sonoma gift card. I haven't dealt much with registries as an adult, but this is the first time that virtually was bought out before the wedding. What does one do then that isn't "logical," hmmm?

As far as cash goes, I've been to weddings all over the Southeast, California, and the Northeast (and now Texas!), and no one has ever turned down a gift of cold hard cash.

MysticCat · #**855** 05-29-2009, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I will say though that the appropriateness of giving cash as a wedding gift varies by region.

Example: Cash is a pretty big "no-no" around here, but I attended a wedding in another state where I was the only one who DIDN'T bring cash in an envelope.

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Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

You now have me thinking that the next time I go to a wedding in a different state, I'll have to check on GC to see if giving a check/cash is appropriate. I was under the impression that that was the norm.

We've had a discussion about this before, which can be found here. (Yes, I was the one who found it strange then, too.) It seems to safe to say that it's a custom that varies by region. It's the norm some places and unheard of in others.

I think it's safe to say that it's still considered inappropriate here (except perhaps among those who've moved here from . . . "not from around here."

) I also think it's safe to say that a money tree would be considered downright tacky in these parts -- the couple and the bride's family would be talked about.