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Old 02-12-2008, 10:37 PM
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Random things related to Weddings, whether if you're a bride, bridesmaid, horrified spectator, relative, or just like KSUViolet06's stories!
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:39 PM
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I went to a bridal fair last weekend and there were all kinds of tables set up, the most horrifying was the Arbonne table. I also had some good laughs with a friend over books of invitations, particularly the Disney Cinderella and Precious Moments ones.
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:59 PM
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I went to a bridal fair last weekend and there were all kinds of tables set up, the most horrifying was the Arbonne table. I also had some good laughs with a friend over books of invitations, particularly the Disney Cinderella and Precious Moments ones.
Haha why was the Arbonne table was horrifying?
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Old 02-12-2008, 11:36 PM
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If I ever received a Disney-themed or god forbid a Precious Moments-themed wedding invitation, I would not go on principle. I'm not sure I'd even send a gift.
My friend killed me, she was judging the sample menus with the invitations "I wouldn't go to the reception with these food options, GROSS!" There was also a book FULL of invitations that incorporated pictures of the couple, but the most horrific to me was the envelope option. On the inside flap was a GIANT picture of the couple, and another had a tile effect of the happy couple.

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Haha why was the Arbonne table was horrifying?
I've never seen Arboone as anything but a Pyramid scheme and I can understand a makeup artist for the wedding, but not buying into the sales pitch for a job. For my sister OTW: Reach the Arbonne!
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I've never seen Arboone as anything but a Pyramid scheme and I can understand a makeup artist for the wedding, but not buying into the sales pitch for a job. For my sister OTW: Reach the Arbonne!
I've been approached many times by friends and acquaintances trying to get me to buy their Arbonne crap. I also find myself proclaiming "REACH THE ARBONNE!" while raising a clamped fist. They usually leave me alone after that because they think I'm crazy.

At least it works.
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Old 02-12-2008, 11:57 PM
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Okay, what the hell is an Arbonne?
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Old 02-13-2008, 08:13 PM
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I went to a bridal fair last weekend and there were all kinds of tables set up, the most horrifying was the Arbonne table. I also had some good laughs with a friend over books of invitations, particularly the Disney Cinderella and Precious Moments ones.
You know Disney makes wedding dresses now...right? You know you want one!

http://www.disneybridal.com/
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Old 02-13-2008, 08:20 PM
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You know Disney makes wedding dresses now...right? You know you want one!

http://www.disneybridal.com/
When I saw all the names I thought they were going to be totally costumey (especially "Disney Jasmine", I was picturing some sort of crop top genie outfit.) So in comparison the actual dresses were not so bad. haha But I still would never buy one or be able to keep a straight face if someone told me they bought a Disney wedding dress.
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Old 02-13-2008, 10:27 PM
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When I saw all the names I thought they were going to be totally costumey (especially "Disney Jasmine", I was picturing some sort of crop top genie outfit.) So in comparison the actual dresses were not so bad. haha But I still would never buy one or be able to keep a straight face if someone told me they bought a Disney wedding dress.

I was picturing that too. Honestly, Belle, Ariel, and Jasmine are pretty normal looking. I think the bridesmaids dresses are hideous though,

You could get something from an actual bridal designer for less money though, that doesn't have Disney on the label.
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Old 02-13-2008, 10:55 PM
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ksu - some advice for your big...take it or leave it.

1.) she needs to stop worrying about what her little is doing and focus on herself. she can have a beautiful wedding without spending as much....sometimes you just have to decide what to spend more on and what to skimp on a little.

2.) New England's way of life is COMPLETELY different than Ohio's. No wonder your twin is getting married in a castle. Good luck to your big if her standards are that high. Tell her to consider a nice reception hall and if it is too much on a Saturday, have her check on a Friday night (unless for some reason the date is significant or already strictly set). We saved almost $2000 by having our wedding on a Friday night which allowed us to spend more money on a fabulous photographer!! Also....Friday nights usually come with the bar, food, etc. No extra fees per person for that stuff!

3.) Find someone who makes cakes on the side. Much cheaper but usually just as wonderful!

4.) She can also do her own invitations if she wants to watch her budget. There is a paper place in Brunswick called Hollo's PaperCraft. She can get the paper cut the size she needs it and it costs by the pound. We got all the paper for invitations, place cards, programs, response and reception cards, as well as envelopes for less than $80. Also....if she knows someone who is great with computers, she can enlist them to print them (someone with access to a laser printer to make them look nicer).

5.) Get flowers from a wholesaler instead of a shop. Once again much cheaper and just as nice. Again....enlist someone to help put together bouquets, table arrangements, etc.



It breaks my heart to hear that she wants to compete with her little. She needs to understand that it is her day and it is what SHE makes of it, not what others compare it to. I hope this advice helps and if she's getting married locally (Akron/Canton area), I could help possibly a little more from the research I did about a year ago.

Good luck to all of you!!!
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Old 02-12-2008, 10:51 PM
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If I ever received a Disney-themed or god forbid a Precious Moments-themed wedding invitation, I would not go on principle. I'm not sure I'd even send a gift.
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Old 02-13-2008, 10:33 AM
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I'm with Baby on this - I couldn't imagine trying to one-up either of my littles, they really are like my little sisters, not just friends. The Big is supposed to be there for them and support them, not act like the middle child and get jealous about everything! Ugh!

Changing subject briefly - I'm trying to work out my budget and could use some help with the reception. I have no idea how much we should realistically budget for food/alcohol. We would like to have a cocktail hour with light hors d'oeuvres and open bar, then scale back the bar during the buffet meal to beer/wine/champagne/signature cocktails (one for the ladies, one for the men) and it's taking place in Athens, GA. Any suggestions??? And BTW, father of the groom brews his own beer and wine so we will have only a couple of limited selections of each. Is it more cost-effective to purchase our own and pay corkage fees...?

And is budgeting $100 for hair and makeup for me reasonable?

Is it worth it to get a wedding planner?

I have a lot of questions I've never been in a wedding before so I have absolutely NO experience!

BTW, love this thread.
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Old 02-13-2008, 10:43 AM
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SthrnZeta,
To answer your questions, one thing that helped FI and I out a lot when budgeting was using theknot.com's one. You input guest count and total budget and they help break things down for you. We took that, put it into an excel sheet and adjusted as necessary. Excel also helps us look at overall cost, then couple costs, then parental costs, etc.

As for alcohol, a lot will depend on the venue if they let you bring it in. I'm not sure I would want the stress of that, but it does usually cost less. And if you want just signature stuff for the reception, I would do it for the whole thing so guests don't get confused.

As for hair and makeup I think it really depends on location. I would look online at local salons/spas to see what their packages are. Also it depends if you want someone to come on-site, airbrushed makeup, etc.

It might be worth it to have a Day of Coordinator (DOC). A sister of mine is an event planner, so she is helping me as my DOC as a friend and I am super thankful.

I know the knot has a lot of crazies on it, but my local board and my wedding month board have been really helpful.

Hope this helped a bit!
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Old 02-13-2008, 11:00 AM
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To answer your questions, one thing that helped FI and I out a lot when budgeting was using theknot.com's one. You input guest count and total budget and they help break things down for you. We took that, put it into an excel sheet and adjusted as necessary. Excel also helps us look at overall cost, then couple costs, then parental costs, etc.

As for alcohol, a lot will depend on the venue if they let you bring it in. I'm not sure I would want the stress of that, but it does usually cost less. And if you want just signature stuff for the reception, I would do it for the whole thing so guests don't get confused.

As for hair and makeup I think it really depends on location. I would look online at local salons/spas to see what their packages are. Also it depends if you want someone to come on-site, airbrushed makeup, etc.

It might be worth it to have a Day of Coordinator (DOC). A sister of mine is an event planner, so she is helping me as my DOC as a friend and I am super thankful.

I know the knot has a lot of crazies on it, but my local board and my wedding month board have been really helpful.

Hope this helped a bit!
I do have some stuff set up on the Knot, so that's some really good advice. One of the doctors I work with, an AOPi, got married where we plan to and told me that the event coordinator for the venue should handle logistics for the day and that I don't really need a wedding planner. But I like the idea of someone else setting up meetings with vendors and her talking to them for me throughout the process.

As far as the alcohol, I get what you're saying about confusing people, but the bar area is in a separate room that you can close off and but then I guess we'd need more servers to serve drinks if we shut down the bar... definitely something to think about (and I hear alcohol is a major money-suck!).

And what's the deal with all the pieces in the invitation? Do you really need a separate one for the reception - can't you just say reception to follow since the reception site is on the same property as the chapel? Just seems silly to me... We would like people to RSVP on our wedding site but we know some may prefer to mail in a card so we'll include that also. Just seems like invitations are unncecessarily expensive, and then you throw in the Save the Date magnets we want and it's approaching $4-500!! And that doesn't include programs and napkins and any other stationary items! I mean, is $20,000 a realistic budget for a wedding of approx 100 people?
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And what's the deal with all the pieces in the invitation? Do you really need a separate one for the reception - can't you just say reception to follow since the reception site is on the same property as the chapel? Just seems silly to me... We would like people to RSVP on our wedding site but we know some may prefer to mail in a card so we'll include that also. Just seems like invitations are unncecessarily expensive, and then you throw in the Save the Date magnets we want and it's approaching $4-500!! And that doesn't include programs and napkins and any other stationary items! I mean, is $20,000 a realistic budget for a wedding of approx 100 people?
Invitation-You can do what you want. If you can have a simple regular invite, you can just put "reception immediately following" on the bottom. Then just insert a standard response card and envelope. I know that pocketfolds are popular right now, but they are not a must. I know that we have a good portion of guests that are out of town (OOT), so we are doing pocketfolds to include all information. If you have a website, this may also work, but don't forget your non-tech guests.

I would look into Vistaprint.com for your save-the-date magnets. I designed ours myself in Adobe and had them printed (I'm lucky to have some design knowledge though). Sign up for their coupons and you can get the magnets free or really discounted. It was like $30 for 100 I think. I am also going to order thank you cards from them as well with our monogram on them that I designed too.

Yes, your budget is realistic for 100 guests. There are ways to cut costs so you can spend in others. I don't know how crafty you are, but there are a lot of things you can do yourself, like invitations, programs, etc. Plus there are things people "think" they need and they don't. Programs and favors are big ones. I'd rather not have a program than a xerox copy of the ceremony thanks! Check ebay for a lot of things, especially the napkins. A lot of vendors are highly recommended.

It can be very overwhelming, but thankfully you have time. Just work on the big tickets items first to get those booked and then look down the checklist.
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