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01-27-2010, 12:33 PM
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Another Junior...
So, this is my first post here, although I've read these forums for about a year now in attempts to pick up advice. I'm a junior who's going to be going through formal rush (we do our rush in the spring at my school)... and I guess I'm just looking for advice. I'd post which school I go to, but you never know who could be reading this... and since I'll probably be one of few (if any) juniors doing rush, I'd prefer not to give myself away. I will say that it's not a southern school though.
Why rush as a junior? Well, to be completely honest, I didn't have a clue what sororities were or what they stood for freshman year, so I missed the boat there. And sophomore year I was very sick during the rush period, so I couldn't. I participated in COB twice sophomore year, but wasn't offered a bid either time. So here I am junior year.
My GPA's strong, and, since the COB events, I've joined two new clubs on campus. I'm a more confident individual than I was and I really want to give this a go. Any advice?
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01-27-2010, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Hopefulpledge
So, this is my first post here, although I've read these forums for about a year now in attempts to pick up advice. I'm a junior who's going to be going through formal rush (we do our rush in the spring at my school)... and I guess I'm just looking for advice. I'd post which school I go to, but you never know who could be reading this... and since I'll probably be one of few (if any) juniors doing rush, I'd prefer not to give myself away. I will say that it's not a southern school though.
Why rush as a junior? Well, to be completely honest, I didn't have a clue what sororities were or what they stood for freshman year, so I missed the boat there. And sophomore year I was very sick during the rush period, so I couldn't. I participated in COB twice sophomore year, but wasn't offered a bid either time. So here I am junior year.
My GPA's strong, and, since the COB events, I've joined two new clubs on campus. I'm a more confident individual than I was and I really want to give this a go. Any advice?
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Not TRYING to be snarky, but if you have been around for a year and really read at least one day's worth of postings, you would know that there isn't any "real" advice anyone can give you, other than to have all your ducks in a row, follow recruitment guidelines and suggestions, and be yourself.
What else could anyone else tell you??? I don't get these general "Any advice?" questions. What answers are you looking for? People here genuinely try to help others, but when there are no answers, what do you expect?
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01-27-2010, 12:44 PM
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Well, I've followed advice from threads like this before, like making sure that my gpa's strong, and joining other activities to make myself more well rounded... I was just wondering if there was anything that I was potentially missing. I sincerely apologize if I've offended you, or anyone here; it certainly wasn't my intention. I know it's very difficult to get a bid as a junior, so I just want to give myself the best chance I can possibly get, so if I don't get a bid, I can look back on the experience without regrets and know I gave it my absolute best shot.
I just wanted to have all my bases covered, and to make sure I wasn't missing anything. Again, I apologize if I've caused any offense.
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01-27-2010, 12:50 PM
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Well...you participated in COB in the past not Formal recruitment, correct? Formal is very different since every group will be participating. When you go through formal, realize that being a Junior may be a very big disadvantage for you depending on your school. Keep you options as open as possible. If you choose to decline an invitation from a group, only blame yourself if you go bidless. The rest is up to you.
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01-27-2010, 12:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Hopefulpledge
Well, I've followed advice from threads like this before, like making sure that my gpa's strong, and joining other activities to make myself more well rounded... I was just wondering if there was anything that I was potentially missing. I sincerely apologize if I've offended you, or anyone here; it certainly wasn't my intention. I know it's very difficult to get a bid as a junior, so I just want to give myself the best chance I can possibly get, so if I don't get a bid, I can look back on the experience without regrets and know I gave it my absolute best shot.
I just wanted to have all my bases covered, and to make sure I wasn't missing anything. Again, I apologize if I've caused any offense.
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It's not a matter of offense. It's that no one here knows you, the campus, etc. No one has a crystal ball. Because every campus and chapter is different than the others, there are no hard and fast rules about class standing (and everything else). It's all relative. Yes, it may be less likely to get a bid as a junior, but we don't know.
The only thing I can suggest is to be in the present. Enjoy yourself. There are no guarantees anywhere.
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01-27-2010, 12:54 PM
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The best bet is to take the tons of advice that you've been reading as a lurker and apply it however you see fit.
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01-27-2010, 02:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Hopefulpledge
Well, I've followed advice from threads like this before, like making sure that my gpa's strong, and joining other activities to make myself more well rounded... I was just wondering if there was anything that I was potentially missing.
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I know you're being sincere, but this literally made me LOL! The thought popped into my head "Oh no! She figured it out! We're purposely holding out on the uber-secret key advice that any upperclassman needs to get a bid on any campus!"
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01-27-2010, 04:38 PM
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Hopeful, All of this great advice has been previously mentioned by others in this thread. Be yourself, visit each and every house, and keep ALL of your options open. I pledged through formal recruitment when I was a junior so it is possible.
No guarantees. No regrets.
Good luck, PMP
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01-27-2010, 06:47 PM
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I think as a junior, it can be easy to come off as a bit wishy-washy. You've survived on campus just fine without a sorority, so why now? Be prepared to give a thoughtful answer to this line of questioning. Share what you are hoping to achieve (and to give) by joining a sorority.
Keep your head up and stay positive. Take a close look at all of the houses. If anything puzzles you (and it might,) reach out to people on this board. After a few days of recruitment, there will be many (I hope) clear "yesses" and perhaps one or two "definitely nots." If you find a chapter that falls somewhere in the middle -- you're not sure about it, or you can't get a handle on it -- keep giving it a chance. It might be the perfect fit for you.
Yeah, some cuts will come your way because you're a junior. But you've made it in school, this far...you've got the right stuff!
Good luck, and enjoy your recruitment.
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01-27-2010, 07:53 PM
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At my moderately competitive school, I've seen junior rush go very well. There haven't been a large number of juniors, but the ones I've seen go well were either junior transfers, or, in a small number of cases, women who have really felt a positive impact from sororities on campus and can add to that positivity.
Sometimes it has not gone so well. One year, I asked a junior PNM why she decided to rush as a junior. She replied, "All my friends went abroad."
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01-27-2010, 08:02 PM
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If anything puzzles you (and it might,) reach out to people on this board.
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Should this board be the first resort?
Isn't it enough that she's been lurking for about a year?
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01-27-2010, 08:33 PM
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Should this board be the first resort?
Isn't it enough that she's been lurking for about a year?
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1. No. The best source of info is always people you actually know that go to your school (you know, the people that PNMs asked BEFORE the internet).
2. She probably thinks her situation is more unique than any other junior who has posted questions here, and that we'll have some extra special advice for her. Nope, it's all out there already.
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01-28-2010, 02:37 PM
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I don't think my situation is remarkably unique, and nor was i looking for the "right answer" or the "key" to being able to get a bid as an upperclassman... I know there isn't one. And I have asked as many greeks as I know for advice and tips.
I wasn't posting to be like "omg I'm so special", so I'm sorry if it's coming across like that. Like I said previously, I've read a lot, and asked for advice, but that doesn't mean that I haven't missed anything that could play a roll and give me an advantage. I just wanted to have all my bases covered, and give myself the best chance I can have.
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01-28-2010, 02:41 PM
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Make sure to reach out to any greek women you know, and let them know you're excited about going through recruitment, explaining why you waited until Junior year to join. Try to meet any greek women in your classes this semester and get to know them at least on a friendly acquaintance level. As a junior, you will need contacts in the houses to pull for you.
Be ready with an answer as to why you're rushing as a junior. I wouldn't bring up the COB events. Something like "I really wanted to go through last year, but I got really sick and it didn't work out."
During the rounds, your role isn't to be the perfect PNM, it is to be a natural fit with the sisters in the house. So be your most confident self, maybe get a mani or a new outfit to make yourself feel extra-polished, and just HAVE FUN! You've read the threads, so be ready with some good questions in case the conversation stalls. As others have said, your options will be limited, so be open to any house if this is what you really want.
Good luck!
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01-28-2010, 02:43 PM
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And you don't need to apologize this much - on a thread or in real life. You've been around here long enough to know people just like to comment on stuff.
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