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Old 01-14-2019, 09:46 PM
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I have a daughter who is only a sophomore in HS. She has the 4.0 GPA, tons of community service hours already, and I know I have mom goggles on, but she is a very pretty girl. And I think she will do terrible in recruitment... She is quite shy. She speaks softly and quietly, and she gets nervous and self conscious in big groups. She has a heart of gold, is an excellent friend and listener, lots of fun and witty once you get to know her. I want to help her now. NOT because of recruitment, but I think overcoming this kind of shyness will help in general. Any advice would be appreciated.
Wonderful advice above.

I'd also consider looking into:

1) Assuming your daughter is under 18, see if there is a Toastmasters Youth Leadership Program in your town. https://www.toastmasters.org/educati...ership-program

The programs offered by Toastmaster clubs directly address the areas you mention in your post. They will definitely get her out of her comfort zone and help her develop confidence when speaking with individuals and groups. Once she becomes 18, she can participate in the regular Toastmasters clubs. This would be my first recommendation.

2) Another avenue (which has been suggested repeatedly) is for her to read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." You can buy it used for about $3 or look up a summary on Google or get an audio book. There are also expensive training programs based on Dale Carnegie's work all over. But I'd start with the book.
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Old 01-18-2019, 03:01 PM
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Shy girls are total gems in the rough if you can pull them out of the shell or see their potential but usually there is not enough time.

I have a relative who just went through deferred recruitment and KSUViolet is right, there was just not enough time for her to come out of her shell.
She is "total package" but extremely reserved and waits to assess a situation before she dives in. She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.
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Old 01-18-2019, 03:57 PM
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I have a relative who just went through deferred recruitment and KSUViolet is right, there was just not enough time for her to come out of her shell.
She is "total package" but extremely reserved and waits to assess a situation before she dives in. She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.
Sounds like she would do much better during Informal recruitment where the pace and pressure are not so overwhelming. If that is offered on her campus, you might want to encourage her to give that a try.
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Old 01-18-2019, 04:25 PM
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She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.
Even if she would have had the time to get more comfortable, a lot of the super popular chapters can be a very high octane environment, and she might have constantly felt like she was trying to keep up. Getting the bid is only half the battle.

That is part of the point of deferred rush - to give women a chance to get used to the campus community and to meet Greek women outside of the artificial atmosphere of rush.
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