Advice to rushers: re: legacies

[Zillini]

KDlady80, legacies are extended a great deal of courtesy. I suspect that many of scary posts you read are the extreme horror stories and not the norm.

Like KSUViolet said, keep in mind that a lot depends on which organization you are talking about on which campus. In my own GLO some Chapters would be ecstatic if 2-3 legacies went through recruitment. In other places there are 2x quota worth of legacies participating. Even if they wanted to they can't extend bids to every legacy because the numbers simply won't allow it.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by kdlady80

One thing I am somewhat concerned about is the the other sororities will see that she is a legacy to another sorority and cut her. Does this actully happen?

It happens. No one can say whether it will happen for your daughter or not. Whether she will choose to list her legacy status is up to her.

Most well-prepared PNMs receive bids. However, they do not always get bids to their first choice chapter, legacy chapter, etc. That's part of life.

Just relax and let the chips fall where they may.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It happens. No one can say whether it will happen for your daughter or not. Whether she will choose to list her legacy status is up to her.

Most well-prepared PNMs receive bids. However, they do not always get bids to their first choice chapter, legacy chapter, etc. That's part of life.

Just relax and let the chips fall where they may.

It does happen, but I'd think it's more likely to happen if the legacy is rushing while her sister is in school or shortly after her sister leaves, since you don't have the choice of telling people if you're a legacy. A grandmother legacy is up to you to list. I believe ICS (common recruitment software) only shows a chapter its own legacies instead of everyone's legacies. However, if your rec writers include her legacy information on their rec forms, this is how other chapters find out if your daughter doesn't directly tell a chapter member during recruitment.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

A grandmother legacy is up to you to list.

Plus...not all NPC groups include granddaughters as legacies.