25 Things SISTAS Should Never Apologize For

CrimsonTide4 · #1 08-26-2002, 09:22 PM

1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools or move across country, always do what you really want.

2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean speaking Ebonics.

3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just
didn't work out.

4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at their level.

5. Never apologize for crying. Wear a waterproof mascara and express yourself.

6. Never apologize for the ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care about you will accept you as you are.

7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your
money rather than blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap.

8. Don't apologize for being a single mom. Babies are blessings not mistakes.

9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special.
Whether it's a great dinner, a soothing facial, or a banging outfit,
sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.

10. NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR LEAVING AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. YOUR SAFETY SHOULD ALWAYS BE A PRIORITY.

11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if the wedding bells
won't chime. Hey, it was a gift.

12. Never apologize for setting high standards in relationships. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your last nerve.

13. Never apologize for just saying NO.

14. Never apologize for asking for what you want in bed. If you
don't, then who will?

15. Never apologize for wearing a weave. You bought it so it's yours.

16. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason why she's been your girl since day one.

17. Never apologize for ordering dessert. Or, more than one dessert.

18. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right-across-the-color line doesn't mean you don't love the brothas.

19. Never apologize for asking him to wear a condom. If he really
likes you he'll wrap it up without making you feel guilty.

20. Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't BURN like grandma you know how to order good take-out.

21. Never apologize for your taste in clothing. It's your style.

22. NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR CHANGING YOUR MIND.

23. Never apologize for exercising your right to choose. It's your
body and your life.

24. Never apologize for making more money than your man makes. You work hard and you deserve to get paid.

25. Never apologize for being you.

lovelyivy84 · #2 08-26-2002, 09:30 PM

Printing this out as I type.....

Thanks CT4!

zetafg · #3 08-28-2002, 01:32 PM

Thank You CT4.

I am going to copy this and send via email to a few folks.

nikki1920 · #4 08-28-2002, 03:20 PM

It was also in last month's Honey magazine (not the one with Beyonce on the cover)

CrimsonTide4 · #5 01-26-2004, 10:17 AM

TTT. . . someone just sent it to me again in an e-mail.

blackerican · #6 01-26-2004, 11:59 AM

CT4....you are the truth!!!!! I'm going to print this out and give to my girlfriends. I'm also going give a copy to my mom!!!!

lovelyivy84 · #7 01-26-2004, 12:10 PM

I am still loving this one, and I don't like most e-mails like this.

CT4 speaking TRUTH!

James · #8 01-26-2004, 12:15 PM

I have to disagree with number 11 . . . The ring isn't a gift exactly. Its a symbolic option to buy.

If dating is renting, and buying is marriage then the ring os more like a lease with an option. And I don't think it qualifies as a security deposit.

Also, those guys that say "keep the ring" when she tries to give it back are just morons. If the engagement breaks I want the freaking ring back.

CrimsonTide4 · #9 01-26-2004, 12:17 PM

Just so you all know, I did not write this. I know I inspire yall, lol, but this one is not my literary genius. Although I agree with a lot of the tenets set forth.

lovelyivy84 · #10 01-26-2004, 12:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
Just so you all know, I did not write this. I know I inspire yall, lol, but this one is not my literary genius. Although I agree with a lot of the tenets set forth.

I just like it cuz I'm dating a damn hippie, lol.

SummerChild · #11 01-26-2004, 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by James
I have to disagree with number 11 . . . The ring isn't a gift exactly. Its a symbolic option to buy.

If dating is renting, and buying is marriage then the ring os more like a lease with an option. And I don't think it qualifies as a security deposit.

Also, those guys that say "keep the ring" when she tries to give it back are just morons. If the engagement breaks I want the freaking ring back.

James, you are on to something (and I can't believe that Honey magazine would write improper info - even if it is a lighthearted piece). I believe that, legally, the ring is an offer of marriage to you by the giver - if the recipient accepts the offer, she takes the ring and gives her "yes" in exchange (it's a quid pro quo system). If the recipient breaks off the engagement, the ring belongs to the giver (by law). If the giver breaks it off, the ring belongs to the recipient (by law) I think.

The giver can take you to court to get it back if the giver really wants to. But ladies, just between us, I'd call his bluff.

SC

SummerChild · #12 01-26-2004, 01:24 PM

<<3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just
didn't work out.
>>

Amen!
SC

GeekyPenguin · #13 01-26-2004, 02:05 PM

My melanin-challenged self needed to see this today.

Eclipse · #14 01-26-2004, 07:33 PM

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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
My melanin-challenged self needed to see this today.

LOL!

By the way...I kinda disagree with #20. Not saying you should appologize for it, but some women wear not cooking like a badge of honor. Not cool in my opinion. Every adult that knows how to eat should know how to cook basic stuff (ie.e eggs, chicken, etc) and a reasonable fascimile of their favorite meal, be it meatloaf, mac and cheese and collard greens or blackened salmon and polenta.