Psycho/Stalker PNM's?!

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

Ok, so I have been reading these stories, and I can honestly say that I'm a little more nervous about recruitment in the fall (I will be a sophomore). I just hope my chapter doesn't get any extreme cases!

Don't be nervous! Usually, these cases are not all that common. But every now and then, there is bound to be a weirdo going through. Most people don't go that far--if they don't get in, they just go to another house, where they feel more like they belong.

[BetteDavisEyes]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Hopefully she has moved on with her life and gotten over it.

Well, there is always AI.

Seriously though, this has got to be the funniest thread I've ever read.

[twinkle555]

jocelyn your story totally gave me chills..and not the good kind! here at my chapter we have a few PNMs that just wont quit but they arent NEAR as crazy as that girl!!!!!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by TSteven

I was thinking the same thing. (Don't let Suzie near the bunnies.)

LOL. How did I miss this comment? This might sound morbid, but after this whole thing happened, it was a running joke for me to tell my Big "better check your backseat for Suzie tonight" since she worked until after midnight at the newspaper office and had to drive home afterwards. It was pretty funny.

Suzie worked as a cashier at a campus diner that we all went to for lunch on Wednesdays, so we'd also get good laughs when we'd catch her giving us these "Glenn Close looks of death."

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I cannot believe I didn't post about this before when it happened! This was pretty big drama last semester. I STILL can't believe some of this stuff happened to my chapter. We're the most laid back, friendly girls on campus. Brace yourselves. This is a long one girls:

No, she didn't come through formal recruitment, but we had COB a week or so afterward, and guess who showed up! Yep, Suzie Psycho! She'd seen one of our flyers in the Student Center.

It was awkward, because like I said before, the sister who was friends with her was inactive. This girl was close to being a 5th year AND had already been denied a bid 3 different times back before I joined (1-spring 2003 informal, 2-fall 2003 formal, 3-spring 2004 informal). There were only a handful of members still active last semester who even remembered her. You can imagine the looks on all the girls' faces who knew who she was.

We had to play it cool of course because there were PNMs present. So my Big who is Recruitment Dir. (who was newly initiated when Suzie started becoming obsessed) greeted her like she would anyone else.

Suzie was pretty excited to be there. We'd gotten a new house since she'd rushed last time and she was "really pumped" to see it. She pretty much RAN around the house looking in rooms saying "omg I can't wait to live here next semester."

A sister (who was new and didn't know her) was just casually talking to her. Suzie was almost in tears and kept saying "I love your house" over and over.

The sister said her something like "Thanks for coming" and Suzie replies, "Thank you! I rushed a couple of times back in the day. I never got in, but now that there are so many new girls (we'd about doubled in size since then) I figured I'd give it another shot. I'm pretty sure I'd get one now, especially since all you newer girls are so nice!" The sister just smiled awkwardly.

The way those COBs worked, there were 2 open events and then the last event was by invite only. After that, bids were extended. The next event was open, so of course she showed up.

At this event, she wore a purple sweater. My Little (who also didn't know her), complimented her on it. She said "Thank you so much. I wore it because it's one of your colors. Shows how much I totally love you guys!"

This event also included a financial presentation (like 5 or so minutes where the Treasurer goes over stuff in the brochures and girls can ask questions). Well, Suzie starts crying in the middle of it. Our Treasurer was like "Are you ok?" She replies "Yeah, I'm just so excited to be here it makes me wanna cry. I love you girls so much." So that was weird. The other PNMs looked at her like "umm ok."

She noticed a vase that used to be in the old house and she shrieks "OH MY GOSH I REMEMBER THIS, IT'S FROM THE OLD HOUSE!!!" It startled everyone around her! Then she proceeds to pick it up. A sister kindly asked her to please put it down because it was old and we didn't want it to get broken. Suzie giggled back "Oh it's okay, I was practically an honorary member back in the day. I've earned the right to pick up the vase." Another sister insisted and she finally put it back.

At the end of the night, the Recruitment Director gathered all the PNMs in the foyer and told them that we'd be calling them to let them know if they've been invited back to the final night. She is practically in tears at this point. She hugged the sister who walked her out and told her "OMG I can't wait to wear your letters!" as she skipped out the door.

Two days before the invite only event, we made the phone calls to the PNMs to let them know whether or not they'd been asked back. The sister who made the call to Suzie told me that she was pretty upset. She cried and then she got mad and said "I've been trying to get in since FRESHMAN YEAR! I don't understand WHY I wasn't invited back. I want to know why." The sister told her politely that she couldn't really discuss it. Suzie said some more choice words and hung up.

We thought we were done with Suzie. Wrong. She showed up at our house the day before the invite only event! It was around noon, and everyone is in class or on campus except my Twin. So she answered the door. She had been excused from COB because of night classes so she had no clue who she was.

She said "Can I help you?" Suzie demanded to speak to the Recruitment Director. My twin told her that she was in class but asked if she had a message or number that she could pass along. Suzie replied "Yeah I want to know why I didn't get invited to tomorrow's event. I rushed 3 times and I just think I deserve to get in now." She politely told her that she wasn't at any of the events so she didn't know anything about that. Suzie got mad and said "It's okay, I know you know why and you just don't want to tell me." She walked away.

When my Big got back, she told her about some girl coming by and asking about not getting an invite. She didn't get the girl's name, but she described her. We were pretty shocked to learn that she had actually stopped by.

We again figured that was the last of her. Nope. The next day, the DAY of the event, she leaves a note in our mailbox. I found it when I brought the mail in. It read:

Sisters of Tri Sigma:

I'm really upset that I didn't get invited back to the invite only event. I don't think it's fair that you chose the other younger girls over someone older and obviously more dedicated. As a result, I plan on emailing your advisor, Mrs. _______ whose email address is publicly avaliable in the Greek Life office.

Thank you,
Suzie

We didn't think she'd actually do it, but she did. I don't know why. I think maybe she thought it would "scare" us into inviting her. When Suzie emailed her, she simply emailed her back saying that she was sorry but that membership decisions were up to the collegiate chapter members.

Suzie was pretty fired up. She got our president's number from the KSU directory. We know this because the night of the invite only event, she left her about 5 messages asking to speak with her about the chapter's decision. She never bothered returning her calls, for fear that it would encourage her madness.

Invite-only went great. The next night, we went around to the girl's dorms and extended bids. A new member (who had befriended Suzie during COB) IMed her and was like "OMG Suzie guess what I got a bid!" She replied, "That is so unfair." The new member IMed her back and was like "wow I'm sorry" and that was that.

We really thought we were done after bids went out. Nope. Well the next night, that same new member's away message said something like "At ____ Park celebrating with my new sisters!!!" I'm guesing that's where SUZIE found out the location of our little bid party.

We were at the park hanging out. We'd just gotten done with cake and were sitting with the new girls and giving them info about pinning and stuff. All of a sudden, Suzie walks up!! We were flabbergasted! She just wasn't going to give up.

She says "OMG hi girls!" Then she says to our president, "Hi I just stopped by to ask why I wasn't given a bid. Since you didn't return my calls the other day." An older sister, who remembered Suzie from way back when she first tried to join pulled her aside and suggested that she go home. Suzie got really upset and started crying and saying "I am SO done with Sigma! I'm tired of being treated like this by you guys!! This sorority is FULL of snotty bitches now and I don't get why I EVER wanted to join!"

Everybody is just standing around like . We had no clue how she'd found out about the picnic (we later figured out it was probably from a new members away message). Our advisor went over to her and said that she was going to call the cops because there were families in the park and she was swearing.

She screamed, "Fine, I'll leave, but don't think I won't let EVERY single girl on campus know what mean and awful people the girls are!" Then she jumped in her car and sped off. We all just stood there. We could not believe the crazy week we'd just had.

We never saw or heard from Suzie again. That was pretty much the most bizzare event of my collegiate years. It prompted us to do a workshop about stalking and privacy. In case you're wondering, none of those new members from the park quit. It provides a good laugh when they're all together and swapping "remember when" stories.

It never ceases to amaze me how psychotic people allow themselves (and the people close to them) to get.

[susan314]

jocelyn - looks like you have another one...

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by susan314

jocelyn - looks like you have another one...

I PM'd you about it!

[sigma3princess]

Our sorority was finally installed this semester after a two-year period as a colony. We didn't have too many strange PNMs during the process, but a couple stand out.

One girl went through FR and was cut by all 4 sororities on campus. She returned to two Sigma CORs that semester, and another one in the following semester. We just couldn't believe she didn't get the message.

Another girl, a friend of the first, attended one of our CORs and during an icebreaker, announced to the group that she had set herself on fire and gone through some type of torture experiment......

Needless to say, neither ended up with an invitation to join. BUT, when our colony was under intense pressure to get more members, they both found out about it and emailed our recruitment dir. to volunteer to join!

[Low C Sharp]

Since I hinted at this in my musical rush thread, I have to tell you about Socially Freaky Girl.

SFG went through rush with me and did not get into any a cappella group. She came out to audition again the first time that I was on the "other side." I was so concerned that she would harass the other PNMs, the way she'd clung to me, that we did not even call her back for the first round.

Several weeks later, she recognized a member of my group on the campus shuttle bus. Remember, he is a virtual stranger to her. She asked him when the callback list would go up.

He said, "Um, it went up the next morning, just like we said at the audition." (He didn't add: you weren't on it!)

She: "What?? You mean it's too late for me to come to the callback?"

He: "Well...we've already admitted and initiated the two newbies for this semester."

She: "I CAN'T BELIEVE IT!! I CAN'T BELIEVE I MISSED MY CHANCE! STUPID, STUPID! I ALWAYS MESS IT UP!!" And she started banging her head against the wall of the bus!

BTW, I googled her, and she's now a PhD candidate with several publications in a challenging field at a world-famous university, so she's very successful. It's good to see that she's doing so well...but I surely don't regret that cut.
________

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

BTW, I googled her, and she's now a PhD candidate with several publications in a challenging field at a world-famous university, so she's very successful. It's good to see that she's doing so well...but I surely don't regret that cut.

Yes, academic intelligence is not the same as social/emotional intelligence, that is for certain.

Originally Posted by OTW

You better hope to God that she doesn't find out about AI.

I was just thinking the same thing.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It prompted us to do a workshop about stalking and privacy.

Good idea.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by TSteven

Lets hope that there aren't any additional "updates".

I don't know, people love a train wreck, it would be hilarious to hear more...but how can you top that? Seriously thought, for the sake of your chapter, I hope she is completely done.

[FrozenHurricane]

this is gonna sound stupid, but what does PNM stand for?

[MSKKG]

PNM = Potential New Member.

[AlphaFrog]

Awww...I was disapointed when this thread was bumped, and there were no new addtions.

The only good story I have is that 2 girls who were New Members when my chapter closed, still claim to be ASAs. I don't think either of them have even been through the Phoenix (pledging) ceremony, let alone initiation. I haven't seen either recently, but I know one of them has ASA listed on her MySpace, and the other one was wearing block letters and carrying a tote and keyring a year after we closed. The one that continued to wear letters wants to AI, but she has yet (almost 5 years later, and she was a Jr. when she was bid) to finish a degree, so is not eligible.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Awww...I was disapointed when this thread was bumped, and there were no new addtions.

Me too!