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Old 11-05-2009, 11:22 AM
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Rarely is the question asked "is our children learning?"

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Old 11-05-2009, 11:38 AM
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They may still see you as a valued member, just not in that position. Buck up, put your big girl panties on, don't whine or moan or be witchy to the girl that did get the position. And don't bug your sisters asking why you didn't get it. It doesn't matter anymore, it is done. Be gracious. Move on to other opportunities.
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Old 11-05-2009, 02:28 PM
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I've seen many officer elections over the years and can honestly say that the most qualified candidates don't always get elected. Some of the reasons I've seen:

- Candidate was already active in a ton of campus orgs, clubs, challenging course load/major, had a job, etc. Chapter members wanted someone with more time to dedicate to their org.

- Candidates experience was primarily external, meaning on campus orgs/clubs. Chapter members wanted someone who was active, committed, and proven herself within the Chapter. In addition, members may not know about someone's external experiences while they know exactly who always shows up at the house for work.

- Chapter members voted for who was more popular instead of who was more qualified. These are 18-21 year olds and they don't always see the big picture.

- Candidate knows she's the most qualified and got cocky. Chapter members thought electing her would fuel her ego and she needed to be taken down a notch.

- (How shall I put this delicately?) Chapter members voted for a less qualified candidate who was more "polished and personable". After all the Pres is also the official public face of the Chapter.
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Old 11-05-2009, 02:28 PM
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Rarely is the question asked "is our children learning?"

I think they is.
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Old 11-05-2009, 02:29 PM
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You're right, but I commend the OP for having the braverism to open up to strangers like she has.
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It was very couragement.
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Seems like someone else had better strategery.
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uh uh...
I see you're channeling PB
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Old 11-05-2009, 02:52 PM
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I've seen many officer elections over the years and can honestly say that the most qualified candidates don't always get elected. Some of the reasons I've seen:

- Candidate was already active in a ton of campus orgs, clubs, challenging course load/major, had a job, etc. Chapter members wanted someone with more time to dedicate to their org.

- Candidates experience was primarily external, meaning on campus orgs/clubs. Chapter members wanted someone who was active, committed, and proven herself within the Chapter. In addition, members may not know about someone's external experiences while they know exactly who always shows up at the house for work.

- Chapter members voted for who was more popular instead of who was more qualified. These are 18-21 year olds and they don't always see the big picture.

- Candidate knows she's the most qualified and got cocky. Chapter members thought electing her would fuel her ego and she needed to be taken down a notch.

- (How shall I put this delicately?) Chapter members voted for a less qualified candidate who was more "polished and personable". After all the Pres is also the official public face of the Chapter.
Zillini makes some great points. And sometimes, like with membership selection/recruitment, the chapter/nominating committee/etc sees a piece of the picture that you don't. A couple years in, I was slated for a position and when they called me, I literally asked "Really? Are you sure?" I was completely surprised, it wasn't something I expressed interest in, and I wasn't sure it was right for me. But utlimately they were right and it was my favorite role as an officer.

Perhaps the chapter saw something in someone else that you or maybe even she didn't know was there. Or maybe it came down to involvement (too much or too little, internal or external) or popularity. We really can't know. The best thing to do, assuming you still want to stay involved, is try to let it pass and give your all to whatever comes next. Good luck to you!
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Old 11-05-2009, 03:06 PM
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I just went into a "funkitation" and then transferred to a different school. That will teach them to not elect me VP!!!
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Old 11-05-2009, 03:17 PM
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Back in the day (I can't believe I graduated 10 years ago) we had a huge problem with cliques in our chapter. I will admit that the girls at that time that were part of the executive board were all part of the same clique and would slate other girls of the same clique into the positions for the following year even though there may have been members that were more qualified.
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:14 PM
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I believe the technical term for clique issues is "cliquetationism".
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:31 PM
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Sounds like a bunch of trickeration going on.
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:34 PM
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Sounds like a bunch of trickeration going on.
Maybe even some holleration in this dancery.
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:46 PM
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You all are being so mean to the OP, maybe you just misunderestimated her!
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:48 PM
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I believe the technical term for clique issues is "cliquetationism".
What I was trying to explain was a Cliqueocracy.
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:57 PM
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What I was trying to explain was a Cliqueocracy.
Stop being such a cliquetator.
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Old 11-05-2009, 05:47 PM
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Oh, LMAO to this thread!
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