Affiliating

Gamomof2 · #1 03-07-2013, 10:52 PM

Recently our daughter (Sophomore) transferred from one SEC school to another. She was given the email of the person to contact at her new school regarding information on affiliating. It took over a month before that person emailed back. Two emails have been exchanged. The last emailed sent from the DG person listed a telephone number and told my daughter to get in touch about attending a chapter meeting to meet the members and talk more about affiliating. Our daughter left a cell message for this young lady on Tuesday night but has had no return phone call.

She isn't sure how to take all of this. She doesn't know if this chapter isn't accepting of affiliates or if this person is just over the top busy all the time. She wants to work on affiliating in time to participate in Rush next Fall so she needs to go to the workshops this Spring. Plus she wants to get to know the members before they break for the Summer. DG means alot to her and she wants to fully participate but isn't going to bust in somewhere that's not open to her being there.

Any thoughts?

Gamomof2 · #2 03-08-2013, 12:29 AM

I didn't have a daughter initiated in Nov 2012. That must be another forum member.

AnchorAlumna · #3 03-08-2013, 12:41 AM

It's possible that the officer in charge doesn't understand how affiliation works. It's possible that they don't accept affiliates (chapters can choose not to) but they would welcome visits.
Does she have another person whom she could contact in the chapter? PM me if you'd like.

Gamomof2 · #4 03-18-2013, 10:53 PM

update: member contacted our daughter and is sending her the paperwork and also setting up a time to meet with a group of girls at the house and talk. So all seems to be in process.

AnchorAlumna · #5 03-19-2013, 12:37 AM

Glad it has worked out!

Here's what I usually advise on affiliation:
No two DG chapters (or any other sorority, for that matter) are alike. There's no guarantee that you will love the chapter at the new school as much as your chapter of initiation.
I would suggest holding off a semester before affiliating. Make a lot of visits to the house...hang out, get to know members.
If you like them, and they like you, and they accept affiliates, go for it!
But if your personalities clash, if you don't like the way they do things, etc....there's no need to affiliate. You retain your Delta Gamma membership.
IF you affiliate in haste and hate it, your only recourse would be to resign from the Fraternity - not just the newer chapter. Forever.
If you affiliate and love it, then all is well.

Of course, your daughter may already know chapter members and it's clear sailing. I know she's anxious to get involved in recruitment for the fall. But it would be a shame to be miserable in the chapter.
Just food for thought.