Ever had a cancelled pinning??

dancergirl586 · #1 03-19-2008, 12:10 AM

Hey ya'll

Has anyone had a pinning cancelled? like yah its supposed to be a surprise and all but if you happened to know about it guess. I dont know...discuss.

ree-Xi · #2 03-19-2008, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by dancergirl586

Hey ya'll

Has anyone had a pinning cancelled? like yah its supposed to be a surprise and all but if you happened to know about it guess. I dont know...discuss.

Discuss...what? Can you share any details?

33girl · #3 03-19-2008, 12:19 PM

I am guessing that they had a pinning/candlelight/sweetheart ceremony scheduled, the pinnee had a blowup with her man and it's off, and the OP is in charge of ritual. Ours were never that elaborate but I guess some are.

If that's the case...don't make a big deal, just send an email via the chapter listserv (or however you communicate) that the ceremony was called off. No one needs to know anything more than that.

If it's you who were supposed to be pinned...just send a message to the ritual chair through whoever you had tell her about it in the first place or leave an anonymous note for the ritual chair. Again, the ritual chair shouldn't make a big deal, just say the ceremony was called off.

ForeverRoses · #4 03-20-2008, 08:45 AM

our pinning circles were always at the end of chapter, not a separate ceremony or anything. So we never knew if we had one or not until the president announced that we did. So if one was called off, we didn't know about it.

ree-Xi · #5 03-20-2008, 09:29 AM

A guess here.... your bf was going to pin you, you found out, but now it's cancelled. And you can't say anything because it was supposed to be a surprise?

Let me know if I am on the right track. Again, with more details we might be able to talk about it.

PhiGam · #6 03-20-2008, 05:05 PM

Whats a pinning? I assume its like our "lavaliering?" Thats where you say that a woman is more important to you than your fraternity.

aopirose · #7 03-20-2008, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by PhiGam

Whats a pinning? I assume its like our "lavaliering?"

Pinning is sometimes considered the next step after lavaliering. It's where the BF gives either his badge or the fraternity's sweetheart badge. I guess a non-Greek equivalent would be a promise ring.

KSUViolet06 · #8 03-20-2008, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

our pinning circles were always at the end of chapter, not a separate ceremony or anything. So we never knew if we had one or not until the president announced that we did. So if one was called off, we didn't know about it.

Same for us, if there was a candlepass for a lavaliering/pinning/engagement, we didn't know about it until after chapter. So unless you were an officer (or close to the girl who's having the pass obviously), you wouldn't ever know it was called off.

ree-Xi · #9 03-21-2008, 07:30 AM

Her earlier thread about pinning.

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...28#post1577428