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06-26-2007, 10:04 AM
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Dropping letters, engagement, ect.
Hey guys (and girls!) I have found the love of my life, and I would like to learn what the steps are twards engagement as far as dropping letters, candle lights, ect. We've been dating since first semester of freshman year, and we're starting our junior year. What are the first steps? I'm just completely clueless about what to do, and not too many of my brothers care about this stuff too much, so I really need to know my shit so I can get them behind me.
Thanks so much!
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06-26-2007, 10:11 AM
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1. Lavaliere
2. Pin
3. Engagement Ring
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06-26-2007, 10:13 AM
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Congratulations!!! A good way to move ahead with your plan is to ask questions on here, but why not email HQ to see what they think? I'm sure they would be very happy to help you. There are so many different ways to do this, that it would be almost impossible to say, unless it's only done one way by your GLO. Good luck!!!
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06-26-2007, 10:16 AM
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HQ would tell you that it varies from chapter to chapter.
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06-26-2007, 10:17 AM
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HQ would tell you that it varies from chapter to chapter.
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But I'm sure they could throw out some hints, no?
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06-26-2007, 10:27 AM
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Thanks for the help guys, what are some of the traditions that yall do at your chapters?
I'm also a little fuzzy on what is actually involved in dropping the pin? Do I not get to wear it again?
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06-26-2007, 10:29 AM
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It really just depends on you and what you want to do.
At some campuses, lavalieres are presented (a letter drop with your letters) as a way to show committment.
At others, you present her with your fraternity pin. Some organizations also have a "sweetheart pin" you can give to her.
And at still others, one may first "lavaliere" the lady, and then at a later date, present her with his pin/sweetheart pin.
If she is in a sorority, you may want to organize a serenade with your brothers and present it to her. Or give it to her on a romantic date.
You can bypass all of these things, of course, and propose to her or give her a promise ring, depending on "where you are" in the relationship. It just depends on what you feel comfortable with.
If you'd like to be married by the end of your senior year, most brides like about 1 year to plan the wedding, so if that is what you have in mind, plan accordingly if you'd like to propose to her.
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06-26-2007, 10:35 AM
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Thanks for the help guys, what are some of the traditions that yall do at your chapters?
I'm also a little fuzzy on what is actually involved in dropping the pin? Do I not get to wear it again?
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Let's be clear on "pinning." They make little tokens.. either fake gold, gold plated or solid gold sets of letters that can be attached to a chain. That's okay.
What's not okay is to let her wear your badge (unless you get engaged). Girlfriends do not get to wear the badge. Fiancees, mothers and sisters do.
I've been in on a lot of "droppings." My favorite was where basically the whole chapter rolled out to Bricktown (an entertainment area in OKC with a riverwalk, numerous clubs, etc.) I brought my fiddle... The member we did it for arranged that he and his gf would be walking one way down the sidewalk, us the other. We ran into them, and serenaded 'em with Green Day's "Time of Your Life." I think one guy had a guitar.. I did the violin part. Anyway.. she enjoyed that.
As I said though, it varies from place to place. If you're part of the recolonization effort at Arkansas, you can either talk to some alums and find out what they did and do that so long as it's legal.. Or you can just make up your own thing.
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06-26-2007, 10:55 AM
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Thanks, Kevin. I'd pretty much say that we are recolonized here in Arkansas. Got a brand new house that will be finished this fall right across from the student entrance to the stadium. She's a beaut. You'll have to swing by and visit sometime.
I gave her a promise ring for christmas last year, and I think that I'll be setting up some sort of singing for her and give her the lavaliere this fall. Just to make sure that I am clear on the language here, "dropping your letters" is the necklace that I give her with my letters (SN) on it, correct?
FYI, she is also greek, a beautiful ADPi from Texas. Still haven't figured out how she ended up here at Arkansas and in love with me, but I'm not complaining!!!
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06-26-2007, 11:16 AM
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The lavaliere thing is pretty standard fare. In fact, there's a good chance her sisters will have some sort of ritual set up for her back at their place.
Congratulations on your re-charter, btw. We've been watching the construction of y'alls' new place. Very, very nice. You must have some amazing alumni support.
At any rate, we were sort of in your boat regarding tradition at one point. When you get to these things, you can ask around or just make it up as you go along. That's one of the fun things about being a new group -- the stupid stuff I did at certain times without giving it much thought is now tradition. Give some thought to that -- if you want to go above and beyond, maybe you can do something that'll last.
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06-26-2007, 11:18 AM
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FYI, she is also greek, a beautiful ADPi from Texas. Still haven't figured out how she ended up here at Arkansas and in love with me, but I'm not complaining!!!
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Since she's greek, ask one of her sisters what they do for that sort of thing. At my chapter, We have a candle pass with the guy there for a pinning (we've never had a lavaliere-ing hat i know of).
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06-26-2007, 12:50 PM
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There's a sweetheart pin you can order from Sigma Nu. Check out your national web site. It's basically your same badge, but in miniature.
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06-26-2007, 01:21 PM
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Since she's greek, ask one of her sisters what they do for that sort of thing. At my chapter, We have a candle pass with the guy there for a pinning (we've never had a lavaliere-ing hat i know of).
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From what I've picked up, their candlelights are held downstairs in the basement, and it't off limits to non-memebers. I'll definitly ask her president tho, and see. I think that all the guys coming over to their house and singing would do the trick.
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06-26-2007, 01:32 PM
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From what I've picked up, their candlelights are held downstairs in the basement, and it't off limits to non-memebers. I'll definitly ask her president tho, and see. I think that all the guys coming over to their house and singing would do the trick.
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They could have a surprise candlelight with you waiting to ask her! That would be truly unique!!! See if you can time it so that when someone blows the candle out for her, you are waiting there to ask her.
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06-26-2007, 02:38 PM
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They could have a surprise candlelight with you waiting to ask her! That would be truly unique!!! See if you can time it so that when someone blows the candle out for her, you are waiting there to ask her.
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Very cool-- just remember that different chapters and different sororities do candle lights in their own way. Our UCLA and UCF chapters of ADPi have completely different ways of holding a candlelighting ceremony to commemorate a pinning/lavaliering/engagement.
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