would you date someone with a kid? - Page 2

dzrose93 · #16 02-21-2002, 03:45 PM

I've dated someone with a child before. He was divorced, and his daughter was 4. We got along famously, and it certainly didn't bother me. In fact, she was the only one in the family that I missed after I dumped him.

AlphaGam1019 · #17 02-21-2002, 05:07 PM

No, I wouldn't date someone with a kid. I'm in my early 20's and would probably date someone around my age. It's too early for me to deal with kids.

#18 02-21-2002, 11:32 PM

I'm currently seeing a man who has not one, but two children. His daughter's 4 and his son just turned 2 last month.

Today he boarded a plane for LA to go and get his kids. It's a long story, but the poor kids can't live with their mom anymore, so he's bringing them here.

I don't know how it's going to be once the children get here... but I'll be sure to keep y'all posted.

I've never dated anyone with kids before, so this is a whole new experience for me...

The1calledTKE · #19 02-21-2002, 11:37 PM

I dated a woman that was 7 years older than me with 2 kids. Biggest mistake of my life. No more older women or women with kids for me! Beside I have dated my current gf for 2 years and I am happy as can be. Thank god for the younger women with no kids!

GreekLetterGirl · #20 02-22-2002, 12:51 AM

i am not sure, I guess this is one of those case by case situations that you wouldn't know how to deal with unless you where actually in it...

tridelta4ever · #21 02-22-2002, 10:46 AM

In general, no way. I feel that emotionally, the worst case scenario is too difficult on me and the child. The child becomes attached, and then you might feel obliged to stay in a relationship just because you care for the child. I know this is happening to a very good friend of mine, and it just kills me to watch it happen.

I agree with Amycat though - sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with. If this guy was Mr. Wonderful and was a good father and didn't have a creepy ex that stalked him and played mind games, then yes, I would *consider* it. But maybe that's because I'm getting older. When I was in my late teens and early twenties, it would have NEVER occurred to me.

Still, I'll be honest and say that I'd rather embark on creating a family with someone who doesn't already have kids. Just seems a lot easier to me!