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Old 05-11-2012, 01:33 PM
I2K Beta Mu I2K Beta Mu is offline
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You responded by calling her a bitch. That's not acceptable. I've already proven that I read and understood your viewpoint. You still don't get to call a woman who disagrees with you and doesn't think you "get it" a bitch and expect not to be called out for it.
Go back and read my post.
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:37 PM
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Removed for redundancy.

Glad we could come to an agreement here.
My apologies for calling her a bitch and for what I said to you, but that pisses me off when somebody tells me I don't know about some shit that I DO know a lot about. That girl doesn't know me like that.
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:37 PM
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You cannot judge someone who stays in an abusive relationship unless you've been in one (as in one of the two, not an outside victim), which you've already told us you haven't. You can't even say what you would do for sure, because you truly don't know until you've been there.
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:42 PM
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You cannot judge someone who stays in an abusive relationship unless you've been in one (as in one of the two, not an outside victim), which you've already told us you haven't. You can't even say what you would do for sure, because you truly don't know until you've been there.
You can't say what I would do or what I wouldn't do for the simple fact you don't know me like that. My opinion on the topic still stands whether you agree with me or not. If you stay, it's because you made that decision to stay. Is it easy to bounce? For some, it is, for some it isn't. I think it largely depends on the person and situation. But for those who have trouble bouncing, they should at least be getting some help so they can leave. The shit isn't going to get any better. In some relationships it can, but in most it gets worse. One of my frat was in the same situation, except he was the abuser based on what I've heard through him and other frat. They both got help, because his wife was about to leave. As far as I know they're still together, had a kid, and all seems to be cool. So there are some exceptions.
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:50 PM
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You can't say what I would do or what I wouldn't do for the simple fact you don't know me like that. My opinion on the topic still stands whether you agree with me or not. If you stay, it's because you made that decision to stay. Is it easy to bounce? For some, it is, for some it isn't. I think it largely depends on the person and situation. But for those who have trouble bouncing, they should at least be getting some help so they can leave. The shit isn't going to get any better. In some relationships it can, but in most it gets worse. One of my frat was in the same situation, except he was the abuser based on what I've heard through him and other frat. They both got help, because his wife was about to leave. As far as I know they're still together, had a kid, and all seems to be cool. So there are some exceptions.
Right, I can't say what you would do because you don't know what you would do. You think you do, and you could end up following through if ever put in that situation. I hope you never find out for sure.

I watched my dad mentally and physically abuse my mom. Never severe (I think the worst was when he threw a baseball glove at her), but I told myself I'd never stay in an abusive situstion. Fast forward and I had an incident that landed my husband in the county jail. As with IrishLake, that probably saved our marriage. He got counseling, and every once in awhile he still starts to get worked up, but he's learned to calm himself diwn before he gets physical. His biological dad also abused his mom.
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Old 05-11-2012, 03:14 PM
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Okay I feel you.
Translation: Meet me in that other thread.
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Old 05-11-2012, 03:19 PM
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Right, I can't say what you would do because you don't know what you would do. You think you do, and you could end up following through if ever put in that situation. I hope you never find out for sure.

I watched my dad mentally and physically abuse my mom. Never severe (I think the worst was when he threw a baseball glove at her), but I told myself I'd never stay in an abusive situstion. Fast forward and I had an incident that landed my husband in the county jail. As with IrishLake, that probably saved our marriage. He got counseling, and every once in awhile he still starts to get worked up, but he's learned to calm himself diwn before he gets physical. His biological dad also abused his mom.
I feel you, but where I still disagree is I do know what I would do because growing up I saw what I didn't want. I had a fucked up pops, and with that, I saw as a kid that I didn't want that kind of life. There were times as a kid where I would blame myself, then as I got older I blamed my mom for putting us through that shit. But I look at the situation I'm in right now. I said I didn't want that life and because of the strong minded mofo that I am, I did just that. I changed my situation. Unfortunately the memories of his dumbass will always be there. I can't change that part, but I can change my choices and decisions.

My mom got her life together after dude bounced, sent both me and my sister to college. My sister went on to get her masters, but that's just a piece of paper to me, so I didn't want to fuck with that LOL. Nothing against folks pursuing that. I instead started my own landscaping business which has grown to the point where it's getting tough for me to keep up. But I started it because I wanted something to pass down to my kids if I ever have any. My pops never passed shit down to me, so I made it a point to do the opposite. So I know what I would do in that particular situation. I know, because I've done it.

When your husband did what he did, you didn't put up with the shit like some would. You made the decision to do something about the situation. You didn't leave, but at the same time you didn't put up with the shit either. Some females wouldn't have done shit. Because you made the decision to do something about it, y'all are good. With dude getting worked up over shit, that's pretty normal. We all get worked up and pissed off, that's apart of life. But what I'm saying, if dude kept on doing that shit, then a decision needs to be made. Whether you stay or go, it's still your choice to do what you want to do. That's why I was saying it depends on the situation and the person. Not all situations are going to be the same, which is going to have an impact on the decision being made. With the individual person, some folks are different and really would bounce if they were involved in the shit. There are some folks who really wouldn't put up with that shit, and I applaud those folks.

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Old 05-11-2012, 03:22 PM
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Translation: Meet me in that other thread.
CTFU! Bet.
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Old 05-11-2012, 06:28 PM
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I guess I'm the one he called a bitch?


I2K Beta Mu... calling someone a bitch is verbal abuse. There's so much you don't know about life and relationships, and you don't know what's going on in the minds of others. You can't compare one relationship to the other, and judging in this case can be very offensive. YOU don't know what YOU would do, because you haven't been there.
I have. It was hell. And it all started with him calling me a bitch...

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Old 05-11-2012, 06:31 PM
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It's such a nice day today. Okay, this is bad, but I wish it was cold and rainy today and tomorrow, so I could have cold weather to get away from...Labadee, Falmouth, and Cozumel, here we come. I've been waiting for this trip since December. I'm so excited!

Have a wonderful week everyone.
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Old 05-11-2012, 08:07 PM
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Right now, I have that feeling I have when I wake up to find there was a huge earthquake during the night and I slept through it. You know, waking up to find everyone all in a flutter and you know you missed something big while you where out.
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Old 05-11-2012, 08:59 PM
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And he's banned... again.


It's picnic weather. Hopefully I can convince my boyfriend to go with!
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Old 05-11-2012, 09:04 PM
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Banned? That seems a bit harsh.. though I don't know what he actually called me.
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Old 05-12-2012, 12:08 AM
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It's picnic weather. Hopefully I can convince my boyfriend to go with!
This is an excellent date idea - thank you!
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Old 05-12-2012, 12:57 AM
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Got him again, eh? LOL! I scrolled back to see what he said, but it's all gone. Damn, missed it.
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