Can one girl ruin a new sororities reputation?

[33girl]

No one said you had to stop posting on here. Just be aware that the internet is smaller than you think, and that your situation (a newly colonized sorority) is rather rare. Even if you had been discreet in your location, it's likely someone would have outed you (whether they said so on here or not).

ETA: I wouldn't automatically assume the woman who inspired this whole thread is "troubled" because she likes to drink and sleep around. Different strokes for different folks. If that's not something the sorority can stomach, ask her if she would consider changing her behavior, but don't feel pity for her if she doesn't.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by shirellestar

Technically, we were all just randomly thrown together.

Just to set the record straight - I have been involved in 3 colonizations and I can assure you that you were NOT "all just randomly thrown together."
Your alumnae went to extraordinary lengths to select women who are outstanding in every area and who can work together.
That said, sometimes surprises take place. But you owe it to yourself, your sisters, and your fraternity to make an effort to get to know each sister. If you suspect problems, talk to an adviser first.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

ETA: I wouldn't automatically assume the woman who inspired this whole thread is "troubled" because she likes to drink and sleep around. Different strokes for different folks. If that's not something the sorority can stomach, ask her if she would consider changing her behavior, but don't feel pity for her if she doesn't.

Thanks for this. Enough pearl-clutching and slut-shaming.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Just to set the record straight - I have been involved in 3 colonizations and I can assure you that you were NOT "all just randomly thrown together."
Your alumnae went to extraordinary lengths to select women who are outstanding in every area and who can work together.

I kind of understand what she means, even though the way she worded it seems to have really upset people. That is...the new colony members were chosen by people who aren't part of the campus community and don't KNOW this girl. The other colony members didn't choose her as someone they are like. Outsiders did. It's the same concept as "OMG, we don't like Hortense either, but we HAD to pledge her because her mom is a past national president."