I am very nervous that I won't get a bid.

diet coke · #1 08-21-2009, 10:43 AM

I am currently rushing as a sophomore and I absolutely love it. Today is Skit Day and I am very excited to see how everything turns out. For Philanthropy Day, I only received 6 matches back from sororities. Today, I only received 3. Tonight, we go back to the computers to choose who we like for Pref Day tomorrow (although I won't really be choosing since I have less than 4), but I am very nervous that I won't get a bid on Bid Day, since I have so few sororities to begin with. I love the 3 sororities I am going to today, but am afraid that they'll see me again and not like me or I'll get a girl that is a dud, and I won't get a match for any tomorrow or get a bid on Bid Day. I really want to join a sorority so badly! I definitely know that Greek Life is what I need to not only make more friends, but to become more involved on campus.

Have any of you ever had friends or others you know who had a small selection of sororities to chose from throughout the entire week? Any advice??

33girl · #2 08-21-2009, 10:54 AM

There are quite a few stories on here of girls who had drastic cuts (for example, a 7 party round and they only got 2 groups) but still ended up in a sorority they loved. Believe me, if you have 3, that's 2 more than some girls rushing with you have.

Just be sure to maximize your options when signing your bid card - which it sounds like is not an issue with you since you like all the groups you're going to. Again, that's a lot more than some girls rushing with you have.

Gusteau · #3 08-21-2009, 11:08 AM

It only takes on group to get a bid - good luck!

Kansas City · #4 08-21-2009, 11:19 AM

You cannot control the outcome of recruitment so stick with it and hope for the best. Many universities use the release figures method of "cutting" PNMs during recruitment which can seem harsh to many PNMs but in reality lets you spend more time and get to know the chapters that are really interested in you. Focus on these groups instead of the total number of houses on your campus or the maximum numbers of groups you could have visited for the day. Enjoy the experience and good luck.

ThetaDancer · #5 08-21-2009, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by diet coke

I love the 3 sororities I am going to today, but am afraid that they'll see me again and not like me or I'll get a girl that is a dud, and I won't get a match for any tomorrow or get a bid on Bid Day.

You've received great advice so far. Ultimately, you can only control your own attitude and behavior in this situation, so don't spend time worrying that they won't like you or you'll have a "dud" recruiting you. Keep putting your best foot forward and having a positive, confident attitude. Good luck!

PhoenixAzul · #6 08-21-2009, 12:24 PM

"Buy the ticket, take the ride!"

Meaning...go full steam ahead to your remaining houses. Put your best foot forward at each and every one. Every time you feel that doubt creeping in, push it out of the way and be mindful of what you're doing (participating in a party, a happy event, where you are meeting new people) and smile.

And like the above posters said, "It only takes one..."

KSUViolet06 · #7 08-21-2009, 02:05 PM

You don't need to have a full schedule everyday to get a bid.

gardensyl · #8 08-21-2009, 02:12 PM

Good luck Diet coke. My only advice is to list all the houses that continue to invite you back, especially after pref. day. I know of several girls in a recent SEC school recruitment who were invited to only one pref. party and they still received bids. I hope things work out well for you!

violetpretty · #9 08-21-2009, 05:51 PM

Cuts happen. Look at your Rho Chi group. I bet not everyone else in your group has full schedules. Wherever you go when you don't have a recruitment party, I bet there are other women who have breaks in their schedules too. Each chapter is told to keep and cut a certain (and different) number of women by Panhellenic. The system is designed to maximize both the number of PNMs joining and the number of chapters making quota.

Some schools will guarantee a bid to a PNM who attends and ranks all of her preference party chapters regardless of whether she has a full schedule, more correctly termed guaranteed matching. Perhaps ask your Rho Chi if this is the case at your school.

It is wonderful that you like all 3 chapters you have left! There's no reason not to continue. Keep your chin up.

TSteven · #10 08-21-2009, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

"Buy the ticket, take the ride!"

Not sure if you are quoting him, but this is one of my favorite Hunter S. Thompson quotes.

PenguinTrax · #11 08-21-2009, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You don't need to have a full schedule everyday to get a bid.

THIS!!!

PhoenixAzul · #12 08-21-2009, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by TSteven

Not sure if you are quoting him, but this is one of my favorite Hunter S. Thompson quotes.

I am indeed...it's my favorite too!

Glad someone else caught it.

LoggerTheta · #13 08-21-2009, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

"Buy the ticket, take the ride!"

What a seamless application of wisdom from Fear and Loathing.

And I agree with everyone else, don't worry about things you can't control, be mindful of the things you can, like finding ways to really let your personality shine. Good luck to you!

texas*princess · #14 08-21-2009, 10:48 PM

Agreed with everyone who has said you don't need a full schedule to get a bid.

There may be girls you are rushing with that are only going to 1 house.

I know it's easier said than done, but relax & enjoy the ride. It will be over before you know it, and hopefully you will have a place to call home

PhiMuForever · #15 08-21-2009, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Believe me, if you have 3, that's 2 more than some girls rushing with you have.

33girl is very right. There are some girls on your campus that are only down to one house right now and might only go to that one Pref night. It happened to a good friend of mine and she ended up in that sorority. Good Luck and put your best foot forward.