Is There a RIGHT age for Marriage?

PrettyKitty · #1 06-03-2002, 04:41 PM

It seems like the older I get the more pressure my mother is beginning to put on me about marriage. At first I just used to brush it off...but now every time I talk to that woman she is saying how "I need to find someone who is going to be supportive of everything I do" or how she wants "at least one grandchild" from me and that I am getting old, and blah, blah, blah...is anyone else around that 30ish point receiving the same kind of bashing from moms? How do you deal with it?

BearyCuteAPhi · #2 06-03-2002, 04:48 PM

Well not me personably but that is how my grandmother is towards my uncle (30yrs.) and my aunt (28yrs.). She is always pressuring them to hurry up and get married. I think the right time and age is when you have found someone that you know you cannot live happily without, a person who lights up your face as soon as you see them, the person who makes your world turn, the one who loves you for who you are, and when you both are mature enough to know the responsibilities of marriage and are willing to accept them...then that is the RIGHT time and age!

Ronnie

#3 06-03-2002, 04:54 PM

Honey I'm 22, and I'm getting that.

BearyCuteAPhi · #4 06-03-2002, 04:59 PM

....Yeah, I am fixing to be a junior in college and my mother has told me that I should get married as soon as I graduate.

lil_sunshine · #5 06-03-2002, 05:20 PM

NO set age on when a couple should tie the knot. It should be entirely up to them whether they feel ready. Marriage is a serious step to take and to take it with the wrong person can leave either or both parties bitter about what happened to them in their past relationships. Just about everything that I said in the dating thread applies here. JMHO....

FuzzieAlum · #6 06-03-2002, 05:51 PM

Well, as long as they're legally old enough to get married, anyway!

DOVE1920 · #7 06-03-2002, 11:28 PM

I agree that there is no right age to marry. I think it has more to do with maturity and that comes at any age!

straightBOS · #8 06-03-2002, 11:53 PM

Yes... but its a secret.

zetafg · #9 06-04-2002, 10:52 AM

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Originally posted by PrettyKitty
is anyone else around that 30ish point receiving the same kind of bashing from moms? How do you deal with it?

Soror I AM 30... will be 31 in August. Not married, no children. In a Loving

Relationship....YES!!! Fortunately for me though, my Mom is not pressuring us to get married. My Mom told me that she is still adjusting to being a Mother (her youngest is 18) she is not ready to be a Grandmother just yet.

My Siblings on the other hand are different. Every now and then...more now than then, my sisters and brother (sometimes) are saying that I'm getting old and they want a niece or nephew like yesterday. How about this: My youngest sister (who just completed her freshmen year at Morgan) calls me on Mother's Day and said to me, "Happy Mother's Day....this is what I WOULD be saying to you if you had some children!" Can you say hurt feelings? My response was," Whatever"

When the time is right for the both of us, we will make that move because WE will be ready, not because of our families influence.

Soror you have to follow your heart and do what is right for you, not others.

Z-Phi

thesweetestone · #10 06-04-2002, 10:57 AM

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Originally posted by straightBOS
Yes... but its a secret.

Do tell!

msbrowneyz · #11 06-04-2002, 11:08 AM

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Originally posted by PrettyKitty
is anyone else around that 30ish point receiving the same kind of bashing from moms? How do you deal with it?

I didn't get bashed, but I was questioned. I ignored my mother and grand-aunts and they caught on (eventually)

. When it was right for you and that special man, you can do it then. Don't give in to the pressure!

PrettyKitty · #12 06-05-2002, 12:31 PM

Sometimes I think my mother is TRIPPING! I think my grandma did the same thing to her and now she is doing it to me

Her Dopenezzz · #13 06-05-2002, 03:34 PM

I don't even think it's just moms. Whenever you are in a relationship for at least 2 years (and no, I'm not counting times you were on a "break"

) people always start asking when the wedding is going to be. I think people think it's cute/cool to ask/badger people about marriage but I can see how that could become extremely annoying.

TLAW · #14 06-05-2002, 04:44 PM

The right age for marriage? How do I put this... well, at whatever age R Kelly wanted to sleep with you plus about 18 yrs! LOL!
Anyway, for real, when the time is right. Better not to do it than do it fast and wrong.

thesweetestone · #15 06-05-2002, 06:00 PM

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Originally posted by straightBOS
Yes... but its a secret.

What's the secret? Tell me, please!