GreekChat.com Forums  

Go Back   GreekChat.com Forums > Recruitment > Sorority Recruitment

Sorority Recruitment Recruitment event and bid day ideas, membership retention, publicity, recruitment policies, etc.


Register Now for FREE!
Join GreekChat.com, The Fraternity & Sorority Greek Chat Network. To sign up for your FREE account INSTANTLY fill out the form below!

Username: Password: Confirm Password: E-Mail: Confirm E-Mail:
 
Image Verification
Please enter the six letters or digits that appear in the image opposite.

  I agree to forum rules 

» GC Stats
Members: 299,022
Threads: 114,186
Posts: 2,151,071
Welcome to our newest member, voukjlasfha
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #91  
Old 09-13-2009, 10:37 PM
kkgdgmom
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Quote:
Originally Posted by APhiAnna View Post
Oh, I absolutely agree. One of the things on my list was being shy, which I think is the far more likely case than any of the "slut/stuck-up/crazy story" scenarios. The problem with being shy is that it rarely makes the person disliked by sisters, but it rarely makes them memorable, and sometimes if they aren't memorable they can easily fall through the cracks.

I think the majority of girls who have bad rushes are probably shy or reserved, which is why they usually shine through COB.

Most of the "extreme" items on that list, IMHO, occur rarely. But when a mother comes on and says, "my daughter is the most outgoing person in the world, modeled for Victoria's Secret, found a cure for the common cold and spent a year living in Tibet helping the poor and got dropped by all chapters" you have to wonder. Maybe she is not as outgoing or stunning looking as the mother believes, but if she is then she probably did something very extreme to not get invited back to ALL (!) of the chapters.

I can totally see a shy girl falling through the cracks even though she is a great person. But I have a hard time believing that somebody who reportedly has such a great personality, stunning looks, great grades and extracurriculars, etc. can truly "fall through the cracks"...if all the claims are true then there is usually something else to the story.
I wasn't going to get back on and add anything additional to this but what the heck. I know it sounds far fetched. But my daughter is everything that I presented in previous posts and more. You can actually google more than 6 pages of her accomplishments (I am not making this up), and yes her sitting sister is at another college in the same state, not only did she receive a ride to the school where she is currently a freshman, but she received several monetary humanitarian awards that she donated back to the organizations that she volunteers for... She was voted both most likely to succeed and the friendliest by her senior class. I guess the only thing that she has against her is' that she is somewhat shy when in a new situation (but what person isn't), she was a varsity cheerleader all through high school, but opted not to try out in college. So although many of you posters keept trying to find something wrong with her, there wasn't anything really glaring or another story out there. I just wanted to point these facts out. I know she would have made a contribution to any Sorority on her campus. I have to stop reading these replies though, I have better things to do with my time
Reply With Quote
  #92  
Old 09-13-2009, 10:39 PM
kkgdgmom
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
cob is not an option as all houses made quota
Reply With Quote
  #93  
Old 09-13-2009, 10:43 PM
KSUViolet06 KSUViolet06 is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 17,823
As I was saying, sure she seems like a great girl on paper and such, but at the end of the day, you were not present in the parties to see her interactions.

You say that she is a little shy in new situations. That could have TOTALLY shown during recruitment and made her less memorable.

Not saying that she is a bad person, but if she is not really talking during the parties and cuts must be made, unfortunately, the shyest will likely be cut.
__________________
"Remember that apathy has no place in our Sorority." - Kelly Jo Karnes, Pi

Lakers Nation.
Reply With Quote
  #94  
Old 09-13-2009, 11:02 PM
violetpretty violetpretty is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: A state with a North-South identity crisis
Posts: 3,213
Quote:
Originally Posted by kkgdgmom View Post
You might trying showing compassion to girls who are clearly not in your league...
If you daughter exhibited this type of attitude during recruitment, that very well could have been her downfall.
__________________
Sigma Kappa
~*~ Beta Zeta ~*~
MARYLAND
Reply With Quote
  #95  
Old 09-14-2009, 12:04 AM
UGAalum94 UGAalum94 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Atlanta area
Posts: 5,385
Quote:
Originally Posted by kkgdgmom View Post
cob is not an option as all houses made quota
It's possible that some could still be under total. I don't know, but your daughter could ask at Greek Life.
Reply With Quote
  #96  
Old 09-14-2009, 12:21 AM
gee_ess gee_ess is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Posts: 1,551
kkgdgmom - your daughter does, in fact, sound like a wonderful young woman. Although it may not feel like it, really and truly, GC members do sympathize with your situation. We have just seen these situations occur so many times (many of us are advisors, national officers, or very involved alumni) that we know there are some very consistent scenarios that occur when a girl is cut heavily. I think if you will read carefully, most of us are guessing (and it's a guess, obviously) that the out of state factor was a biggie for your daughter and that she was, quite simply, overlooked. Mentioning the worst case scenarios (less than flattering things a pnm can do to hurt herself) is not meant to hurt your feelings. These things do happen - but we don't know a thing about your specific daughter.

I hope your daughter at the other chapter has been able to help you and your freshman daughter come to terms with what has happened. I can imagine, as a member who has been in the 'inside,' that she could be of great help in working through the disappointment and possibly figuring out what went wrong. At the very least, I am sure she understands how crazy and unpredictable rush can be. Of course, that is not much consolation at this time.

I hope that your daughter has a good year at school and finds her niche, wherever and whatever that may be.
Reply With Quote
  #97  
Old 09-14-2009, 12:35 AM
DrPhil DrPhil is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 14,505
I wonder if her daughter was as annoying as her mom is being right now.
Reply With Quote
  #98  
Old 09-14-2009, 02:29 AM
Xidelt Xidelt is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Missing Wegman's
Posts: 1,848
I guess we've had our flounce post. This story just seems too perfect and convenient to be true.
__________________
Delta Phi Epsilon Alumna

Xi Delta Alumna
Reply With Quote
  #99  
Old 09-14-2009, 10:57 AM
RhoGamma09 RhoGamma09 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 41
Quote:
Originally Posted by kkgdgmom View Post
I wasn't going to get back on and add anything additional to this but what the heck. I know it sounds far fetched. But my daughter is everything that I presented in previous posts and more. You can actually google more than 6 pages of her accomplishments (I am not making this up), and yes her sitting sister is at another college in the same state, not only did she receive a ride to the school where she is currently a freshman, but she received several monetary humanitarian awards that she donated back to the organizations that she volunteers for... She was voted both most likely to succeed and the friendliest by her senior class. I guess the only thing that she has against her is' that she is somewhat shy when in a new situation (but what person isn't), she was a varsity cheerleader all through high school, but opted not to try out in college. So although many of you posters keept trying to find something wrong with her, there wasn't anything really glaring or another story out there. I just wanted to point these facts out. I know she would have made a contribution to any Sorority on her campus. I have to stop reading these replies though, I have better things to do with my time
I'm probably preaching to the choir here because you said youre not coming back, but for what its worth,

look, I am sure youre daughter IS wonderful. But lets look at a couple things here:

You might be wonderful too, but in some of your posts, you came off as pretty snippy....probably why we seemed so harsh in return. I bet $10 you didnt mean to be snippy at all (except for when you were going on about how you hope we're not in your sorority and how youre out of out league)
But guess what? Wires get crossed. Things come across the wrong way. When youre an awesome person and you have an accomplishment list a mile long, you immediately become intimidating, and learning how to deal with being awesome AND not scaring people at the same time is hard, and probably something that will take your daughter all of college to learn how to deal with.

And shyness. She is probably some sweet, shy, wonderful person, but during recruitment, whatever your weakness is comes out tenfold because of all the pressure, so her shyness mightve gotten the best of her, but maybe to the girls, this exceedingly gorgeous legacy/awesome girl might not seem shy, but aloof.

And lastly, this could be a possibility, I had a best friend who is a model, she is ridiculously tall and model like, she has all the right features, bright, intelligent, an excellent actress, and friendly, but she was a little shy when meeting people, and guess what? People were downright scared of her. Models, when placed next to normal everyday people, sometimes look otherwordly compared to everyone else, and to top it off, she was shy so they all thought that she was just an aloof b....talk about being misunderstood. Shes in college now at a huge Greek school, and she never got into a house either.

Your daughter can learn a valuable lesson from this, she has everything on paper, but she can learn how to take her experience and figure out how she can master making a great impression in 60 seconds. It takes being relaxed, friendly, outgoing, humble, but still letting all that awesomeness and charisma shine through.

Its three years after I went through and I STILL think about it down to the minute of my recruitment and try to figure out just WHAT I was like under all that pressure in a uncomfortable/unfamiliar situation. I was a lot different than I normally am (except for with one house....which, of course, is my house now, and the rest is history ) What I am saying is, I learned SO much from that one weekend, and it taught me an extremely valuable lesson that has helped me all through college.
__________________
Proud to be a Rho Gamma!
Reply With Quote
  #100  
Old 09-14-2009, 12:13 PM
Low C Sharp Low C Sharp is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 660
Is there any fall-rushing Big 10 school without a chapter that regularly COBs? Indiana really does shut out a lot of qualified women, but they don't have fall rush. All the fall-rushing schools that come to mind have one or more smaller chapters.
________

Last edited by PenguinTrax; 01-20-2013 at 10:46 AM.
Reply With Quote
  #101  
Old 09-14-2009, 02:17 PM
33girl 33girl is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2000
Location: Hotel Oceanview
Posts: 33,338
Quote:
Originally Posted by kkgdgmom View Post
she received several monetary humanitarian awards that she donated back to the organizations that she volunteers for...
If she's such a flipping humanitarian, she should have joined one of the lower tier (your words not ours, cowgirl) chapters and invited all her fellow Elite models to come in and turn it around. (Wait, this was a movie, wasn't it?)
__________________
It is all 33girl's fault. ~DrPhil
Reply With Quote
  #102  
Old 09-14-2009, 02:26 PM
ellebud ellebud is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: so cal
Posts: 906
Ok...hijack

One thing that my daughter noticed when she was going to recruitment: At her school (notice I said HER school) the rush booklet said...casual first day, a little nicer the next etc. She said that the girls who didn't dress to impress (not expensively necessarily), who weren't (God forgive me for this) as physically fit, who weren't in the loop..got dropped fast.

I have read here that UT (?) has the girls dress in shorts the first day. That doesn't happen here, but knowing the inside information is vital. Some girls know it from the get go, some know it because of sisters/moms/cousins whatever.

What I am saying is: do all your research. Look online for previous years recruitment. You have a few minutes to make an impression.
Reply With Quote
  #103  
Old 09-14-2009, 03:47 PM
srmom srmom is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,338
Quote:
BUT I'm sure I speak for several posters here when I say you've returned the favor and given us a laugh - you've hit just about every helimom cliche', from the "I hope you don't belong to MY sorority" (and if it makes you feel any better, I hope you aren't in mine!) to "ladies - and I'm using the term loosely" type insults directed to us all, even those who have only tried to offer comfort and a possible explaination.
I don't think this person is for real, for the reasons stated above, and also for the terrible grammar, misuse of words, etc. (unless she's just so upset she can't think straight). But, what tipped me off that this must be a faker is the Country Club comment - any person who truly is in a CC would not make such a stupid comment.

This is just a joke, has to be, it is just too over the top to be legitimate!! But, if it is real - then, from one mother of teenagers and young adults (so I qualify) to another - you need to seriously get a grip...
Reply With Quote
  #104  
Old 09-14-2009, 07:21 PM
SWTXBelle's Avatar
SWTXBelle SWTXBelle is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Land of Chaos
Posts: 8,922
Is she for real???

That thought crossed my mind, SrMom - but you just never know. Truth is stranger than fiction, because fiction has to make sense. Think of some of the real posters we've had here . . .
__________________
Gamma Phi Beta
Courtesy is owed, respect is earned, love is given.
Proud daughter AND mother of a Gamma Phi. 3 generations of love, labor, learning and loyalty.
Reply With Quote
  #105  
Old 09-14-2009, 07:30 PM
UGAalum94 UGAalum94 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Atlanta area
Posts: 5,385
I thought troll too, at one point, but then I wasn't so sure.

I feel like it could go either way.

The longer I read GC, the more I think that all the really disagreeable or interesting posters are the sockpuppets of other users just stirring things up.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Not your average PNM diamond_dreams Sorority Recruitment 16 03-07-2009 11:34 PM
Average Joe 2 AOTTAdvisor Entertainment 86 03-05-2004 08:58 AM
Average Joe needs.... RioLambdaAlum Entertainment 5 02-01-2004 11:10 PM
All Man Average? GmuTeke Tau Kappa Epsilon 1 08-16-2001 01:51 AM
All Man Average? GmuTeke Academics 1 08-16-2001 01:38 AM



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 05:26 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.