Random Wedding Thread

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

You have no idea.

There's a family wedding that has featured the following:

1. Save the Date TEXTS. Not even a postcard, regular e-mail, or Paperless Post.
2. When they decided to change the date, there was no official announcement.
3. Kids who were originally asked to be in the wedding party were removed when they realized they couldn't afford the extra plates.
4. Invitees received a text (in Prince speak) asking if they were going to come because otherwise they wouldn't send an invite.
5. A decision was made that there would be no children at the wedding, which is more than fine. They asked a teenager to babysit...for free, which is NOT fine.

It's just clear that they cannot afford the wedding to which they feel entitled. What's wrong with eloping?

Now that we're pretty deep in wedding planning, I thought about this as a great reminder not to be tacky. It's been a few years, but I'm pretty sure this wedding had a cash bar.

[Munchkin03]

I am just blown away by the number of people who feel it's totally appropriate to ask what our wedding budget is and who's paying for the wedding.

Any recommendations for snarky comebacks? I just say it's none of their business.

[Xidelt]

"My wedding budget is 9 million dollars. Oh, and who's paying? Jesus and Donald Trump."

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I am just blown away by the number of people who feel it's totally appropriate to ask what our wedding budget is and who's paying for the wedding.

Any recommendations for snarky comebacks? I just say it's none of their business.

"My parents give me an allowance for mowing their lawn and cleaning the kitchen, so that helps. And with fiancé's paper route, we almost have enough for our dream wedding!"

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

"My parents give me an allowance for mowing their lawn and cleaning the kitchen, so that helps. And with fiancé's paper route, we almost have enough for our dream wedding!"

This! Or go with the trusty, "Why? Are you offering to pay for it for us?"

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Xidelt

"My wedding budget is 9 million dollars. Oh, and who's paying? Jesus and Donald Trump."

Made my day!

[ASTalumna06]

Talk about some wedding disasters...

http://www.someecards.com/love/weddi...weddings-ever/

ETA: oh my goodness.. I just read the last story, and.. ew, ew ew! There just are no words for how terrible an experience that must have been.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Talk about some wedding disasters...

http://www.someecards.com/love/weddi...weddings-ever/

ETA: oh my goodness.. I just read the last story, and.. ew, ew ew! There just are no words for how terrible an experience that must have been.

O.Mi.Gosh. Why oh why did I read that?!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I am just blown away by the number of people who feel it's totally appropriate to ask what our wedding budget is and who's paying for the wedding.

Any recommendations for snarky comebacks? I just say it's none of their business.

A million because I'm a rich bitch.

[Munchkin03]

Our invitations went out last week. It's exactly 10 weeks out, because about 65% of our invite list would have to fly, and there's a good number who have to arrange childcare as our wedding is no kids. 6-8 weeks is fine when no one has to travel.

Future sister-in-law felt the obligation to tell us that we sent them out too early.

Does she know? Does she know that she's dealing with a sorority girl from the South? Does she know that we had Emily Post AND Amy Vanderbilt's books at our house? Right next to the Bible.

[honeychile]

I have to laugh at your comment about the etiquette books. My parents had friends who were so by the book for their daughter's wedding, that when the pastor who gave the bride in marriage, her father responded, "Amy, Emily, and I."

[aephi alum]

^ Can I just say how glad I am that there is no "who gives this bride" thing in Judaism?

My father was opposed to my marriage to a "heathen" (read: non-Catholic). Not only that, but I'd converted to this "heathen" religion (Judaism) through my own choice. (Never mind that Jesus was Jewish...) He wasn't going to attend the wedding at all, but my mother was a stubborn woman, so he attended, but didn't do any of the father-of-the-bride things.

In any case, if I'd married a Catholic like I was supposed to and the "who gives this bride" question had come up, I'd have answered with, "Nobody. Nobody GIVES me away. I'm my own woman. Now, who gives this groom in marriage??!"

I inherited my mother's stubborn streak

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Our invitations went out last week. It's exactly 10 weeks out, because about 65% of our invite list would have to fly, and there's a good number who have to arrange childcare as our wedding is no kids. 6-8 weeks is fine when no one has to travel.

Future sister-in-law felt the obligation to tell us that we sent them out too early.

Does she know? Does she know that she's dealing with a sorority girl from the South? Does she know that we had Emily Post AND Amy Vanderbilt's books at our house? Right next to the Bible.

Six weeks is not enough time for out of town guests.

SIL must not be in a social circle in which people have guests flying in.

There are a lot of weddings where I live where literally everyone is coming from the same 20 mile radius. Maybe where she's from, it's the same?

I got an invite 12 weeks out for a NYE wedding last year. Most guests were local but people need notice when dealing with a holiday. (Ex: You can't get a sitter 4 weeks out from NYE.)

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Six weeks is not enough time for out of town guests.

SIL must not be in a social circle in which people have guests flying in.

There are a lot of weddings where I live where literally everyone is coming from the same 20 mile radius. Maybe where she's from, it's the same?

I got an invite 12 weeks out for a NYE wedding last year. Most guests were local but people need notice when dealing with a holiday. (Ex: You can't get a sitter 4 weeks out from NYE.)

Typically, I get invites about 10 weeks out, and longer if it's a legitimate destination wedding (and not just a wedding that requires travel).

I just thought it was messy to call someone out on an etiquette breach that wasn't. There's a little wedding planning competition with that one...

[BAckbOwlsgIrl]

Quote:
Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Six weeks is not enough time for out of town guests.

SIL must not be in a social circle in which people have guests flying in.

There are a lot of weddings where I live where literally everyone is coming from the same 20 mile radius. Maybe where she's from, it's the same?

I got an invite 12 weeks out for a NYE wedding last year. Most guests were local but people need notice when dealing with a holiday. (Ex: You can't get a sitter 4 weeks out from NYE.)

Typically, I get invites about 10 weeks out, and longer if it's a legitimate destination wedding (and not just a wedding that requires travel).

I just thought it was messy to call someone out on an etiquette breach that wasn't. There's a little wedding planning competition with that one...
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A family member scheduled a wedding for Thanksgiving weekend, an "auspicious" day in Chinese culture that year. Basically, it was a lucky day to get married. The happy couple were considering the day after Christmas as well. There as nothing "auspicious" nor even remotely lucky about me getting a reasonable priced flight in and out of a large metro area.

Despite the notice, I was not impressed. For out of town guests, it was nightmare trying to attend. I did not. I wasn't about to use my frequent flier miles either. Then there was expense of rental car and hotel. I don't care how lucky the day is, a wedding on the busiest travel day of the year is just plain obscene.