Want to start a sorority

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I was actually waiting for this one. Some people may have guessed based on my user name that I live in the Middle East (where we KNOW what war is). Our weekend is Friday and Saturday, so Thursday evening is the beginning of our weekend.

We know. That idiot does not know.

By the way, I'm in North America and my weekend is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. So, Thursday evening is the beginning of my weekend. My weekend used to be Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.

I wonder how many "normal people" around the world do not have (what other cultures consider) weekends at all.

Originally Posted by Gtender91

Their foundations a good, but it's not what it could be. I just want to help build greek life on my campus and give these girls a place where they feel safe. they're all leaving these organizations because they don't feel that family bond. I'm sorry you all don't agree, but I just wanted to try. All of your sororities were started from scratch, what's wrong with something like that happening now?

We don't care. This thread is now about telling you how young and dumb you are.

Find Greeks' advice, that you agree with 100%, somewhere other than Greekchat. And don't try to create a new username and ask for advice.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

Their foundations a good, but it's not what it could be. I just want to help build greek life on my campus and give these girls a place where they feel safe. they're all leaving these organizations because they don't feel that family bond. I'm sorry you all don't agree, but I just wanted to try. All of your sororities were started from scratch, what's wrong with something like that happening now?

You need to stop. Right now. You don't know the first damn thing about the foundations of ANY greek organizations.

You just made me curse in my letters.

[Mevara]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

Their foundations a good, but it's not what it could be. I just want to help build greek life on my campus and give these girls a place where they feel safe. they're all leaving these organizations because they don't feel that family bond. I'm sorry you all don't agree, but I just wanted to try. All of your sororities were started from scratch, what's wrong with something like that happening now?

How do you even know what our foundations are? your not greek!

[DubaiSis]

I think there's a problem here in that she doesn't realize there are a LOT of sororities that are not NPC and offer a very different kind of experience that she wouldn't be required to reinvent. Some of us, while new to GC, kind of thought the only Greek experience was our own. I, for instance, never really thought of locals, service fraternities, professional fraternities, etc. as REAL Greek enterprises. Using the service fraternities as an example, yeah, their little group does some good things, but it's not like it's lifetime membership or your brothers matter to you beyond college or anything.

Obviously I've learned a lot here and I think I can counsel potential members about considering a variety of alternatives beyond the 26 NPC sororities. I can't say this or that group is better, worse or should be avoided, but I CAN say there are some great alternatives out there that you may not have considered.

A casual reader may be very surprised to see the gender, race and age differences that flourish here and the variety of organizations represented. But hey, 50 different voices that all say the same thing but don't agree with you are probably all wrong.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Obviously I've learned a lot here and I think I can counsel potential members about considering a variety of alternatives beyond the 26 NPC sororities. I can't say this or that group is better, worse or should be avoided, but I CAN say there are some great alternatives out there that you may not have considered.

Are you only talking about locals, service fraternities, professional fraternities here?

Just in case you are not, when it comes to NPHC, I ask that nobody counsel people about considering NPHC organizations. We are not alternatives and we are not second options.

As far as the OP is concerned she doesn't need any counsel. She just needs to have a seat and learn some things before she tries to draw conclusions.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

My point is that our sororities are not about building bonds or friendships, it's all cat fights and who hates who on campus. I want to change this

Let me pull out my handy 'GC-to-English dictionary'...ah, yes, here it is:

"I didn't get a bid".

[DubaiSis]

DrPhil, I would never presume to tell someone what NPHC life is like, but if someone says all sororities suck because of x,y and z that makes it sound like she has only considered NPC sororities, I would probably say, have you looked at NPHC, mult-cultural, non-academic, service, whatever? There are a lot of ways to have that lifetime bond that are not NPC and in no way are a consolation prize and that's exactly what I was getting at. I can imagine the crucifixion if a girl had an unsuccessful NPC rush and I said, well have you considered AKA? YIKES. But that girl who says she went through NPC rush and just didn't feel it, well that may be a time for her to consider other avenues, including NPHC.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

I have a group of 15 girls that want to start a sorority, but don't know where to start. Just thought I could get a little help

Psst... scroll down to the bottom of this page. There's an area that lists threads that may be of interest.

And yes, we are here to help, but not spoon-feed. There are a TON of threads if you just search.

[Gtender91]

I'm sorry this thread had to turn into this, I didn't want to be spoon fed, I just wanted an idea of where to start. I'm not an idiot and I have gotten a bid to sororities, I just didn't like how the girls themselves treated everyone inside and outside of their sorority. I am now a pledge for the APO service fraturnity and those friendships will go beyond college, I've seen it happen. I just felt like I could use some help with getting the bylaws written. Thank you anyway, I just really wanted some help because I am young and it is going to be a new sorority. We have a name, a moto, a philanthropy. We know that's not even the majority of what we need, we just wanted some help with bylaws. I've looked through the other threads and I was having difficulty still on even seeing where to start.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

DrPhil, I would never presume to tell someone what NPHC life is like, but if someone says all sororities suck because of x,y and z that makes it sound like she has only considered NPC sororities...

Why do you assume that?

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

...I would probably say, have you looked at NPHC, mult-cultural, non-academic, service, whatever? But that girl who says she went through NPC rush and just didn't feel it, well that may be a time for her to consider other avenues, including NPHC.

Please don't, for the reasons I stated. People don't need to be directed to us.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

I'm not an idiot and I have gotten a bid to sororities, I just didn't like how the girls themselves treated everyone inside and outside of their sorority. I am now a pledge for the APO service fraturnity and those friendships will go beyond college, I've seen it happen. I just felt like I could use some help with getting the bylaws written. Thank you anyway, I just really wanted some help because I am young and it is going to be a new sorority. We have a name, a moto, a philanthropy. We know that's not even the majority of what we need, we just wanted some help with bylaws. I've looked through the other threads and I was having difficulty still on even seeing where to start.

LOL.

[Gtender91]

Why do you keep commenting on this feed if you're not willing to help?

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

I'm not an idiot and I have gotten a bid to sororities, I just didn't like how the girls themselves treated everyone inside and outside of their sorority. I am now a pledge for the APO service fraturnity and those friendships will go beyond college, I've seen it happen. I just felt like I could use some help with getting the bylaws written. Thank you anyway, I just really wanted some help because I am young and it is going to be a new sorority. We have a name, a moto, a philanthropy. We know that's not even the majority of what we need, we just wanted some help with bylaws. I've looked through the other threads and I was having difficulty still on even seeing where to start.

1. You got A bid to sororities? How does that work? Seriously, a woman can only get one bid from one sorority at a time. How many times have you been through recruitment?

2. If your only experience is recruitment, how do you know how the sorority women treat one another?

3. Fraternity, not fraturnity. If you're in one, you need to know how to spell it.

4. You don't believe sisterhood extends past college? This is news to me. Are there sisters that I haven't heard from in years? Yes. Are there sisters that are my dearest friends? Yes. Same as in any other group that I've been a part of in my life.

5. Motto, not moto

All that being said, focus on pledging your fraternity. Learn how that works before you start to try to build something new. You really have a lot to learn. I'd also suggest getting to know some sorority women on your campus on a personal basis.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Gtender91

Why do you keep commenting on this feed if you're not willing to help?

Isn't that sweet? She thinks it's her thread.

[knight_shadow]

I would think that, being involved with a GLO, the OP would have access to a constitution and bylaws.

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