Why are recs absolutely necessary at some schools, while not expected at others? - Page 14

ForeverRoses · #**196** 03-10-2013, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I agree about the warning rec. I don't usually know any dirt about girls of that age group to be able to send that type of rec. AOII doesn't require recs for membership, however, a no-rec with specific amoral specifics would be a kiss of death, I'm quite sure. I know we've had this discussion before about whether or not to no-rec. IMHO, if I for certain knew information that I morally felt disqualified a woman from membership, I would no-rec someone in a heartbeat. My loyalty is to AOII. I, of course, have really liberal views, so you'd have had to kill someone to shock me (not really that bad, but you get the picture.)

I've never seen a no-rec, but I did see one that was completely honest. It basically said that the girl was shy at first but once she warmed up she was great. It was refreshing to see one that was honest rather than "she is the best thing since sliced bread!".

Hartofsec · #**197** 03-10-2013, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

I've never seen a no-rec, but I did see one that was completely honest. It basically said that the girl was shy at first but once she warmed up she was great. It was refreshing to see one that was honest rather than "she is the best thing since sliced bread!".

I think that is a good example of useful input from an alum who knows the PNM well -- it might help a great candidate who leans to the quiet side avoid being overlooked.

AOII Angel · #**198** 03-10-2013, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

I've never seen a no-rec, but I did see one that was completely honest. It basically said that the girl was shy at first but once she warmed up she was great. It was refreshing to see one that was honest rather than "she is the best thing since sliced bread!".

That's a great rec and would be very helpful for a introverted girl who deserves to find sisterhood.

AGDee · #**199** 03-10-2013, 07:05 PM

What about a girl who you know is kind of a drama queen, always stirring things up among her close friends?

AOII Angel · #**200** 03-10-2013, 07:08 PM

I don't know, Dee. I figure those kinds of women can benefit from membership. drama queens are in every chapter, but some of these women are turned around by college.

HQWest · #**201** 03-10-2013, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

What about a girl who you know is kind of a drama queen, always stirring things up among her close friends?

I would prefer not to have the drama queens myself. They usually escalate in some way in my experience

Titchou · #**202** 03-10-2013, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

That's a great rec and would be very helpful for a introverted girl who deserves to find sisterhood.

And exactly the kind of information that should be in a rec.

diamondmom · #**203** 03-10-2013, 07:50 PM

We had a girl that went through last year at a highly competitive SEC school. while searching her facebook, twitter and other social media we came upon a youtube video that was not totally complimentary. In fact it was down right crude! It was forwarded onto many of the chapter of this campus and this PNM was cut prior to skit day. Amazing enough she received a bid. After first semester she transferred due to grades and the inability to pay (also a concern via the "network"). You can run but you can't hide

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KillarneyRose · #**204** 03-11-2013, 02:47 PM

Don't know what it's like now but back when I was at Pitt I don't think we would have known what to do with a rec if we'd ever received one from a rushee. Our National wants one rec on each girl, so just got them from local alumnae prior to initiation without the pledges ever knowing about it.

AnchorAlumna · #**205** 03-11-2013, 03:17 PM

That's totally opposite of the way recs are intended.

Not saying it's not still done.

KillarneyRose · #**206** 03-11-2013, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

That's totally opposite of the way recs are intended.

Not saying it's not still done.

You mean what I wrote? If so, I agree completely. It was, to me, more checking a box than anything else.

33girl · #**207** 03-12-2013, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

Don't know what it's like now but back when I was at Pitt I don't think we would have known what to do with a rec if we'd ever received one from a rushee. Our National wants one rec on each girl, so just got them from local alumnae prior to initiation without the pledges ever knowing about it.

Yeah, but you guys probably had "Pittsburgh recs." "She went to VALLEY? OMG. No. Just no." LOL

KillarneyRose · #**208** 03-12-2013, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Yeah, but you guys probably had "Pittsburgh recs." "She went to VALLEY? OMG. No. Just no." LOL

LOL, you're probably on to something there. If so, when I went through they'd all have been "Oooh, she went to Fox Chapel...GET HER!!!" not knowing that I actually didn't have two nickels to rub together!