advise for daughter who resigned after 3rd round

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by HQWest

It is possible that the moms are posting is because they are more upset than their DD - what are they going to tell the other moms at the book club? -

Possibly, DD went through recruitment to try it and found that sorority life was not for her. Old South sorority life isn't everyone's cup of tea.

This is probably the case more so than an upset released PNM.

Nothing worse than a mother trying to live vicariously through, or trying to avenge her own failings with, her daughter.

[DrPhil]

lane swerve/

I can understand why some PNM parents don't know when to stay in their lane. When some of them come to GC to ask questions or share their offspring's recruitment stories they tend to be greeted. It can be difficult for a parent to then know when to sit down if they were allowed to stand up in the first place (LOL) and don't already know the culture and structure of the NPC.

On that note, since the college semester has begun/is beginning, the parents of NPHC aspirants better not ever ask questions or share what they know of the application/process experiences of their offspring. That includes parents who are NPHCers (their children are legacies) and they should know that already. There are reasons why the NPHC and NPHC orgs do not have links for parents on their websites.

/lane swerve

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

There are reasons why the NPHC and NPHC orgs do not have links for parents on their websites.

That's a really good point.

I think that increased parent involvement was initiated to allay fears about hazing, drinking etc - but it seems to have been morphed by the parents (not necessarily the groups) into "well, if they're giving us information, they must want our input and involvement as well."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's a really good point.

I think that increased parent involvement was initiated to allay fears about hazing, drinking etc - but it seems to have been morphed by the parents (not necessarily the groups) into "well, if they're giving us information, they must want our input and involvement as well."

lane swerve/

Everything has pros and cons. Perhaps the best way to never have to tell a parent to go away is to never give them a perceivably formal reason to be present in the first place. Perceivably formal, meaning, many consider parents to be a big part of the PNM experience for the young women who need their parents' money, input, and overall presence. This week on GC has been like an NPC Parent's Town Hall Meeting. Some parents may think the NPC (in general) welcomes that presence since there's a link on the website as though parent opinion and presence is instrumental. Some schools having parents crowd the campus on bid day (did I get that correct?) can also reinforce the importance of parents for some.

So, you have all of that and it can be difficult to tell parents to go away.

/lane swerve

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's a really good point.

I think that increased parent involvement was initiated to allay fears about hazing, drinking etc - but it seems to have been morphed by the parents (not necessarily the groups) into "well, if they're giving us information, they must want our input and involvement as well."

This, and because a sizable amount of girls' financial obligations to their sorority are being met by parents. Orgs know this and therefore it is in their best interest to be in the parent's good graces or that member will not have dues paid and therefore not be a member for very long.

[DubaiSis]

Now they're getting so aggressive they're posting into specific threads? grrrrrr.