» GC Stats |
Members: 325,428
Threads: 115,510
Posts: 2,196,494
|
Welcome to our newest member, baangelasteaxdy |
|
|
|
01-17-2011, 10:37 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: Home.
Posts: 8,256
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
Super sad = parents spanking their developmentally delayed children.
|
Honestly, I think that's abuse and/or parental denial that their child actually has a problem. It used to be that people thought autism was just a kid being bad. Sick sick sick.
|
01-18-2011, 05:49 PM
|
Moderator
|
|
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 18,142
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Munchkin03
Honestly, I think that's abuse and/or parental denial that their child actually has a problem. It used to be that people thought autism was just a kid being bad. Sick sick sick.
|
Most of the time, it's this.
__________________
"Remember that apathy has no place in our Sorority." - Kelly Jo Karnes, Pi
Lakers Nation.
|
01-18-2011, 07:35 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Tatooine
Posts: 2,173
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
Super sad = parents spanking their developmentally delayed children.
I recently started a new position where I work with such kids. You'd be surprised at some of the parental rationales for doing so. Even when they have been told that the behaviors their kid exhibits are the result of a developmental delay or other disorder.
Ex: Bobby has severe ADHD. You spanking him every time he gets a Red Card isn't going to make him stop talking during Circle Time/putting paste in other kid's hair/etc. No, I don't care that your friend/mom/etc. says "he's just not getting enough spankings at home." You can spank him until the cows come home, that's not going to change behavior.
I know I'm not a parent, but jeez.
|
That is sad.
I think spanking is fine on occasion and if it's done with no real harm. I was spanked as a child when I did something particularly horrible, but I would never have been spanked hard enough to bruise or cause any lasting harm. (And if I have kids I will likely do the same...no, it caused no lasting harm or psychological scarring.) Hurting a child makes me sick to think about and it's even worse when it's children that have those developmental issues. It boggles my mind that parents wouldn't educate themselves on the disorder their child is diagnosed with...because if they did they'd know spanking isn't the solution.
I also hate to see children being spanked for things that children routinely do. I was spanked when my actions would have caused harm to myself or my siblings, not when I talked back or cried or had an accident (three examples I've seen very young children spanked for).
__________________
IIII IIII IIII
"A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five."
Groucho Marx
|
01-19-2011, 08:37 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: a little here and a little there
Posts: 4,835
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alumiyum
not when I talked back
|
THIS didn't warrant a spanking in your household? So you were allowed to talk back?
If I talked back or gave a smart-ass remark, that was an IMMEDIATE slap across the mouth.
__________________
guess my comp isn't a fan of moist vag--k_s
Would you like a Cleveland Steamer or Alabama Hot Pocket with your Blumpkin?
|
01-19-2011, 09:05 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Tatooine
Posts: 2,173
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by epchick
THIS didn't warrant a spanking in your household? So you were allowed to talk back?
If I talked back or gave a smart-ass remark, that was an IMMEDIATE slap across the mouth.
|
Of course I was punished, but my parents did not spank me just for talking back. There are a million ways to discipline a child besides spanking, and I agree with them that something like talking back does not warrant a spanking.
And they never, ever slapped me across the mouth.
__________________
IIII IIII IIII
"A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five."
Groucho Marx
|
01-19-2011, 09:17 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: a little here and a little there
Posts: 4,835
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alumiyum
Of course I was punished, but my parents did not spank me just for talking back. There are a million ways to discipline a child besides spanking, and I agree with them that something like talking back does not warrant a spanking.
And they never, ever slapped me across the mouth.
|
ehh to each their own. If my kids talk back, they'll get a slap on the mouth too.
__________________
guess my comp isn't a fan of moist vag--k_s
Would you like a Cleveland Steamer or Alabama Hot Pocket with your Blumpkin?
|
01-19-2011, 09:23 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Tatooine
Posts: 2,173
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by epchick
ehh to each their own. If my kids talk back, they'll get a slap on the mouth too.
|
I cannot and will not slap a child. There are many other ways to discipline. I agree with my parents' method of refraining from using any physical discipline other than spanking, and reserving that for serious misbehavior...not something as commonplace and trivial as being a little mouthy.
__________________
IIII IIII IIII
"A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five."
Groucho Marx
|
01-19-2011, 09:29 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 13,552
|
|
This falls into the "there are many ways to discipline and the vast majority are neither abusive nor going to screw a kid up for the rest of their life" category.
__________________
From the SigmaTo the K!
Polyamorous, Pansexual and Proud of it!
It Gets Better
|
01-19-2011, 09:30 PM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: a little here and a little there
Posts: 4,835
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Drolefille
This falls into the "there are many ways to discipline and the vast majority are neither abusive nor going to screw a kid up for the rest of their life" category.
|
To each their own.
__________________
guess my comp isn't a fan of moist vag--k_s
Would you like a Cleveland Steamer or Alabama Hot Pocket with your Blumpkin?
|
01-21-2011, 10:04 AM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 398
|
|
Brief spankings for seriously bad behavior can be effective so long as it is clearly and calmly explained to the child afterwards why they were in trouble to begin with. Using spanking excessively or overly forcefully can actually lead to an increase in behavioral problems and damage the child's relationship with the parent forever. It's not that I'm dead-set against it, but I do think it should be used with discretion. For minor misbehavior something like a time out can work better. There are several journal articles out there on this topic; it's pretty interesting.
__________________
()---,, Nobody knows how happy I am!
|
01-21-2011, 10:44 AM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Michigan
Posts: 15,396
|
|
One of the key things is that you do not do it out of anger/while angry. So, when the kids are on your last nerve and it's been a long, bad day and you find yourself getting really angry, that is not the time to spank them. Socially isolate them (and you if you need to) until you are calm and then decide the best punishment.
|
01-21-2011, 10:48 AM
|
Moderator
|
|
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 18,142
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by AGDee
One of the key things is that you do not do it out of anger/while angry. So, when the kids are on your last nerve and it's been a long, bad day and you find yourself getting really angry, that is not the time to spank them. Socially isolate them (and you if you need to) until you are calm and then decide the best punishment.
|
I find that ANY discipline while you are REALLY upset isn't good.
__________________
"Remember that apathy has no place in our Sorority." - Kelly Jo Karnes, Pi
Lakers Nation.
|
01-21-2011, 11:04 AM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Michigan
Posts: 15,396
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
I find that ANY discipline while you are REALLY upset isn't good.
|
I found "Go to your rooms NOW" effective when when I was really upset.
|
01-21-2011, 11:06 AM
|
GreekChat Member
|
|
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: What's round on the ends and high in the middle?
Posts: 3,047
|
|
I've found saying "I've had a bad/sad day and I'm very angry/tired/have a headache and am not in the mood," prompts them to go find something quiet to do on their own.
__________________
KAQ - 1870 With twin stars and kites above.
|
01-21-2011, 11:18 AM
|
Moderator
|
|
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 18,142
|
|
With little kids, you'd be surprised at how much a time-out, threat of punishment, or even a stern look does.
My g-daughters are 7 and 4. The threat of being sent upstairs or going to bed early gets them to shape up most of them time.
Me: "If you guys can't stop fighting, then you will go to bed at 7:30 with no snack."
Kids: OhmygoshAuntieViolet noooooo please don't take our snacks. We promise we'll be good.
__________________
"Remember that apathy has no place in our Sorority." - Kelly Jo Karnes, Pi
Lakers Nation.
|
|
|
Posting Rules
|
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
|
|
|
|