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03-09-2012, 01:18 PM
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it was no occasion... I learned from my father that you keep a smile on your woman's face at all times... Let her know how much you cherish her daily... Many things he tried to teach me and the one lesson I grasped completely is making your wife feel special...
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Exactly. I agree with you. I was raised in watching how my dad treats my mom. That man is crazy about my mom.
Today is a brand new day, and because it's a brand new day, she could use some new reminders. I like to act as if every one of yesterday's reminders and reassurances expired and need to replaced with a fresh supply. You can never tell/show the woman you love how much you love her and why, too much. At least that's my thoughts on it.
iotamason, thumbs up to you, man.
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03-09-2012, 03:42 PM
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it was no occasion... I learned from my father that you keep a smile on your woman's face at all times... Let her know how much you cherish her daily... Many things he tried to teach me and the one lesson I grasped completely is making your wife feel special...
Decided to do both... She was cheesing like a chester cat when we went to Kay's.... I love seeing her happy...
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03-09-2012, 05:49 PM
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I find it interesting that iotamason loves to see his wife happy, good for him. This is why I believe men are more sensitive than we think they are, and why I believe men (in general) live for the approval of the women they love. Also, the man in your life (who you love) needs to feel honored and respected, which is why I believe that a disrespectful attitude can damage them more deeply than we realize. I could be wrong, but I honestly believe that the worst thing a man can feel is failure in the eyes of his woman. This is why a lot of men will direct their attention to whomever or wherever will affirm him as a success.
I also believe the romance thing works both ways. I mean, I think it’s important for the man to sit back and relax, too, and let her show him the kind of romantic evening that he’ll never forget. Women are also capable of romancing the men who love them. In fact, we are not only capable, many of us have no shortage of the creativity and the desire to express ourselves romantically. Men are not solely responsible for designing and financing all of the dates/romantic days/nights, coming up with all of the surprises, or initiating all of the imaginative displays of affection. We can do that, too.
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03-11-2012, 04:59 PM
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Next week my pastor is starting his 4 week series of romance/relationships/marriage. He does these once a year, not including the retreats. I've been going to the women's retreats as a visitor every year since 2008, up until July of 2011, when I joined the church. He's awesome, and I always jot down notes every Sunday. I look up the book, the verse, and what I wrote down in my own words in the Bible. All of his topics are wonderful, especially his relationship topics. I'm excited.
eta: I like my pastor, and I agree with him, because everything I've always felt and thought I knew about relationships, he says, but I felt the same way since I was just a college student. I was just too young to apply how I felt about relationships. I knew I wasn't crazy.
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03-12-2012, 03:29 PM
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It's been 6 months. Why the fuck am I not over her yet?
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03-12-2012, 04:16 PM
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My ex is getting back from his deployment soon. Honestly I'm nervous. When we split, we both understood that it was for the best and we would give it another shot when he came home. But his friends and family think I really did him wrong and my friends and family think I should enjoy being on my own for awhile, and I don't know how to incorporate him back into my life. I know that I'm just going to have to wait and see how things go, but I'm getting a little anxious. Not in a comfortable spot right now. SO relieved that he will be home, though.
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03-13-2012, 09:57 AM
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03-13-2012, 11:08 AM
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Weekends like that remind me why I'm so happy Starfish and I are back together.
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03-13-2012, 11:48 AM
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I read some of the article, and my thoughts on it pretty much come down to communication. Many couples merely tolerate each other when it comes to sexual intimacy because they don't have the courage to communicate their physical needs to each other. In the interest of not hurting feelings, some partners settle for being unsatisfied. I mean, I just think that on some level, that dissatisfaction is only going to manifest elsewhere in the relationship in negative ways, if there isn't any communication. I can't speak for all couples, but IMO, to experience and maintain plessure and satisfaction, both partners must be willing to communicate. Plus, to me, I really think it's important to focus on pleasing the other person first. I just think that sexual intimacy should start at the beginning of the day and build as kind of like a gradual increase by the time the couple comes together. I mean, everyone has their own way of doing what works for them, but that's just my thoughts about the article.
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03-13-2012, 07:07 PM
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Ok.. my ex-husband's girlfriend is making me absolutely insane. You may remember that I wasn't allowed to meet her until they'd been dating for almost two years. She's living in his house, along with her adult children and one of their children and, honestly, if she wasn't, he'd probably be homeless now since he's been unemployed for so long. However, she is SO threatened by me and it makes me absolutely crazy. She has gotten mad when we took the kids out to dinner for their birthdays. She has refused to have us sit all at one table at band banquets and boy scout dinners, which means that my kids' dad doesn't sit with THEM at those functions.
So there was a band spaghetti dinner fundraiser on Sunday. Since my daughter was performing during the dinner, we were all there at the same time. My ex-father-in-law and his girlfriend were there too. I wasn't going to ignore these people who were "family" for a long time and who are special to my kids so I stopped at their table to say hello. I ended up talking with the ex-FIL for about 20 minutes, asking about family, etc. I told him I was in grad school, blah, blah, blah. It came up that I'm taking classes at the same college as my ex and that he has a class this term that I had a few years ago. We talked about hypoallergenic's graduation party and the ex'es girlfriend (Regina) asked if I was going to have it it catered and I said "probably" and she said that was way too expensive and we could just make the food and we'll have to get together to plan it. Aha! Progress maybe??
Fast forward to yesterday. The kids stopped by and informed me that Regina might be moving out. She was mad because I talked to my ex-FIL and, even more mad that my ex and I are taking classes at the same school. WTF??? The woman is frickin' nuts. We have been divorced for TWELVE years. That's longer than our relationship from dating through the day we got divorced. If I'd wanted him back, I would have done that years and years ago. I have been nothing but kind to this woman, ever.
So today, my ex calls to tell me that every time I go anywhere near Regina she gets mad. I lost it this time and told him that this is HER problem, not mine, that she is ridiculous for feeling threatened by me. That I am NOT going to ignore people who have nothing to do with the breakup of our marriage, like his father.. my kids grandfather, just because SHE is threatened. I told him she needs to get over it because I am not a threat to her in any way, shape or form. She told him the kids wish we would get back together, which I pointed out to him is ridiculous. The kids are fine with the way things are and have been fine for many, many, many years. Even my ex-FIL said the other day "You two have done a good job raising those two kids. They're really great kids and you've both stayed involved with them even though you're divorced and that doesn't happen a lot of the time. I'm really proud that you two handled that so well."
My ex and I have had a amicable relationship because we have to raise two kids together. If there were no kids, I wouldn't have any contact with him at all. But, I told him tonight on the phone... I am NOT going to ignore his family and friends, who were my family and friends for years too, at this graduation party. I'm going to be friendly to these people who I have always liked. Even if I didn't like them, I'd be friendly, because that's the kind of person I am.
What a crock of BS. Then he starts to say "If I find another girl after this one..." and I said "You'll introduce us early so she can see that I'm not a threat and she and I will probably end up good friends!" I told him that I really don't care what Regina thinks anymore. I'm going to be friendly with my ex-in-laws when I see them. I'm going to be friendly to my ex'es friends when I see them. I like them dammit. This is NOT going to be MY problem.
I would really like to say all this to her face.
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03-13-2012, 07:54 PM
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12 years and she still has a problem? lolz.
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03-13-2012, 08:06 PM
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03-13-2012, 09:16 PM
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12 years and she still has a problem? lolz.
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No kidding... to both.
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03-13-2012, 10:42 PM
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I read some of the article, and my thoughts on it pretty much come down to communication. Many couples merely tolerate each other when it comes to sexual intimacy because they don't have the courage to communicate their physical needs to each other. In the interest of not hurting feelings, some partners settle for being unsatisfied. I mean, I just think that on some level, that dissatisfaction is only going to manifest elsewhere in the relationship in negative ways, if there isn't any communication. I can't speak for all couples, but IMO, to experience and maintain plessure and satisfaction, both partners must be willing to communicate. Plus, to me, I really think it's important to focus on pleasing the other person first. I just think that sexual intimacy should start at the beginning of the day and build as kind of like a gradual increase by the time the couple comes together. I mean, everyone has their own way of doing what works for them, but that's just my thoughts about the article.
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So in orher words you are a quiet patient lover.......hehehhehe
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03-13-2012, 11:59 PM
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So in orher words you are a quiet patient lover.......hehehhehe
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lol
No, I'm just a very giving, unselfish lover. I just think that love should be increasing. It's just that if it's standing still, it has nowhere to go but downhill. I just don't believe it should remain static. It's just that it has to have movement (pun intended, and not intended ). I mean, everyone looks forward to intimacy, it's just that (with some couples) I believe it's misused as much as it is enjoyed. I'm not perfect, and relationships are very hard, but fortunately for me, God daily tutors me in the lessons of love, and He has given me the best homework a woman could ever hope for -a loving, very handsome, wonderful, giving man.
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