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[StealthMode]

Today, I realized I am dating the male version of myself...and I really like myself so this is kind of awesome.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

With that movie, based on the trailer I saw, it's true. Some men will choose to coast, thinking no news is good news, when in reality no news usually means his woman has found a way to compensate for whatever need he isn't meeting. All it takes is for another man to meet those needs (probably a temporary fix, but still the need is being met, just short term) and that relationship is done, stick a fork in it.

Lol this is basically what the movie was based on. I don't really have a problem with Perry movies, just the acting is bad. With the other part of your post, I'm all for that too. Just meeting a woman who gives it back is what's difficult.

[Mizeree I2K]

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I'll be seriously surprised if I haven't friend zoned myself with this person.

Y'all already knew each other before?

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Lol this is basically what the movie was based on. I don't really have a problem with Perry movies, just the acting is bad. With the other part of your post, I'm all for that too. Just meeting a woman who gives it back is what's difficult.

Me and my girl saw it. Dude was dumb ass hayle. For real, no dude on the planet is that dumb. My girl was even trippin in the movie off of how dumb he was. This dude was rollin up in a sports car, with dude's wife in the passenger seat, smashed it the night before, and as they pull up, the husband is on the porch chessin telling the other dude "thanks for giving my wife a ride home". WTF? Dude, he rode the hell out of your wife literally last night, and you don't have a clue? For real? Dude was soft too. That's bad to be soft and dumb as hell. I don't know a dude on the planet who wouldn't trip off of that.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by StealthMode

Today, I realized I am dating the male version of myself...and I really like myself so this is kind of awesome.

Congrats. I hope it works out. You do have that awesome quality, so he must be good peoples.

[TonyB06]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Just meeting a woman who gives it back is what's difficult.

That right there, IMO, is a main point of contention in most relationships issues that I hear about, and why it is so ridiculuously important to CHOOSE WELL. A solid relationship is not an if/then thing --> "if you do this, I'll do that."

You give (love) because that's what you do -- which is why frustration arrives when we hook up (longterm) with the wrong person. Hook up with someone that is not a "giver" in her own right, and guess what; you just got played, nephew.

That's why responsible dating shows so much. I was single nearly 10 years before remarrying last year. What I saw/experienced were a variety of personalities, hearts. I prayed for the discernment to see the person that I wanted/needed, and to be a man worthy of that gift. It ain't easy, but when you are "spiritually/emotionally prepared" (as best you can be, anyway) it can be a lot of fun.

The union of two "givers" is, indeed, a beautiful thing.

[33girl]

It's probably better that it worked out this way.

But it would have been a hell of a lot more fun if it had worked out the other way.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by Mizeree I2K

Y'all already knew each other before?

I have a crush on a co-worker, but I believe I haven't given her the right message. I've been friendly, cheerful, and someone to commiserate with, but I have not asked her out. I've gotten bad cases of performance anxiety, seeing as she is always surrounded by other people. If I had a moment with her without a constant 10+ crowd in the immediate area, I would be able to 'spit game' as it were.

[PrettyBoy]

You guys have got me curious about this movie. I guess we'll have to add it to the list of things to do this weekend. I hope I'm not disappointed.

ETA: Knowing me, I'm probably going to end up dissecting this movie, and lose track of the main plot.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

I was single nearly 10 years before remarrying last year. What I saw/experienced were a variety of personalities, hearts. I prayed for the discernment to see the person that I wanted/needed, and to be a man worthy of that gift. .

Same here. Up until 2008, it was nearly 5-years for me as a single man.

I couldn't agree more with the rest of your post.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

That right there, IMO, is a main point of contention in most relationships issues that I hear about, and why it is so ridiculuously important to CHOOSE WELL. A solid relationship is not an if/then thing --> "if you do this, I'll do that."

You give (love) because that's what you do -- which is why frustration arrives when we hook up (longterm) with the wrong person. Hook up with someone that is not a "giver" in her own right, and guess what; you just got played, nephew.

That's why responsible dating shows so much. I was single nearly 10 years before remarrying last year. What I saw/experienced were a variety of personalities, hearts. I prayed for the discernment to see the person that I wanted/needed, and to be a man worthy of that gift. It ain't easy, but when you are "spiritually/emotionally prepared" (as best you can be, anyway) it can be a lot of fun.

The union of two "givers" is, indeed, a beautiful thing.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

That right there, IMO, is a main point of contention in most relationships issues that I hear about, and why it is so ridiculuously important to CHOOSE WELL. A solid relationship is not an if/then thing --> "if you do this, I'll do that."

You give (love) because that's what you do -- which is why frustration arrives when we hook up (longterm) with the wrong person. Hook up with someone that is not a "giver" in her own right, and guess what; you just got played, nephew.

That's why responsible dating shows so much. I was single nearly 10 years before remarrying last year. What I saw/experienced were a variety of personalities, hearts. I prayed for the discernment to see the person that I wanted/needed, and to be a man worthy of that gift. It ain't easy, but when you are "spiritually/emotionally prepared" (as best you can be, anyway) it can be a lot of fun.

The union of two "givers" is, indeed, a beautiful thing.

I don't disagree at all. But it is really hard to meet the right person. So far with the new girl everything is good, but the other side of me is saying that this is how most have started off. I couldn't be single for that long, nothing against doing that, but if it ever came down to that, I'd be too set in my ways to even want to start over again. That just isn't me.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You guys have got me curious about this movie. I guess we'll have to add it to the list of things to do this weekend. I hope I'm not disappointed.

ETA: Knowing me, I'm probably going to end up dissecting this movie, and lose track of the main plot.

I think you'll like it. It's not a bad movie. I actually think it's one of Perry's better movies.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I think you'll like it. It's not a bad movie. I actually think it's one of Perry's better movies.

It was ok.

[StealthMode]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Congrats. I hope it works out. You do have that awesome quality, so he must be good peoples.

[Mizeree I2K]

Originally Posted by XAntoftheSkyX

I have a crush on a co-worker, but I believe I haven't given her the right message. I've been friendly, cheerful, and someone to commiserate with, but I have not asked her out. I've gotten bad cases of performance anxiety, seeing as she is always surrounded by other people. If I had a moment with her without a constant 10+ crowd in the immediate area, I would be able to 'spit game' as it were.

I feel you. Do you know the same coworkers she knows? I was asking because when you see her in the group, I'd join in the conversation. Even if you aren't directly kickin it to her, you would still be in the conversation. Then y'all can kind of feel each other out. She probably already peeped you out, and probably wants to kick it to you like you do her. You'll never know unless you holler at her. You feel me?

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It was ok.

Dude was dumb as hayle, wasn't he? I know Brandi too good to not be able to see signs if she did some shit like that.

[Munchkin03]

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