Membership Review

[Dirtyeggroll]

my chapter is going to be participating in a membership review in the next couple of days and I am pretty nervous as I don't know what to expect and was wondering if anyone that has participated in a membership review that has passed the interview had any tips of how to act or what to say etc. I understand that different chapters are faced with reviews for different reasons. I guess during our review they are going to be considering whether we passed our drug test, made grades, and if we are up to date on our finanacial dues. Unfortunately for me I am not sure if i will pass my drug test its gonna be 50/50 and i will be on the fence between the pass/fail. I havent made grades either but i am really good about paying my dues on time. We are given an oppurtunity to plead our case and back ourselves up. Im just nervous as this is nationals and its a really big deal and Im not sure what to say or how to act. I personally believe honesty and sincerity go a long way and if one shows the willingness to change and turn shit around that they will appreciate that. So if anyone that has been through one of these has any tips that would be great because Im not ready to be kicked out. Thanks

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Dirtyeggroll

my chapter is going to be participating in a membership review in the next couple of days and I am pretty nervous as I don't know what to expect and was wondering if anyone that has participated in a membership review that has passed the interview had any tips of how to act or what to say etc. I understand that different chapters are faced with reviews for different reasons. I guess during our review they are going to be considering whether we passed our drug test, made grades, and if we are up to date on our finanacial dues. Unfortunately for me I am not sure if i will pass my drug test its gonna be 50/50 and i will be on the fence between the pass/fail. I havent made grades either but i am really good about paying my dues on time. We are given an oppurtunity to plead our case and back ourselves up. Im just nervous as this is nationals and its a really big deal and Im not sure what to say or how to act. I personally believe honesty and sincerity go a long way and if one shows the willingness to change and turn shit around that they will appreciate that. So if anyone that has been through one of these has any tips that would be great because Im not ready to be kicked out. Thanks

The bold should tell you that we can't give you "advice" on this. You just need to be honest.

[Old_Row]

So if you believe in honesty and sincerity, will you admit to drug use even if your test comes out clean?

[Dirtyeggroll]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

So if you believe in honesty and sincerity, will you admit to drug use even if your test comes out clean?

idk. thats a tough one. I feel like I should regardless

[ThetaPrincess24]

They are making you take a drug test? I've heard of everything you mentioned above for a membership review, but that is a new one for me.

I guess it wouldn't be too far out of the realm of possibility if they are trying to determine how wide spread the drug use/rumor is in the chapter.

[MaryPoppins]

DER, you already know the answer in you heart. You want us to tell you everything will be all right, but we can't do that because we are not your sisters. It will be your sisters, even if they are from HQ, who determine if you stay or go. Ask yourself if you have been true to the promises you made, that is how they will judge you.

[33girl]

I think this is a guy, not a girl.

If a fraternity was wasting my and other brothers' money on drug tests, whether I indulged or not, I'd be outta there.

[Kevin]

If you're questioning how you're going to come out on the drug test, you can pick one up at Walgreen's or CVS for about $18. That said, I disagree with the above. If your chapter has a drug problem and it's affecting your membership intake and reputation, the drug testing is a pretty reasonable response. Drugs are too much of a liability, and once you let them get out of control, they can destroy your chapter.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I think this is a guy, not a girl.

If a fraternity was wasting my and other brothers' money on drug tests, whether I indulged or not, I'd be outta there.

Cosign what Kevin said. Also drug use is against the 9 basic expectations, which I believe is something most NIC fraternities abide by.

[Kevin]

Yup. I'm betting most here are assuming the drug issue in the above chapter is marijuana. My experience is that some undergrads can handle it without it affecting their studies while other kids simply flunk out of school.

Also, we assume marijuana, but we could be talking about benzos, hydros, meth, etc. I actually had a young man as a witness in one of my cases about a year ago who was there to say he had smoked meth with the mother in the case (the opposing party). The kid was acting very odd and inappropriate. Turns out he was a member of one of the fraternities on the campus of the chapter I advise. Unsurprisingly, that chapter is and was performing in such a way that if they were a Sigma Nu chapter, they'd likely be shut down.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Unsurprisingly, that chapter is and was performing in such a way that if they were a Sigma Nu chapter, they'd likely be shut down.

Exactly. If they're all that tweaked, the chapter is probably a shitshow anyway. So why not just close it and be done with it, rather than tearing it apart with a membership review?

Because the chapter might be on a desirable campus and they know once they're off they'll never get back on?

Ah, thank you, alterof33girl! That answers the question.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Exactly. If they're all that tweaked, the chapter is probably a shitshow anyway. So why not just close it and be done with it, rather than tearing it apart with a membership review?

Because the chapter might be on a desirable campus and they know once they're off they'll never get back on?

Ah, thank you, alterof33girl! That answers the question.

That's exactly right. No one wants to lose a chapter on a valuable campus.

[Psi U MC Vito]

It might not be a chapter wide issue. We had some people using drugs in my chapter and the alumni did a membership review. It caused some issues for a couple of years, but now the chapter has definitely turned themselves around.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Exactly. If they're all that tweaked, the chapter is probably a shitshow anyway. So why not just close it and be done with it, rather than tearing it apart with a membership review?

Because the chapter might be on a desirable campus and they know once they're off they'll never get back on?

Ah, thank you, alterof33girl! That answers the question.

Not a valuable campus.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Not a valuable campus.

I assume you know the OP's chapter...then if that's the case, just shut it down.

IMO membership reviews do nothing but destroy friendships and tear apart chapters and leave the equivalent of this guy behind to rebuild them: