TCM: As you can see everyone here has their own POV; and all are good and very valid.
Between this thread and one other, I have started to remember my own rush to the point of reviewing the all the old slides that I have
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In my situation, I did not/could not attend any kind of summer/pre-rush parties nor did I know anyone prior to getting on campus.
So, I just tried to be myself and ask questions. Also went in with my eyes, ears and mind wide open.
IMVHO, since you have the opportunity to hit the re-set button you should.
As I indicated in my prior posting, which I have re-edited, if there was a mistake or error it may not have been yours.
This is a way to find out and perhaps correct it. Or just learn more about the rest of the Greeks and find the place for you.
The very best of luck to you.