"He's Just Not That Into You"...

phikappapsiman · #1 10-05-2004, 11:29 PM

Have you heard of this book? Sounds hilarious! Some of the points:

- If a guy give you his number and you call him and he doesn't call back...

-If you give a guy your number and he doesn't call...

-He says that he's been busy...

-You go out, have a good time, you invite him back and he says No...

HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!

So many others, but the point is simple...Don't be the pursuer!!! If a guy wants you, you'll know. And guys, it's the same way-don't be whipped-you'll know if it's real...

(and yes, I am in a relationship, but believe me, I've been there...)

Peaches-n-Cream · #2 10-05-2004, 11:32 PM

I saw the author on Oprah a little while ago. It's funny and true. This advice could have saved me some heartache back when I was looking for someone.

valkyrie · #3 10-05-2004, 11:49 PM

I saw the authors on some tv show the other day, and it's about damn time somebody said it. What really sucks is when a woman complains about the guy who doesn't return her calls and her friends all say "Oh, maybe he's busy" so she gets her hopes up that he'll call...but really, he's just not into her. If he was, he'd call.

nikki1920 · #4 10-06-2004, 09:57 AM

the fact that 8 months had passed since the "really great date" and he couldnt bother to pick up a phone and talk wasn't a clue? lol

Taualumna · #5 10-06-2004, 10:56 AM

I've seen reviews about it and I've also seen it in the bookstore. It's written by writers for Sex and the City, I think (the title is from a line from the final season, when the girls meet Berger)

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 10-06-2004, 11:24 AM

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Originally posted by Taualumna
I've seen reviews about it and I've also seen it in the bookstore. It's written by writers for Sex and the City, I think (the title is from a line from the final season, when the girls meet Berger)

YES! Miranda asked Berger what he thought about her date. He said, "It sounds like he's just not that into you." Or something like that. Carrie looks horrified, but Miranda looks liberated in a way. It was funny.

XOMichelle · #7 10-06-2004, 11:40 AM

Good advice, but it still sucks when it happens to you!

Virtual Violet · #8 10-06-2004, 01:08 PM

I haven't purchased the book yet, but I did see the author on Oprah. Ironically, I've liberated myself from defining my worth based on whether the guy is interested in me or not.

The way I see it, if I make a call to a guy and he doesn't call me back it means,

1. that my call wasn't important enough to him to call me OR

2. I didn't happen to cross his mind to such that he would pick up the phone and call me back.

In any case, If a guy doesn't call me back, I WILL NOT call him again until he does. (Its just plain rude not to return a person's call)

AND IF that means I never talk to him again, then so be it. The way I see it, I'm worthy of the interest and attention of a man and if he is interested, I won't have to "force" it out of him...he needs to pursue me!!

Should he decide to call me back, he needs to be in pursuit of me at that point, (i.e.....asking me out on a date, trying to get to know me better, etc.), otherwise, I'm not calling him again.

Trust me, I'm single, but I'm not desperate....men are like buses.....if you miss one, you can catch the next one that comes by.

sigmagrrl · #9 10-06-2004, 04:05 PM

There was a live chat on Washington Post.com today with the authors of this book! Here is the transcript!

Taualumna · #10 10-06-2004, 06:48 PM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
YES! Miranda asked Berger what he thought about her date. He said, "It sounds like he's just not that into you." Or something like that. Carrie looks horrified, but Miranda looks liberated in a way. It was funny.

Yeah, interesting, because Berger wasn't all that into Carrie.

honeychile · #11 10-06-2004, 08:50 PM

I know this non-greek woman who met a really wonderful guy back in 1991-92 (I think, I didn't know her then), and they have dated off and on. He has done everything you can think of to break it off with her, but she refuses to listen to reason!

She calls her friends, and cries for hours (literally) over "why would he do this to me?!" - and then can't understand why people dodge her phone calls. I've even "tough loved" her and said horrible things to get her to wake up, as have others.

Is this book good enough to try to get it sent to her anonymously?

sigtau305 · #12 10-06-2004, 08:53 PM

I might have to check the book out.

AChiOAlumna · #13 10-07-2004, 12:45 AM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I saw the author on Oprah a little while ago. It's funny and true. This advice could have saved me some heartache back when I was looking for someone.

I saw the Oprah episode also...what I thought was funny was all the women that didn't want to hear this answer by rationalizing the scenarios with their own wants and needs...but the author was dead on!!

AchtungBaby80 · #14 10-07-2004, 06:49 PM

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Originally posted by Virtual Violet
....men are like buses.....if you miss one, you can catch the next one that comes by.

Love it!

What is this book, anyway?

breathesgelatin · #15 10-07-2004, 07:51 PM

I have some people to purchase this book for, too.