Feeling really down about myself...why didn't I get asked back by any sororities?

RKelly74 · #1 09-13-2012, 06:36 PM

I decided to rush as a sophomore at University of Michigan because I was just too overwhelmed to do so freshman year. I just got through the mixers, which is the first part where we go to all 15 houses and talk to about 3 girls in each house. Then we rank the sororities for the first time and get asked back for "second sets." I didn't even make it to this because I only got asked backed by one sorority to even go through second sets (after this, we have third sets, then preference parties). I didn't feel like I fit in at all with the girls I met at that sorority, so I am now just dropping out. I don't understand what I did wrong. Most girls get asked back by up to 11 of the houses for second sets. I dressed nicely and was very polite to every girl I met. Freshman year, I met a popular guy in phi psi (the "top" frat at out school) who had a crush on me, and he said to definitely rush as a sophomore because he thought I would get a top house, which in his mind is Tri-Delt (I guess because he thought I was attractive). My rho omega said she couldn't tell me why the sororities decide who to invite back, but she said it could possibly be because I'm a sophomore. However, I had a friend rush with me who was a sophomore and she got asked back to 11 houses, including Tri Delt. And a lot of the girls who even rushed me told me they rushed as sophomores. My GPA was not the best freshman year, but it wasn't horrible either, and the sorority girls I talked to said they don't look at the academics that much; it's mostly about the friendships you make. There seemed to be hundred of girls rushing, so I don't know how the sororities could even know me or remember me enough to reject me at this point. I saw some girls that I knew from freshman year rushing the new potential members, so do you think if a couple girls didn't like me or something they told the rest of the sororities? What went wrong? Maybe I talked about something I shouldn't have during our conversations? I live in an apartment with 3 girls in ADpi, and I had a cousin who just graduated from here in alpha phi, but I of course didn't get asked back to those sororities either. I was so excited to rush, and now I just feel horrible about myself.

SydneyK · #2 09-13-2012, 06:43 PM

Much like your Rho Omega, we cannot tell you why you weren't invited back. However,

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Originally Posted by RKelly74

I didn't even make it to this because I only got asked backed by one sorority to even go through second sets (after this, we have third sets, then preference parties). I didn't feel like I fit in at all with the girls I met at that sorority, so I am now just dropping out.

dropping out isn't the best idea if you're a sophomore and want to be involved in Greek life. As others here have said, it only takes one. Who knows, that one may have been the home you were looking for.

Mevara · #3 09-13-2012, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by RKelly74

I decided to rush as a sophomore at University of Michigan because I was just too overwhelmed to do so freshman year. I just got through the mixers, which is the first part where we go to all 15 houses and talk to about 3 girls in each house. Then we rank the sororities for the first time and get asked back for "second sets." I didn't even make it to this because I only got asked backed by one sorority to even go through second sets (after this, we have third sets, then preference parties). I didn't feel like I fit in at all with the girls I met at that sorority, so I am now just dropping out. I don't understand what I did wrong. Most girls get asked back by up to 11 of the houses for second sets. I dressed nicely and was very polite to every girl I met. Freshman year, I met a popular guy in phi psi (the "top" frat at out school) who had a crush on me, and he said to definitely rush as a sophomore because he thought I would get a top house, which in his mind is Tri-Delt (I guess because he thought I was attractive). My rho omega said she couldn't tell me why the sororities decide who to invite back, but she said it could possibly be because I'm a sophomore. However, I had a friend rush with me who was a sophomore and she got asked back to 11 houses, including Tri Delt. And a lot of the girls who even rushed me told me they rushed as sophomores. My GPA was not the best freshman year, but it wasn't horrible either, and the sorority girls I talked to said they don't look at the academics that much; it's mostly about the friendships you make. There seemed to be hundred of girls rushing, so I don't know how the sororities could even know me or remember me enough to reject me at this point. I saw some girls that I knew from freshman year rushing the new potential members, so do you think if a couple girls didn't like me or something they told the rest of the sororities? What went wrong? Maybe I talked about something I shouldn't have during our conversations? I live in an apartment with 3 girls in ADpi, and I had a cousin who just graduated from here in alpha phi, but I of course didn't get asked back to those sororities either. I was so excited to rush, and now I just feel horrible about myself.

Sorry, no sympathy from me. You were asked back to 1 group and you chose not to go back. It's not the same thing as not getting asked back to any sorority.

TriDeltaSallie · #4 09-13-2012, 06:59 PM

What is your GPA?

SigKapSweetie · #5 09-13-2012, 07:10 PM

You also posted on here about how you only wanted to join the three chapters you felt were the most popular (and named them), and gave enough information about yourself that girls on your campus could, have with a minimum of effort on their parts, figured out who you were. That kind of attitude doesn't make for the most beloved PNM on campus. Just saying...

Old_Row · #6 09-13-2012, 07:16 PM

Maybe they all saw your other posts you made on Greekchat? Those were pretty bad and would definitely make my house not want to give you a bid.

ZTAOnlytheBest · #7 09-13-2012, 07:17 PM

Maybe because you're a self absorbed bitch.

knight_shadow · #8 09-13-2012, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTAOnlytheBest

Maybe because you're a self absorbed bitch.

Wow.

Titchou · #9 09-13-2012, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTAOnlytheBest

Maybe because you're a self absorbed bitch.

That's really uncalled for.

33girl · #10 09-13-2012, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Titchou

That's really uncalled for.

I agree. Self-absorbed should have a hyphen in it.

ZTAme · #11 09-13-2012, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTAOnlytheBest

Maybe because you're a self absorbed bitch.

Out of bounds and most definitely not representative of our organization.

ellebud · #12 09-14-2012, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTAOnlytheBest

Maybe because you're a self absorbed bitch.

Whoa...seriously? If I were a ZTA I would be ashamed to call you my sister.

The OP may have made a mistake. The OP might not have understood the process. The OP is..what 19? She is still young and has a lot to learn about life. She may be naive, she may be shallow...but a bitch?

But for you to sum up a person's life and character based on one paragraph...I am ashamed...(and yes, in this case one sentence reveals much about your character) that we share the Greek experience.

BlueCarnation · #13 09-14-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

Whoa...seriously? If I were a ZTA I would be ashamed to call you my sister.

The OP may have made a mistake. The OP might not have understood the process. The OP is..what 19? She is still young and has a lot to learn about life. She may be naive, she may be shallow...but a bitch?

But for you to sum up a person's life and character based on one paragraph...I am ashamed...(and yes, in this case one sentence reveals much about your character) that we share the Greek experience.

Again, not to defend ZTA's exact words, but there is a history with the poster's comments and if you read her previous threads, you may not have felt too positively towards her. Yes, we all make mistakes, so let's give ZTA a break too.

Mevara · #14 09-14-2012, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

Whoa...seriously? If I were a ZTA I would be ashamed to call you my sister.

One thing to note is that just because her username says ZTA we don't actually know if she is a member of ZTA. This is a internet forum anyone could sign up with ABC Sorority Username. We don't verify that you are an actual member of ABC.

ellebud · #15 09-14-2012, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Mevara

One thing to note is that just because her username says ZTA we don't actually know if she is a member of ZTA. This is a internet forum anyone could sign up with ABC Sorority Username. We don't verify that you are an actual member of ABC.

You are correct. Perhaps this person isn't a ZTA. If she is not a member I apologize to any ZTAs who's reputation was sullied by her and my response.

If the poster is Greek or a human being I still am ashamed of her response.